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[pizzamafiaart]

*laugh track plays, and the title card “everybody loves frank!” appears*

[luffyblack]

LOL! 

[luffyblack]

Hello

It’s been ages since I have last been on here. I’m happy to see that the usual people are still kicking ass. <3 

[realsocialskills]

A post for men about creepy men

I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly

He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out

But he doesn’t do that to guys, and

He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and

When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable

And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space

and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness

And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy

So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills

And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women

And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.

Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.

Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 

Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness

Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong

Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t

Listen to them about what they tell you

If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.

If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men

Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable

If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose

Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

[buynoir-blog]

Life is not a white privilege www.buynoir.net

[theayshabee]

The New Age Womb Worshipping Pseudo Spiritual “Law Of Attraction” Gurus

There is this trend on social media of people who claim to have “knowledge of self” …and in the more extreme cases, the women say they have “knowledge of their womb” …whatever the hell that means. 😳 Now their favorite and most common tactic is to use their “enlightened” status to victim blame women under the guise of “self accountability”. Their “law of attraction” fallacy is nothing more than a remixed version of victim blaming and rape culture rhetoric. You can expect them to say anything along the lines of, “Stop whining about men. If you experienced an abusive man, it’s because you matched his energy. It is because you attracted him to you because you didn’t love yourself. Hold yourself accountable.”

Now let me tell you exactly why you have myself and tons of other women completely fucked up.

There are men out here raping baby girls before they can walk. Did that baby attract that? Was her energy calling him?

There are women minding their own damn business but being harassed by men on the street. Did her energy attract that?

There are women in physically/sexually abusive relationships that they have difficulty escaping because of the threat involved. See, that’s MY story. That’s where you got ME fucked up. I was in a sexually and verbally abusive relationship with a man when I was 19 years old. And before you ask me if I “saw the signs”, you’re damn right I saw the signs. I saw the signs when he stuck his fingers in me after I told him not to. I saw the signs when he climbed on top of my chest forcing me to give him oral when I told him I wanted to sleep. And I saw the signs when I tried to leave him and he threatened to shoot me in my head.

So STOP acting like it’s so easy to avoid these situations. Stop acting like we choose them or like our energy attracts abuse.

There ain’t a damn thing wrong with our energy except the fact that we have to deal with fake ass gurus on the Internet who teach that women must be accountable for both what we do AND what men do.

I do love myself and THAT is why I refuse to let you make me responsible for my own abuse. I refuse to let you make me responsible for the toxic relationships I was apart of or the violent situations I experienced. I don’t give a damn what self appointed title you give yourself. Queen Mother, Goddess of Earth, Yoni Whisperer …damnit I don’t give a fuck! You will NOT torture women with your passive aggressive, fake deep, rhetoric. I don’t care how many beautiful words you use. You and your wanna-be poetic speech can miss me with that!

Now you can take that “Blame yourself” garbage some place else.

[caballerochocobo-deactivated202]

I propose the name DjMLG for the Lucio x D.Va ship. Mostly because I’m like 100% these two would let the other guest star in their show/gaming livestream.

[astxri]

“Oh let’s break it down!!!”

[think-progress]

Members of Congress are living off food stamps for a week to protest Republican cuts. It’s a challenge for them, but GOP cuts would hurt millions of everyday Americans. 

[wagrobanite]

Why does this not have more publicity. This needs it!

[apolymathpainintheass]

I want a reality tv show where politicians have to live in poverty for a month. They have to live in Government housing, shop with food stamps, and get only a limited amount of money for clothes. Because here, they still have all their trappings, lilke nice cars and thousand dollar suits. I want them in Walmart jeans trying to determine if they can afford a carton of milk. 

