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Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen paperback classics that were hand-picked by you! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on December 29, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
We’re choosing a random winner in three days, so reblog now!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen paperback classics that were hand-picked by you! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on December 29, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: Thanks to the generosity of @harperperennial, we’re giving away all eight of the brand new, limited edition 2018-19 Harper Perennial Olive Editions! And this year, all of the Olives are CLASSICS! <3 Won’t these look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these books, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will randomly choose a winner on November 10, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, for the third straight year, Harper Perennial has agreed to make this an International giveaway! Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away twelve Bantam Classics paperbacks by Walt Whitman, Emily Bronte, Edgar Allan Poe, James Joyce, George Eliot, Shakespeare, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on September 29, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by Homer, Walt Whitman, Carson McCullers, Ray Bradbury, John Steinbeck, Shakespeare, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on August 19, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by D.H. Lawrence, Harper Lee, Franz Kafka, George Eliot, Fyodor Dostoevsky, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on April 8, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by D.H. Lawrence, Harper Lee, Franz Kafka, George Eliot, Fyodor Dostoevsky, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on April 8, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Today is the day! We’re choosing a random winner later today, so reblog now. And yes, you can reblog this up to five times. :)
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by D.H. Lawrence, Harper Lee, Franz Kafka, George Eliot, Fyodor Dostoevsky, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on April 8, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by D.H. Lawrence, Harper Lee, Franz Kafka, George Eliot, Fyodor Dostoevsky, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on April 8, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by Virginia Woolf, James Baldwin, Sylvia Plath, Ray Bradbury, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on February 25, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Remember you can reblog this up to five times. :)
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by Virginia Woolf, James Baldwin, Sylvia Plath, Ray Bradbury, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on February 25, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Remember you can reblog this up to five times. :)
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by Virginia Woolf, James Baldwin, Sylvia Plath, Ray Bradbury, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on February 25, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Remember you can reblog this up to five times. :)
Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen vintage paperback classics by Virginia Woolf, James Baldwin, Sylvia Plath, Ray Bradbury, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on February 25, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!
Remember you can reblog this up to five times. :)
Thuri help. How do I stop caring what other people think of me and stop feel insignificant?
*hugs* Those are really rough things to deal with, and I don’t know if my approach will work for you. But here’s the advice I can give. (warning, it got a little rambly and REALLY LONG)
I don’t think you can ever completely stop caring about what other people think. From a purely sociological perspective, the opinions of the group matter hugely to us, as they teach what is and what isn’t acceptable in society. But the dangers of going against the rest of the group are no longer being trampled by a mammoth or left to freeze on your own, and the world is a huge, diverse, amazing place with people who I guarantee will like you for who you are, and not who you’re forcing yourself to pretend to be.
Emotions happen, whether we want them to or not, and you can’t control the feelings that you have. However, you can control what you do with them, and how you choose to view them.
Emotions are a little like physical sensations. Pain exists to let you know something’s wrong, to draw your attention so you can address that issue. Emotions can act the same way. If you find yourself envious of someone who has a close relationship with their partner, your attention is drawn to the fact that you likely want the same thing, and this is a signal to take the steps to achieve it.
If you find yourself angry because someone hasn’t done their fair share in a project, your attention is being drawn to the fact that you don’t have complete control over all people/situations, and this is a signal to look deeper into why you need to feel you have that control.
And if someone thinks something of you that’s hurtful, untrue, or upsetting, you can feel sad, upset, ashamed, angry, a huge variety of emotions. And there’s nothing wrong with that. How you feel is always okay, it’s just information.
But here’s how I deal with knowing someone doesn’t like me, or thinks I’m silly for being 37 and liking Thomas Sanders, Dan and Phil, and still loving The Backstreet Boys.
One, I let myself feel the emotion. For a long time, that was shame, or embarrassment,or humiliation. Whatever it is, I give myself permission to feel it, because that reaction is information I can use. After I’ve let myself feel it, I think about why I’m feeling it, and what I can do.
If I’m feeling ashamed because someone’s told me my interests are dumb, I can look at that and say, “All right. They think this is silly. But this is something that brings me joy, that doesn’t hurt anyone else, and that is making my life better. Therefore, this is something that’s important to me, and I don’t want to lose it. I know I’m not the only one who doesn’t think this is dumb, I have friends who like it just as much. So not all people think this is dumb, even if this person does. And how does it affect me if they do think that? It’s an opinion they have, and it’s an opinion I can prove is not universal, and as it doesn’t hurt anyone, it doesn’t create pain and suffering, it doesn’t actually matter on a large scale, their opinion on my interests is no more real than my own opinion and experience. And I have to live with me for my entire life, I have to be in my head, and really, their opinions are none of my business. They’re allowed to have them, but that doesn’t mean they’re immutable fact, and I can keep my own without hurting anyone and with bringing myself joy.”
