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Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

kamorth

I just wanna add to clarify the psychosomatic thing.

That word DOES NOT MEAN you’re making it up. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining the symptom. What it means is that the symptom ISN’T DIRECTLY CAUSED BY ANY OF THE THINGS THAT WOULD NORMALLY CAUSE IT.

I fought to get a PCOS diagnosis for 2 and a half years. For the ENTIRE time I was fighting, I was dealing with 3 cysts that were not going away by themselves and eventually required surgery to remove. At one point close to the end of the battle, I suddenly went blind. I was visiting my parents and was standing on the veranda looking out over the tree we had planted in memory of my dog and suddenly I got one of the shooting pains that I was quite frankly used to at that point and my vision started to go dark. It was like the sun was setting while being completely hidden behind storm clouds but it was 2pm in the middle of Summer on a clear day. Within about 30 seconds I couldn’t see ANYTHING. I was 27 years old and I was screaming for my mother.

My mum raced me to her doctor (he was a 15 minute drive away as opposed to 45 minutes to the nearest hospital) and he quickly worked out that there was nothing wrong with my eyes and what had happened was totally unrelated to them. Then he said it was psychosomatic and I freaked out, yelling that I was NOT making this up and I definitely wasn’t imagining it. Very quickly he calmed me down and said he believed me and I had misunderstood. He explained that whatever was going on with my abdominal pains (he suggested PCOS which I hadn’t even heard of at that point) had been ignored for so long that my body was starting to do things other than the normal pain response to try to draw my attention to the problem. My sight going was my body basically jumping around in front of me going “HEY ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING TO ME HELLLOOOOOOO??????”

He gave me some prescription strength painkillers and my sight started to come back as soon as they started to kick in. About 45 minutes after it started I could see well enough to walk around without help and within a day and a half I was back to normal. On top of that I finally had a scan booked to figure out what the hell was causing all the pain.

Psychosomatic symptoms are NOT imagined or fabricated or happening for “no reason”. Experiencing them DOES NOT make you a liar. It makes you someone who has been battling with something serious for so long that your own body has started to get impatient with you.

oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201

I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this.

antique-scarecrow

Psychosomatic symptoms are literally your body flipping random alarm switches just to get any alarm blaring because you’ve been ignoring the regular ones

yekokataa

🔥 choose violence ask game 🔥

the character everyone gets wrong

a compelling argument for why your fave would never top or bottom

screenshot or description of the worst take you've seen on tumblr

what was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

worst discord server and why

which ship fans are the most annoying?

what character did you begin to hate not because of canon but because how how the fandom acts about them?

common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about

worst part of canon

worst part of fanon

number of fandom-related words you've filtered

the unpopular character that you actually like and why more people should like them

worst blorboficiation

that one thing you see in fics all the time

that one thing you see in fanart all the time

you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

there should be more of this type of fic/art

it's absolutely criminal that the fandom has been sleeping on...

you're mad/ashamed/horrified you actually kind of like...

part of canon you found tedious or boring

part of canon you think is overhyped

your favorite part of canon that everyone else ignores

ship you've unwillingly come around to

topic that brings up the most rancid discourse

common fandom complaint that you're sick of hearing

thedreadvampy

Everywhere I go I'm reminded how much the desire to punish homelessness and migration and other Undesirablenesses make society markedly worse for everyone

like why is the park locked after 5pm so I can't go and sit under a tree after work? to punish rough sleepers for the terrible crime of being homeless and alive

why do I have to buy a drink, beg for a code and fuck around with an awkward keypad for 5 minutes in order to take a piss? because fuck homeless people

why do I need to provide proof of address and photo ID to do everything? because we had to create a really hostile environment for migrants

why can't you sit anywhere? well because god forbid people sleep when they're pushed out of shelter. can't risk that.

every day governments, councils and businesses make your life worse as a side effect of making vulnerable people's lives WAY worse. if you're ok with that you're a fucking idiot and if you're in favour of it you're a vindictive cunt cause again literally the ONLY payoff for your life getting worse is other people's lives getting worser.

icaseybaybee

schrodingersidiot69

thegorgeousunwell

That is the single moment of true horror for me in the entire series; Louis’ pleased cold dead creature-feature smile to Mr Molloy after having lacerated his heart and stomped on his memories.. Jacob is a scary good actor.

rotdoodle

Just reminded myself that I forgot to post this here too! Some quick Louis paintings for you all <3

kirby97

See what no one tells you about having parents who have been successfully polyamorous and active in the tri-state kink community for 29 years is that as their adult child, there is a high probability that at any event you go to someone will have slept with one or both of your parents. There is no escaping this. They've been doing it for decades. They've lain claim to like half the east coast

fandomshatewomen

I rarely go to Instagram because of shit like this. It's shit like this disguised like "healthy living" shit that's selling misogyny for a new generation.

