In the Sky with Citlali

"“Nothing is worth more than laughter. It is strength to laugh and to abandon oneself, to be light. Tragedy is the most ridiculous thing.” ― Frida Kahlo

[bajo-el-mar-blog]

Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.

[imnotreallyherecheckagainlater]

what book is this?

[tehbewilderness]

This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.

[chemicalheart-deactivated202009]

I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS. The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD. He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.

[queen-mayhem]

Here’s a link to a pdf copy. If you haven’t read this book yet, read this book.

[appropriately-inappropriate]

Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?

That is how we stop abuse.

We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.

[bhuttu]

Arm yrself with knowledge!

[birkenth0t]

Changed my life, would reccomend.

[fuckyeahsexpositivity]

Reblogging for the PDF link.

—BB

[egodram]

Always reblogging because this isn’t just a partner abuse thing, this is a common abuse tactic PERIOD: Parents, siblings, bosses, general assholes, etc…

[tinierspacecharm]

http://www.pdf-archive.com/2014/07/20/why-does-he-do-that/why-does-he-do-that.pdf

new link (the old one is broken)

[hansbekhart]

Pretty sure I’ve reblogged this like eight times, don’t care.

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If you aren’t sure what constitutes this damaging behavior, here are 30 signs of emotional abuse.

1. They humiliate you, put you down, or make fun of you in front of other people.

2. They regularly demean or disregard your opinions, ideas, suggestions, or needs.

3. They use sarcasm or “teasing” to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself.

4. They accuse you of being “too sensitive” in order to deflect their abusive remarks.

5. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

6. They correct or chastise you for your behavior.

7. You feel like you need permission to make decisions or go out somewhere.

8. They try to control the finances and how you spend money.

9. They belittle and trivialize you, your accomplishments, or your hopes and dreams.

10. They try to make you feel as though they are always right, and you are wrong.

11. They give you disapproving or contemptuous looks or body language.

12. They regularly point out your flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings.

13. They accuse or blame you of things you know aren’t true.

14. They have an inability to laugh at themselves and can’t tolerate others laughing at them.

15. They are intolerant of any seeming lack of respect.

16. They make excuses for their behavior, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing.

17. The repeatedly cross your boundaries and ignore your requests.

18. They blame you for their problems, life difficulties, or unhappiness.

19. They call you names, give you unpleasant labels, or make cutting remarks under their breath.

20. They are emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable most of the time.

21. They resort to pouting or withdrawal to get attention or attain what they want.

22. They don’t show you empathy or compassion.

23. They play the victim and try to deflect blame to you rather than taking personal responsibility.

24. They disengage or use neglect or abandonment to punish or frighten you.

25. They don’t seem to notice or care about your feelings.

26. They view you as an extension of themselves rather than as an individual.

27. They withhold sex as a way to manipulate and control.

28. They share personal information about you with others.

29. They invalidate or deny their emotionally abusive behavior when confronted.

30. They make subtle threats or negative remarks with the intent to frighten or control you.

[camillelenore]

[anddsoitis]

Never assume that quiet is weak and loud is strong.

(via anddsoitis)

[8-bitrust]

[mediamattersforamerica]

Thank you, Janet Mock. This is what we need to be seeing. Right now, aside from Mock’s segments, violence against trans women of color doesn’t exist on cable news. And that’s simply unacceptable.

[magalianelefriend]

I'm lazy. Is there a remedy for that? No, ok ill keep being a lazy in bed.

[horreurscopes]

I WANT TO BE HAPPY ABOUT THE SELENA MAC MAKE-UP LINE BECAUSE A MEXICAN IDOL IS STILL BEING REMEMBERED 20 YEARS AFTER DEATH  BUT I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT THE POST-MORTEM CAPITALIZING AT THE EXPENSES OF THE LEGACY OF A  WOMAN OF COLOR FOR THE GAIN OF AN AMERICAN CORPORATION AND HOW EXPLOITATIVE THAT IS BC I CAN’T HAVE NICE THINGS AND I HATE JOY 

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major corporations consider the “latina” shopper a hugely untapped market and for the past decade has poured more advertising dollars to gain control of such collective buying power. Whether or not Selena’s fam/fans reached out to MAC first or even worse if it was the other way around, it is safe to say that this is a marketing strategy to reel in the latina consumer and not about this “honoring her legacy” spin they keep using to ante up the hype. I wonder if MAC wouldve cared to do a collection 20 years ago when she was alive and  when corporations weren’t scrambling for latinx disposable income like prospectors during the california gold rush.

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Estée Lauder which is MAC is also on the BDS list so they are using a woman of colors legacy to fund Israel’s occupation and ongoing genocide of Palestine 

[profeminist]

#IllGoWithYou: An Ally Project

How to Act as an #IllGoWithYou Buddy

Get your button(s) here

What an amazing project! 

[mossdftba]

How to be an ally.

[ghdos-blog]

Yo, this is fucking awesome.

