I encourage everyone to read this, especially if you are white. I made this post long enough to talk about the points in decent detail, but short enough to be digestible. It is about the different ways the nonhuman communities make people of color feel unwelcome and why.
My askbox is open usually all the time, so I'm also open to answering questions about this. I want people to read. I want people to ask questions when they don't understand. I even want people to do research on their own time to learn more (and I mean actually researching and not asking ChatGPT to think for you).
Where To Begin
"Wow, this is a really long post on the police dog discourse", except this isn't a post on the police dog discourse. That topic is more of a springboard for me to segue into where exactly things go wrong and how it causes people of color to feel unsafe participating in the communities (which can suck, because nonhumanity can be very isolating with no one to talk to about it!). So if you feel as if this has been done to death and are thinking "oh boy, this again", I encourage you to continue to read the post all the way to the end. With that, this leads us to...
The Dilution of Topics
It's important to understand that when something like this comes up, POC are chiming in to explain the situation and how it affects them. It is not the time to bring in unrelated things in an attempt to use that as credentials for weighing in. I'll use the K-9/police dog example again because it's honestly such a good discourse to dissect for this. The main focus of the conversation was between black and brown people (not exclusively, because other POC included, but mainly) and those who identify as police/military dogs (therians, otherkin, whathaveyou). Not anyone else.
"As someone with a problematic (or villain) kintype--"
This isn't about you.
"I'm police or military creature from another world--"
This isn't about you.
"I acknowledge it but don't glorify it--"
This isn't about you.
What these comments do is not only watering down what our actual concerns are, but it speeds up the "internet telephone" until the conversation morphs into something different entirely. This happens all the time when people of color try to bring to light something that bothers us. Everyone wants to make it about themselves but it's not about everyone. The topic of "Glorification of these institutions that actively harm isn't good" is not the same as "What kintypes/theriotypes/etc. should people be allowed to have?", but it was turned into that very quickly because way too many people failed to realize and understand what isn't about them. Many, with a quickness, found a way to victimize themselves.
All that is without even getting into people adding exclusions that were not originally there. "This discourse is US-centric and doesn't apply to other countries" is not only incorrect but you need to educate yourself on how police brutality (and police brutality that utilizes attack animals) exists outside of the United States. This isn't even just for the dog thing. This also extends to racism in general because people love to talk about how not racist their country is (when in fact it often is).
White Privilege and Nonhuman Superiority
This section is probably going to ruffle some feathers, but if it does ruffle your feathers then it might be time to start deconstructing why exactly that is. White privilege in particular is important to point out here because it is common to assume that privilege is a "balance scale". Privilege doesn't cancel out from marginalization. You can be queer, or disabled, or neurodivergent, etc. and still benefit from white privilege. I point all of that out because the nonhuman communities have a large portion that are in one or many of these marginalized groups, and the assumption that it "cancels out" white privilege may be part of the driving force behind what's covered in this post.
An easy starting example of white people underestimating exactly how deep things can go is the entire gatekeeping discourse about defining therianthropy as "wears gear and does quadrobics". How this whole thing started with people insisting therianthropy required these performative aspects, I'm not even gonna pretend to know. What I do know is that it is a form of gatekeeping popular on photo and video-based social media websites like Instagram and TikTok that then subsequently bleeds over into other places like Tumblr and Discord group chats.
"Real therians wear gear and run around outside on all fours" makes me desperately hope for young POC to be careful. Black people especially have a disproportionately higher chance of being arrested or shot. I never want anyone to be pressured to do dangerous things from these imaginary guidelines on what makes nonhumanity "valid". It's exclusionary from both a "therianthropy doesn't require any of this" standpoint and a "you are overestimating how safe this activity is to do" standpoint. This isn't fearmongering, I'm not saying that this is never safe. I'm saying that those who are unable to safely do it may subsequently feel like that disqualifies them from identifying as a therian. Similar things can be said for other minorities other than racial ones, but that's a different topic (and I encourage anyone wanting to talk about that to make their own posts about it, rather than using this one).
The insistence that nonhumanity should have "racial colorblindness" and "be above politics/apolitical" are also very privileged takes. Identifying as nonhuman doesn't erase the fact that most of us still live in and are affected by human society (whether some want to be or not) and people of color especially do not have the freedom to completely divorce ourselves from the world because our very existence has been made political. Not only that, but culture is still important to a lot of people as well. We are not all the same just because we identify as nonhuman. We are not a monoculture. We are different and there needs to be room to celebrate that.
