The Indian Social
I can see my mum sulking at me. And I am wondering about the reason, “What could it be, maybe I danced less at pinki maasi’s sangeet, maybe I didn’t talked enough with my new neighbor’s geek son, maybe I was too harsh with my dad’s cheeky colleagues”. And then she yells, “Why didn’t u turned up for cookie bua’s baby shower? Everyone was asking about you. It was so embarrassing! Do you know Krish was present (my ex-schoolmate who was an “allrounder” as they say and now an IITian), that boy is just so respectful. Don’t know when are you gonna be like him. Don’t know how you adjust with your friends”. Then comes dad to complement her, “You need to be social. You can’t go alone in this world. It doesn’t work that way”. What could I have said, but it really kept me thinking. Was I really wrong somewhere? Is it really difficult to survive without whole lot of scumbags? Do I need to please them? Is that what being social means? I know most of you must have come across a situation like this. So here are the things I have learned.
Is it difficult to survive without people around you? Ofcourse not! All you need to survive is O2, water, food and internet. Nobody is a source of life to you except your family and loved ones. The people are like extra baggage to carry, so chuck that baggage off. They will always be envious of your possessions and happiness. I know I am sounding kind of pessimistic but all I want is to shatter all your misconceptions.Â
Do I need to please them? I believe your life is not that cheap what you will don that fake smile just to impress an affluent person. I tell you nobody cares, what have I got after years of pleasing Ranji aunty just because his son is in Google. No internship, no reference. Its all about you. You will have to work it out yourself. No benefit of doubt, no shortcuts exist.
What does being social means? You need not Google it or browse Wikipedia. Only you could define what it means to you. Like to me being social means, being sensitive to the society, helping the people in pain, being a proactive citizen and maintaining a good relationship with my family and loved ones. So have you figured out your definition?
We all are social, I mean it comes by itself, since we are humans. Simply saying, I am very choosy when it comes to selecting people, not to fall in love with but even to have a conversation. I believe so are you, since you have read this blog so patiently. After all its my life, only I know how powerful an interaction is for my psyche, so its upto me to decide. And I can’t be mediocre enough to talk to mediocre people. It’s just not my idea of life, to get indulged into something which is hogwash and meaningless like their existence.
I am now packing for my cousin’s wedding. I am wearing my old millionaire uncle’s favorite cologne and reading his updated profile to pick up a conversation. Who knows maybe he leaves me behind his beautiful kothi in Mussoorie.