You can’t control what other people think, no matter what you do, what you wear, how you act, and that’s really scary. But it helps me to remember that I can control me, and I can take the reactions I have to other people as information to better my own life. It takes work, I wish I could say it doesn’t, but it’s worth it. These days, if someone thinks my interests are dumb, I can shrug and say “Maybe they are to you, but they’re not to me!” If someone doesn’t ship something I do, and tells me my pairing is wrong, I can say “You don’t have to ship them, and I’ll keep liking what I like.”
Basically, the best way I’ve found to stop trying to live up to some mainstream ideal of what I should be doing is to listen to myself, and to find people in my life who like me as I am, not an idea of me they’ve created.
As for feeling insignificant, well. We all are. We are tiny dots on a tiny dot in an infinitely huge universe, and the entire existence of our species is hardly a blip in time. In the end, it’s likely nothing we do on an individual level matters in the grand scheme of things.
And I think that’s wonderful. Because if it doesn’t matter, if there’s no greater purpose, no overreaching plan, there’s only us. And that means there’s only what we choose to do with our lives. So if there’s nothing watching, and no consequences, why wouldn’t you be kind? If there’s no destiny awaiting you and you can’t impact the galaxy, why wouldn’t you spend all your time trying to be happy and make others the same?
If there is nothing but us, why wouldn’t you make the time we have together as amazing as possible? If this is all we have, then this is EVERYTHING. And keeping your heart open, caring about everyone you can, reaching out, taking care of yourself, being kind in a world that doesn’t always reward it…that’s a choice you get to make.
And it’s scary, and sometimes it’s SO HARD, and you’ll probably cry a lot, and feel ashamed, and feel like you aren’t living up to your own goals, and feel alone, and feel feel feel. Because you can feel, it’s part of being human, and you can experience that, and you can use it and realize everyone around you is feeling, too.
And then you realize you maybe can’t change the entire universe, but you can change one person’s universe, a new person’s every day, just by existing, by being you, by being kind. Not because someone told you to, but because you’ve chosen to, because it makes our small, insignificant lives better. Makes them worth living.
What more significant purpose is there?
i have thought a lot about censorship and what is “appropriate”. not a lot of people know this, but lolita was written to show what we allow on our bookshelves: there being no swear words in it meant it was free from censorship. a book about child molestation was allowed because it didn’t explicitly use the word “fuck”. he wrote it to show we don’t really care about protecting children, and it ended up being seen as a romance.
someone once told me - actually, many people have - that lgbt content isn’t appropriate for children. any content. not just kissing. i’m drowned in questions: “won’t the parents have to explain it?” “kids shouldn’t be thinking about sex at this age, or do you think differently?” “what will the kids think?”
at six i saw disney movies. people kiss and get married. i didn’t ask “what does that mean.” i didn’t ask “are those people going to have sex?” i didn’t ask anything, because i was six, and no six year old thinks twice about these things. nobody ever “explained” being straight to me, it was a fact, and it existed, and i was fine with that. why would being gay require a thesis, i wonder.
someone once told me that the one of the reasons people hate lgbt individuals is because they can’t see us as anything but sexual. we’re not people, so much as sinners. that they don’t see love, they see sex. just sex. it’s perversion, not a matter of the heart. only of the body.
i think i was in my early twenties before i saw someone like me.
how old were you, though, before you saw violence? before you saw sexual assault on tv? i think something like that is only pg-13, and if it’s implied, they can get away with anything. i remember watching things and learning about blood, but knowing sex - sex was what was really wrong. sex was always rated r. sex was always kind of a bad word. i was told a lot that i wasn’t ready.
i had a dream last night that i made a site where people could ask any question they wanted about sex and get answered by a professional. it was shut down in moments because 15 year olds wanted to know if it should hurt, if “double-bagging” was a real thing, if this, if that. we shudder. don’t let the children know about that!
but at thirteen i had seen enough violence it no longer struck me. i couldn’t say “fuck” but i knew that if you break your femur, you can bleed out internally in under half an hour. in school i wasn’t allowed to write about loving girls because what would the administration think - but i could write about wanting to kill myself and people would say how lovely, how blistering.
i have thought a lot about censorship. sometimes people on this site try it with me: don’t write this, don’t be so nasty. some of it is intrinsic. we know as people with a uterus not to complain about “that time of the month”, we know better than to talk about sexual assault (how shameful), we know that talking about a vagina is somehow scandalous. i can say “dick” and nobody questions me. some people only refer to the bottom half of me by “pussy”. they won’t wrap a mouth around “vagina” like it’s poison to them. even discussing this, that the language halts, that there’s an intrinsic desire to say “girls” instead of “women” - feels naughty, illicit. not for children.
the other day someone suggested i make my blog 18+. i said, okay, it deals a lot with depression and other problems that might be for a mature audience. oh no, they said, that’s not it, i think that’s helpful. i said, okay. so what is it then. well, you’re gay. you write about loving women. and i said, i don’t write about sex often and they said. it’s not about the sex. but wlw isn’t for a general audience. teenagers aren’t ready.
oh.
