malaika salaam

the part of my creativity i craft with words, sights, sounds, and colors

[malusokay]

2023 reset guide

Glow up

2023 vision board. Visualize your dream 2023 and write down your goals!

Daily Hot girl walks. No excuses, babes; let's get moving!

Reflecting on 2022. Look back at what you've accomplished and what you could have done differently.

Make a Bucketlist. Write down places you want to visit and things you want to do.

Extended self-care. Take some time to yourself to recover from the stressful holidays and get back on track. <3

Buy a good SPF. Do some research and find something that works for you!

Start Investing in yourself. Money, time, and energy. Put yourself first!

Annual check-ups. Make a dentist appointment, go to the optometrist etc...

Buy a Silk pillowcase. Protect your skin and hair!

Set clear boundaries. And make sure that people respect them!

Less screen time. Self-explanatory.

Manicure, lash lift, haircut. High maintenance to be low maintenance! ;)

Wellness

Daily vitamins. Visit a doctor to discuss which ones you should be taking for the best results.

Morning stretches. Wake up your body and drink some water!

Skin/hair care. It's time to find products that actually work for you.

Reading more literature. Set yourself a daily reading goal.

Planned grocery lists. Make a grocery list that aligns with your dietary needs and goals to make shopping less stressful. <3

Less coffee. Especially if you struggle with anxiety!!

More greens and protein. Let's give our body what it needs.

Journaling. Truly helps with overthinking!!

8 hours of sleep. Beauty sleep. <3

Cooking for yourself. Such a cute form of daily self-care.

Yoga. Or just any low-impact exercises in general.

Deep cleaning

Organizing your closet. Only keep things that make you feel beautiful.

Budgeting. Check your bank account and plan ahead.

Clean your hairbrushes. Trust me...

Donating clothes. Donate the items that you don't wear anymore.

Clean your make-up brushes. The first step to clear skin!!

Fresh sheets. Wash your pillows too.

Charge your electronics. IPad, Mac, Camera etc...

Get rid of expired make-up and skincare. Step 2 to clear skin, lol.

Declutter stationary. No need to keep dried-out pens.

Delete old emails. I currently have 1840...

Delete unnecessary apps. Anything you don't need.

Clean your camera roll. Making some space for new memories! :)

Cut out toxic people. <3

Mindset

Pretty, smart, kind, and prioritising myself.

Positive affirmations!!

Your daily habits play a huge role in your mood/life. Be mindful, and take care of yourself.

It's okay to outgrow people!!

Decide what kind of life you actually want and start saying no to everything that won't get you there.

"I'm attracting opportunities that align with my dream life."

A girl who will do big things can't let small things bother her.

Honestly, reinvent yourself over and over again until you are satisfied with who you are.

Do you want to be comfortable, or do you want to grow?

"Am I doing this for me, or am I performing for others?"

very high standards. VERY HIGH STANDARDS.

Be obsessed with yourself.

2022 has been such a life-changing year for me, not only personally but also regarding my social media! As I already said on Twitter, I'm incredibly grateful for this little community that has formed this year, and I'm excited for all the things that lay ahead of us! I wish everyone a successful 2023 with many beautiful moments and lots of growth!!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[postitforward]

Go back to bed—it’s World Sleep Day!

World Sleep Day is a global, annual call to action celebrating the importance of a good night’s sleep. Sleep is essential for health!

In partnership with World Sleep Society, we’re encouraging you to practice some self-care and look after your health. How? Just LOG OFF & GO TO SLEEP!

How can you help to make this our biggest celebration yet?

We know it’s a big ask, but we’re confident you can handle these two enormously difficult tasks:

For Web users:

LOG OFF

GO TO SLEEP

For App users:

LOG OFF

GO TO SLEEP

Need a little sleep-spo?

Check out the #GoToSleepTumblr tag. You can head over to @music for some soothing sounds to put you in the mood to snooze and stop by @gotosleep for the largest collection of yawn-inducing content. Let’s count some sheep, Tumblr.

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[malaika-salaam]

A gentle reminder…

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Don’t wait around for others to experience life with you. Take the lead, go out, and get the most out of life.”

— Gentlemen’s Wisdom

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“There is nothing wrong with trying to hold on and there’s nothing wrong with letting go. The trick is deciding which one is best for you.”

— Unknown

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Errors in Thinking that Create Anxiety

1. All-or-nothing thinking: Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

2. Overgeneralization: Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I didn’t get hired for the job. I’ll never get any job.”)

3. The mental filter: Focusing on the negatives while filtering out all the positives. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.

4. Diminishing the positive: Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“I did well on the presentation, but that was just dumb luck.”)

5. Jumping to conclusions: Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“I can tell she secretly hates me.”) or a fortune teller (“I just know something terrible is going to happen.”)

6. Catastrophizing: Expecting the worst-case scenario to happen (“The pilot said we’re in for some turbulence. The plane’s going to crash!”)

7. Emotional reasoning: Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel frightened right now. That must mean I’m in real physical danger.”)

8. ‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’: Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do and beating yourself up if you break any of the rule

9. Labeling: Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

10. Personalization: Assuming responsibility for things that are outside your control (“It’s my fault my son got in an accident. I should have warned him to drive carefully in the rain.”)

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_self_help.htm

[malaika-salaam]

I don't have Empty Nest Syndrome... You do.

Ok, so empty nesting (like most things in life) didn't go as planned. Instead of all of the countdowns and closures, I planned that would allow me to prepare, slowly enter, and be ready it hit me in the chest like a football at full speed without anybody shouting "think fast" and giving me time to put my hands up and focus.