[fuck-me-barnes]

Give them a full calendar year. I want to see them confident in January, and sometime around June choking back tears at the Safeway because they are tired, so tired, of eating 25 cent cup noodles, eyeing other peoples’ full grocery carts with a dull bewilderment. Let me see them despair because they have a persistent nagging cough that won’t go away and might be turning into pneumonia but the minute clinic is $60, which might as well be as six million dollars, either way they ain’t got it to spare - and that doesn’t count the cost of prescriptions. Let me hear them tell people about the muscle cramps they get at night due to eating non-nutritious garbage for months, the weakness from persistent hunger.  Let them know the shame and frustration of only owning one pair of cheap polyester pants for work and one pair of thrift-store jeans, and both persistently have ripped crotches and seams coming undone, no matter how many times they get sewn back up. Let the women know the particular sort of despair that comes once a month when you can’t afford even the cheapest pads or tampons. Let them understand the frustration of being charged a $35 fee for a $2 overdraft. Let them watch as the bank holds charges from different days in “pending” till they all come through on the same day, and the bank charges them four times for a single overdraft because “the charges all cleared at the same time”.  I want them to know the particular pain of having to decide between food for the week, or transportation costs to and from work. You can’t have both. Choose wisely. You do not truly understand poverty until you’ve lived it and a month isn’t enough to encompass it. Not even close.

[amey-winehouse]

^^^

[nabyss]

Important..

[iammyfather]

Yea, always get pissed about these “I spent a week on food stamps” stories.  They have no way to understand when they have even just salt, pepper, and sugar in  the cabinet.  When they don’t have to decide on a meal or underpants, etc.

[intellectuallydetained-deactiva]

Yeah Frank,..I grew up exactly like that. I remember my mother tending a garden about half the size of a football field while working as a short order cook full time and taking in washing and ironing. I remember being at the local Dollar store with her when she agonized between paying the phone bill or buying me new socks for school. I remember popcorn for dinner. I remember ketchup on a slice of bread. I also remember other things she was forced to do she’d never want told. I support fully a universal base wage,..I support fully a livable minimum wage along with free healthcare and education. I don’t really mind if I need to pay a bit more in taxes to help that happen. I’d rather see the money come from military spending and-or support of private prisons.

[iammyfather]

“ The fee to cover the average cost of incarceration for Federal inmates in Fiscal Year 2013 was $29,291.25 ($80.25 per day). (Please note: There were 365 days in FY 2013.) The average annual cost to confine an inmate in a Residential Re-entry Center for Fiscal Year 2013 was $26,612.15 ($72.91 per day).”

Now I’ve never been in jail, but I also am living on $16,848 a year.  Now explain why we can’t afford a Guaranteed Minimum Income?

https://www.federalregister.gov/articles/2014/05/12/2014-10859/annual-determination-of-average-cost-of-incarceration

[intellectuallydetained-deactiva]

Am aware of certain numbers related to this. Am also aware that private prisons farm out labor at minimum wage per head per day and inmate pay is less than slave wage. This also takes jobs from the population who are forced to resort to assistance they’d rather not have in most cases. I suppose the true insult to you is being told an inmate has more cash value than someone who never spent time  in jail. That is just plain wrong on so many levels. As i see it, you actually are incarcerated to the dollar figure as described,..along with millions of others.

[allthingsasexual]

Reblog if you think it's important to learn about asexuality in sex education

[twofifthsofmaria]

K

[thesunshore]

reblog if u want a female black gay muslim link

[dellbelle39]

do it for her

[espanolbot-deactivated20170903]

Some bits from the Ghost in the Shell: Arise: Ghost is Alive stage play. If folks wanted to see a version of the Major who isn’t ScarJo.

[hxmoerotic]

like there are neo-nazis and people who worship serial killers and mass murderers on this site yet y’all will insist that marginalized people using this site as a place to vent is “the worst thing about Tumblr”

[truffledmadness]

Be wary of anyone who talks about “the real world.” Your world is real. Your experiences are real. And the phrase “the real world” tends to be bandied about by people who want you to imagine that everyone is as cruel as them, you’re just too sheltered to know it.

No matter how many adult responsibilities you have, it is not impossible to find compassionate people.

[chrissongzzz]

Me finding you attractive is one thing. Me being excited to hear from you and always wanting you around is another...

[sangatsunolion-deactivated20171]

[wafflemansbizarreadventure]

It’s finally Friday.

[mizulyn]

first selfie with a smart phone 

yay no more standing in front of a mirrior with my dad’s digital camera from 2009!!