[typewriterdaily]

This is so badass

[generalbriefing-blog]

http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2015/07/how-one-law-banning-ethnic-studies-led-to-rise/398885/

[magalianelefriend]

New camera for my collection. Now all I need is to find a good place to develop the film.

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“ People ask ’ So, how are the roles now? You must be getting so many.’ And it’s like, I don’t know if you know, but I’m Asian still. It’s not a complaint, that’s just how it is now, and I have to forge my own path through it and see that through. I think that if I had not been Asian, I probably would have a whole plethora of roles, at least to audition for, but it’s just not what has been written.” - Steven Yeun  When all else fails, gotta roll up your sleeves and do it, to it.

Source: http://www.projectcasting.com/news/walking-dead-actor-struggling-to-find-other-roles/

[unbear]

important

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what's wrong with american sniper?

It literally glorifies a man who enjoys killing muslims. Chris Kyle, which American Sniper is about, has written in his autobiography “Savage, despicable evil. That’s what we were fighting in Iraq…. I only wish I had killed more. I loved what I did … It was fun. I had the time of my life.” He’s also written “I hate the damn savages. I couldn’t give a flying f**k about the Iraqis."  He killed men, women, and children and loved it. Does that sound like a “hero” to you??

its gives literally so much false information about what’s really going on. It perpetuates islamophobia. the movie has literally made people send death threats to muslims (x) (x) (x) (x).

(x)

If you’re reading this and you’re about to send me a message about how ignorant i am and that chris kyle was a national hero and i should have more respect don’t bother bc i don’t respond to racist people

[fuckyeahmarxismleninism]

Meet the ‘Radical Brownies’ — Girl Scouts for the modern age

By Jorge Rivas

Not all girl scouts are concerned with peddling shortbread cookies. There’s one troop of young girls in Oakland who discuss matters of racial inequality and wear brown berets in homage of radical civil rights groups.

The girls, ages 8-to-12, are part of the “Radical Brownies,” an edgier, younger version of the Girl Scouts where girls earn badges for completing workshops on social protests, and a beauty workshop that celebrate racial diversity.

Radical Brownies is dedicated to providing young girls of color relevant life experiences, explains the group’s co-founder Anayvette Martinez.

Martinez, a community organizer, created the Radical Brownies with Marilyn Hollinquest because “there aren’t enough spaces [for young girls of color] in our society.” The Radical Brownies of Oakland launched last month and already includes 12 girls. All the members are girls of color or mixed-race. The Radical Brownies are not affiliated with the Girl Scouts of the USA.

The founders say once the program expands to multiple chapters the organization will be open to everybody, but the program will always remain focused on young girls of color.

In the Radical Brownies, girls learn about social justice movements such the Black Panthers and the Chicano group Brown Berets. They wear their brown berets in homage to those two groups. But they also study how Disney princesses define girls’ image of beauty, and how that can affect self-image.

The Radical Brownies have their own badge system, including one for “Radical Beauty” and an “LGBT ally” badge. The girls also earned a “Black Lives Matter” badge after learning about police accountability and attending a civil rights march in Oakland.

“I think it’s never too early to have these conversations with young people,” Martinez told Fusion.

“Children are more aware than we think; it’s important to not shelter children from real issues that we’re living,” she said. “It’s especially important for young girls of color to feel empowered.”

The troop is ready to attend more protest and will soon launch a fundraising campaign on their Facebook page to raise money for a banner and a megaphone.

[thisisfusion]

Meet the Radical Brownies, the younger, edgier girl scouts who earn badges for promoting social justice. 

Image courtesy of the Radical Brownies.

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FUCK YES. 

OH YES. 

ALL OF THE YES. 

[stunningpicture]

So proud of my mother for doing her own research after I sent her that meme. A sign she hung in her car window.

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Stay woke

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Is this true?

[mallninjacode-deactivated201812]

Not only is it true, it gets worse. The Susan G Komen For The Cure Foundation has actually successfully sued “competing” charities, because (paraphrasing) their “message or branding was infringing.”

You read that correctly: they took money that people had donated to cure cancer, and hired attorneys with it, to sue ANOTHER group of people trying to find a cure for cancer, who, in turn, had to us their donated money to hire their own legal counsel to defend themselves.

[redbloodedamerica]

[spacemohawks]

Yeah signal boost because not enough people know about this and seriously FUCK SUSAN G. KOMEN THEY ARE THE ACTUAL WORST

[beanmom]

Some links…

http://thinkbeforeyoupink.org/

http://www.somethingawful.com/feature-articles/for-the-cure/

http://thestir.cafemom.com/in_the_news/132728/susan_g_komen_foundation_has

(reblogged in honor of my mother, who died of breast cancer, 11/13/97)

[magalianelefriend]

I'm teaching for the first time ever on Wednesday and I'm excited/petrified. Here's to making the best of 2015 and embarking on new adventures. Wish me luck!