The aspect of "everything is for everyone" that often comes with white privilege appears in even blatant ways. I've witnessed people in the community saying that closed cultures are silly. Although slightly less common today (and by slightly I mean very slightly), at one point it was common for people to constantly appropriate North/South American indigenous cultures because their understanding of it was as shallow and stereotypical as "Pocahontas Colors of the Wind". I've even had someone say "well it's not our fault black people are so trendy" directly in a conversation about how black people regularly have our culture taken from us when we're barely even allowed to have it ourselves without being looked down on. It's gross and insensitive, and the very reason so many people of color leave these nonhuman communities. "Do whatever you want forever" exists within reason.
Identifying as nonhuman isn't an excuse to look down on humans either, especially in the misanthropic sense. Being anti-human and blaming humanity as a whole for the results of colonization (species extinction, habitat loss, climate change, etc.) goes against the marginalized people that have been harmed historically and currently and lumps them into the same category as their oppressors simply by existing.
It is Always That Deep
The last point that I'll use to close this whole post is that I can't stress enough how often us POC are told again and again and again that what we are seeing is either not real or irrational, or "just drama".
I remember the reaction to "maybe don't say you're an entity from a closed culture if you're not from that culture".
I remember the reaction to "don't use monkey/ape as a derogatory term for humans".
I remember the reaction to "don't glorify institutions that actively harm and kill us".
I remember the reaction to "please don't say dehumanization is good actually".
People will fight tooth and nail to speak over and ignore POC voices almost as a knee-jerk reaction. Then maybe if we're lucky, after they're done arguing, they'll do some research and come back later with an "oops my bad". I'm glad they learn in those cases, but that's not acceptable. Listening first is important, ask questions (respectfully) if you have to, but it should not be a fight-or-flight situation.
Stop listening to the AI yesman that doesn't have the capacity to understand what it even says to you and uses only pattern-seeking with no judgement (and no guarantee that the patterns we sent it to look for are the only ones it finds) . Do this instead. At least then if whoever you build/bring into your own head tells you to do fucked up shit by accident, you can fix that, because they're less of a black box than LLMs are.
enagging with tsbs tumblr was a mistake after all, i'm done
i'm reblogging art but i'm not addressing anything else
i'm creepy for trying to solve things privately, i'm defensive and rude for trying to give more information about merch when I am literally the only person who can give answers to that, i'm rude and unprofessional for trying to address fandom issues and engaging with criticism
That was made mid-panic attack, I'm going to add to it with my brain working. ESSAY TIME SORRY.
I saw negative posts about me in the TSBS community on Tumblr, and it had a lot of comments and likes and reblogs. That's okay. People can have personal posts. It's just disappointing to see so many people agreeing that I'm creepy or rude for my behavior, but mostly because I'm disappointed in myself.
I apologize. I forget that I now am seen as someone with the company, a moderator, and not just another fan. I can't just go in DMs and ask for feedback, that's not the level we're at at this point. So I do apologize for that - just didn't feel that blocking criticism and moving on would do merch efforts any good either, you know? I was hoping to go for a more personal communication about merch than a public post on the youtube, because we're able to be that casual in the Discord, but now I see that does more harm than good on Tumblr. Noted. Won't engage anymore on that level and I've blocked a lot of folks who were uncomfortable with me who'll likely not see this anyway.
I also acknowledge that I've been seen in a lot of spots trying to address criticism for the Shows and company and VAs, and people feel targeted. I'm sorry that you feel targeted - I have it in my head that as someone with knowledge about some things others may not consider (especially with merch), I want to get everybody as informed as possible so they can have an informed opinion. I'm not trying to stop any criticism; just trying to address it and make sure it's INFORMED criticism. (Except when it's clearly meant to be meanspirited.) But I see how it's being perceived and I will not engage. I'll block and move on as it's been suggested.
And a THIRD THING... I know! My typing style tends to come off as rude and condescending and defensive! I really do not mean to do that; when I want to be clearly understood, or when I'm uncomfortable, I default to typing like this. You may have seen me in the TSBS Discord, when I'm chilling out in the threads or goofing with people I'm comfy with, I don't type like this. But my intentions don't mean anything if it's being repeatedly taken the wrong way, then that's on me, so I'll do my best to double check my tone when I post. Or even add tone tags, if that'll help, but I'm an old fart and it's hard to form habits, and basically every time I'll have to go /gen /nm but, eh. I have been typing like this since playing Roblox in fourth grade, hard to not, but I'll work on it.
So yes, I'm stepping back from engaging with people on Tumblr for TSBS stuff (minus the EAPS 2.0 project I still gotta grab people for) outside of positive interactions, but it's for my own mental health AND so it seems, the comfort of others. No negative intentions were meant, but that's how it was taken, so all I can do is address it and do better.
Thanks if you read all that, and thanks for spreading if you can. I don't mind.
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