lolita is recommended for high school and up. i think about that a lot. i know girls who love it, who say it speaks to them on a deep level. it’s beautiful prose, after all. that was the whole point of the novel. something that looked like a rose but was intrinsically awful. i think about how if i was a model they’d want me to look young, thin, prepubescent. how my body would be sold and how through the mall i walk by images of barely-clothed women while mothers cannot breastfeed in public without fear of retribution.
i think about how i can write a novel about violence and it will be pg-13 but if my characters say “fuck” twice it’s inappropriate. i said fuck three times so far in this post, which makes it only appropriate for adults.
i think about that, and how my identity is something that people suggest lines up with a swear word. that people shouldn’t talk about it. that it’s a vulgarity. bad for children, harsh, confusing.
fuck. i love women. which one makes this only for those over eighteen.
HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE DURING THE 4CHAN RAID
Simply, I’m sick of all the crap 4Chan is putting the Tumblr commmunity through right now, and I think everyone else is as well.
They add rape, gore and porn images to the most common tags, because they think triggering people and causing them to inflict harm upon themselves is entertaining. That’s right guys, hilarious.
They’re planning to hack accounts on top of that.
Thankfully, many of these issues can be remedied if we can work together.
1. CHANGE YOUR PASSWORD.
This should speak for itself. With the account hacking and everything, make sure you change your password quickly for obvious reasons. You should tell your followers also that if porn, gore or whatever else starts getting posted, it isn’t your doing.
2. THE NEXT 4CHAN RAID IS SET TO BE THE 20TH OF JULY.
On this day, the 4chan members have planned to unleash their tsunami of shock images onto the trending tags. Thankfully, this can be solved if we work together. Make sure you clear those tags of 4chan’s doing by posting the stuff that you SHOULD expect to find there.
3. STAY AWAY FROM TAG SEARCHING.
Be cautious. You don’t know what to expect, and if any of it triggers you, it won’t be pretty.
4. IF YOU HAVE A HISTORY OF SUICIDAL ATTEMPTS, THOUGHTS ETC, STAY AWAY FROM THE SITE.
This is simply for your own personal safety. Even if you follow step 3, there’s a chance a blog you follow will be hacked and you will see shock and trigger images pasted all over your dashboard. No one on Tumblr wants to see that happen, and they especially don’t want you getting hurt.
5. TURN OFF ANON ASKS AND ALL FORMS OF SUBMISSIONS.
Shock images, viruses and whatever the hell else have been reported to have been sent through asks and submissions. If you see something suspicious, ignore, block and report immediately, don’t respond to it in any way. Turn off anon asks and submissions to make sure it doesn’t wind up in your inbox.
6. DO NOT PROVOKE 4CHAN USERS IN ANY WAY.
THIS WILL ONLY MAKE THE 4CHAN VS TUMBLR WAR EVEN WORSE.
7. DON’T POST ANY SELFIES WHATSOEVER.
You wanna know what 4Chan are doing with them? They are editing them onto pornography, even if the person in the selfie is underage. THIS IS ILLEGAL, IF YOU SEE IT, REPORT IT TO THE AUTHORITIES IMMEDIATELY.
8. BE WARY OF ANY LINKS.
4Chan is also planning to replace the links to suicide hotlines with links to images of committing suicide, which is the opposite of what a hotline masterpost is supposed to do. Some links have also been edited to send out a virus. Stay away from links altogether if you want to be totally safe.
9. SIGNAL BOOST THIS. A LOT.
THE LAST THING WE NEED IS TO SEE ANYONE BEING HURT BY 4CHAN’S ACTIONS. SIGNAL BOOST THIS, SHARE THIS AND REBLOG THIS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. IT NEEDS TO BE KNOWN AND COULD SAVE A LIFE.
IMPORTANT
THIS IS NO JOKE- PLEASE! If not for you- then for your followers! There are people of all ages here and most of this is extremely wrong and illegal regardless! Don’t let this warning go unheard!!!
Okay asks and submissions will be off from July 20th to 22nd and please be safe!
FAM 3,000 FOLLOWER GIVEAWAY!
Hey guys, we’ve reached 3,000 followers! It’s been absolutely incredible during my time here as a mod to watch this blog grow! Last year when I started we were around 300 followers I believe, so watching it grow from the help of everyone at FAM (past and present mods!) is so cool!
And because we love you guys so very very much, I decided I would do a giveaway! :)
Here’s what’s happening
Shown is Everyday Sexism by Laura Bates. You might have seen that I ordered myself this book - well I also ordered one to give away too!
Each reblog and like will count as an “entry.” At the end of the entry dates, I’ll pick a (random) winner. I’ll mail the book out to them! :)
Rules!
You must be following @feminismandmedia
Reblogs AND likes count
Please no giveaway blogs
Please no anti-fems, TERFs, REGS, anti-sjws, etc.
Entries won’t count after May 3rd
Winner will be announced after they respond to a message from me. They have 24 hours to do so.