It was suggested that instead of our last at-home young adult traveling back and forth across the country during a global pandemic and an outbreak of monkeypox, she stay put on the East Coast post-orientation and pre-move-in date. I heard the sense it made with my head and my heart because for the 36 hours prior to the message I had been meditating and walking around in the mantra "Shut the fuck up when you hear love talking." I was listening, so I called her and asked her directly.

She told me what she had been afraid to say since before she left, she was staying and I could ship her things to her. I heard her. I had been preparing and it didn't look like this and I wasn't devastated. I felt a sense of loss and growth. Joy and grief existed in the same place. I trust her with her life.

And just like when she was an infant and ready to strike out walking, I had to let go as she pulled away asserting her independence and ability to do it without me holding her up or holding her hand.

Yesterday, I officially became an empty nester.

P.S. Just in case you're wondering what Empty Nest Syndrome looks or feels like...

[malaika-salaam]

Meditation of the day.

Shut the Fuck Up

When you hear LOVE talkin.

[malaika-salaam]

Hey Y’all Hey! Happy Full Moon in Libra. How are you feeling: •in your body ? •in your mind ? • in your spirit ? Inhale: •Unclench your jaw •Unlock your tongue from the roof of your mouth •Roll your shoulders back and release Exhale *Drink water *Honor your time, space, and energy *Say YES and NO emphatically Have a Dope Day, Dope Human! 🫶🏽 https://www.instagram.com/p/CcYbHu1PzGb/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[malaika-salaam]

Hey y’all hey! • So many things I have said in my mind, in one on one conversations, almost in a video about the slap heard round the world and what it brought up for me. I’m currently at the intersection of self.reflection and what seeing and hearing what happened brought up for me. Here is what the intersection looks like: 1. My shirt by @prettypurpleelephant says what I feel. Stand up for Black Women Support Black Women Hire Black Women Vote for Black Women Trust Black Women • Also Cite Black Women Love Black Women Defend Black Women 2. I choose vitamins and not violence every day. However tea and incense, can turn into Newports & Colt 45. No, he didn’t have to do it like that, “but, I understand.” 3. I’m not a man and I can see the Will Smith in myself. I have chosen physical violence in reaction to somebody disrespecting my mama with 3 words, as an adult. (See #2) 4. I’m a Black woman. I am fat, queer, differently abled. I have heard and felt sadness, guilt, embarrassment, shame about jokes made at my expense and didn’t speak up, nor was I defended verbally or otherwise. I have also laughed nervously or in line with the energy that I read and felt inclined to mimic in response to those jokes. (I hope Jada’s folks are loving and supporting her the way she wants and deserves). 5. And finally I have thought of my Grandfathers, Father, Uncles, Brothers/Cousins, and Sons as Will Smith. I’m grateful to know that they have loved, supported, defended me. I also know there are things I’ve never said or shared with them because I didn’t want to put them in the position to do a thing that might not allow them to just go back to their seats and make an apology later without heavy consequences. • I hope you all are breathing intentionally and taking a look at yourself, your judgments, reflections, needs, interpersonal work. • My soul requires that I do this work. https://www.instagram.com/p/CbqtPUbPYPN/?utm_medium=tumblr

[malaika-salaam]

T.I.P. : The REFRESH Ep O: B'Day Shenanigans

I’m definitely going to follow this with a blog to explain what happened between Part 1 and Part Deux...

But for now, enjoy the shenanigans of Part 1.

[malaika-salaam]

🖤Lo-Fi Laika🖤 • Lo-fi is a production quality in which elements usually regarded as imperfections are present, sometimes deliberately. • Hey Y’all Hey! • 1. I’m Malaika Peifley-Salaam (Muh-like-uh Pie.flee Suh-Lahm) 2. I have updated my website. (link in profile) 3. My website is my online hub of activity. 4. Still figuring out what social media looks like for me. 5. I believe that Today is a DOPE Day to Have a Dope Day! 6. I believe YOU are a DOPE Human! 7. It's a sweeter exchange with greetings and salutations. I'll extend a “Hey Y’all Hey” when I show up, please reciprocate. 8. I love sharing what I know/am learning. 9. If you made it to this part (the end) I appreciate your time, space, and energy. 🕊 https://www.instagram.com/p/CbgJxqdP3jL/?utm_medium=tumblr

[malaika-salaam]

New.ish Things 3.23.2022

This is my favorite meme, thanks to Shantrelle P. Lewis (In Our Mother's Gardens, Shoppe Black, Beaucoup Hoodoo)!

Whether you have been following me for a while in the innanet streets or just discovered me, I appreciate you sharing your time, energy, and space.

I appreciate you choosing to check out my blog here, or maybe you came by way of my website malaikasalaam.com or podcast.

I've been on Tumblr for a while, WordPress, Squarespace, and some other places, which you have likely seen if today isn't your first day. You've probably also noticed my hair, name, layouts, blog, and website go through some changes. It's all a reflection of me and my life in real-time.

I've been releasing, letting go, integrating, and allowing space to open up and go unused.

There are literally millions of podcasts, blogs, and websites; however, Tumblr has been the space where I have most consistently felt liberated, understood, and at home to be vulnerable, authentic, and create with words, images, sound, and colors.

Happy to be here, be me, and have you join for thoughts, ideas, shares, reblogs, music, food, and whatever else we can dream of as we are being much more ourselves.

Warm Love,

[blk-vinluxee]

… - Tracee Ellis Ross

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

It’s OK to Say “No” …

1. If you don’t want to do it …

2. If you don’t like the people …

3. If you’d rather relax …

4. If you’re already overscheduled…

5. If you don’t have the time …

6. If it doesn’t fit your values …

7. If you feel forced to say “yes” …