Please join me in reporting shit like this.

tjalexandernyc

I have been telling y’all about H.R. 7661 for a while now, and today I need to ask you for a favor. If you’re new to the newsletter or have

A special one-off newsletter this week about the nationwide book banning bill. I don't know what to do except keep screaming. Anyway, if you promise me you'll contact your rep I'll send you a character art card. Details at the link

tjalexandernyc

UPDATE, May 16, 2026, from Authors Against Book Bans:

HR 7661 is not dead. But thanks to your ongoing efforts, it is definitely losing steam. Your advocacy matters! The clear evidence is that the bill’s sponsors are shifting from promoting HR 7661 to instead promoting a new bill, HR 2617. HR 2617, the so-called “Say No to Indoctrination Act,” was introduced earlier this month by Representative Burgess Owens of Utah—one of the co-sponsors of HR 7661. This bill would forbid educators from teaching “concepts related to gender ideology,” with the aims of “defending women from gender ideology extremism and restoring biological truth to the Federal Government.” As we have seen time and again, any whiff of gender essentialism in education inevitably leads to book bans. What we’re asking you to do now: Call your House Representative and tell them you oppose both HR 7661 and HR 2617. If your Representative is a Democrat on the House Education & Workforce Committee, specifically ask that they show up at the June 10th hearing ready to defend our students’ and educators’ access to books with a full spectrum of gender identities. And yes, it’s not a coincidence that this vote is scheduled to take place during National Pride Month. Conservatives apparently enjoy using that month in particular to speak out against LGBTQ+ people and issues.

Book censorship and transphobia work hand-in-hand, just like book censorship and racism.

tjalexandernyc

UPDATE, May 22, 2026:

HR 2616 has passed the House and will go to the Senate, same as HR 7661 before it. It needs to face the same kind of full-throated opposition. It would produce the same chilling effect on school libraries as HR 7661 with the added violence of forcibly outing students to their parents, knowing that a non-zero percentage of those parents will respond with abuse. That's the future these ghouls want.

CIS WOMEN: they are using you as an excuse to hurt children. Contact your senators and tell them to knock it the fuck off.

More info and suggestions on how to respond:

The House of Representatives passed bill HR 2616, a federal "don't say trans" bill that would harm kids and create mass censorship.

fandomshatewomen

Pride celebrations struggle as corporate sponsorships dry up : NPR

Pride celebrations struggle as corporate sponsorships dry up : NPR https://www.npr.org/2026/05/30/nx-s1-5805854/pride-parade-struggle-corporate-sponsorships

Public support for the LGBTQ+ community by corporations has become politically risky, public relations expert says.

Please call your local LGBTQ centers not just to support them but to build community.

dceufandomhatespeopleofcolor

Have ya'll heard of #DCsowhite campaign ? DC comics hasn't had a black lead comic since 2023 with I am Batman. When there is a black lead comic it's a 6 or 12 issue mini series. Right now there's Absolute Green Lantern but it's not in the main universe. So now black fans are doing a boycott of DC comics until there is a black lead comic. The boycott is called #DCBlackout.

hey thanks for bringing this to our attention! I'm not really into comics so this was really eye opening for me to see (more into the dc movies and mcu even though I have read a few books in the past).

First of all, these links can all be found via ecosia and typing in #dcsowhite

These are not in order that I found them but rather how I think they should be tackled by order of importance.

Following the viral #DCSoWhite conversation, creators demand sustained investment, visibility, and accountability for Black representation

A YouTuber running the #DCSoWhite campaign announced Phase Two this week: DC Blackout, a full boycott of DC Comics including clearing his Ab

and

https://blerd.com/dcs-black-representation-comics-dcsowhite/

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

I'm begging followers please boost this!!! Supergirl comes out in less than a month make this bigger news than supergirl!!!!

mod laina

fandomshatepeopleofcolor

I had an idea to contribute to #DCblackout

mod ali

photomatt

Tumblr Advisor Board

I think it could be cool to put together a board of the top Tumblristas in the world, that could see previews of what's coming up and advise on strategic direction. Who should be on it?

madseance

I am going to get this out of my system upfront so that I can explain everything that's wrong with this idea in a clearheaded way: This is a bad idea, it feels incredibly gross, and it reinforces my impression that you do not understand this website at all. It is indescribably frustrating and infuriating. It makes me want to vomit, and that's even before I get to "Tumblrista".

Now then.

A key takeaway from the massive amount of almost universally negative feedback to the reblog change should have been: Tumblr users do not, as a rule, care about clout. We do not want quantified "credit" for how good our addition to a post is, and we don't want influencers who are anointed as more important than everyone else because they are popular. That's not what we do here; it's never been what we do here. If we wanted that, we could get it from ANY other social media. The fact that we're here instead makes it pretty clear that clout is not important to us, and in fact is actively repulsive to us. Anointing particular Tumblr users as "top Tumblristas" and putting them on an "advisory board" that gets special access to new features and the opportunity to give feedback on them would constitute the exact type of hierarchy we despise.

Furthermore: When a corporate entity proposes an "advisory board of power users", what they're actually doing is trying to pre-empt wider user pushback against executive decisions, by creating the illusion of user buy-in while using social pressure to enforce decisions that have already been made. The actual reasoning behind selecting "top" users is because they are popular, which suggests they have influence over other users. The idea is, rather than convincing the community as a whole, you convince a smaller subset of influential people, and then they convince everyone else. Again, this depends on a kind of hierarchy and clout-based "influencer" system that we don't have and don't want.

As for the "top users" board themselves: By choosing someone and telling them "you're a Top User and you get to be on the special committee and have special privileges," you are giving them something (supposedly) desirable: social status, (the appearance of) influence and power, etc. And you can take it away. That means now you have power over them. If they don't want to lose their special status, they will avoid displeasing you. Which means they are less likely to give you significant pushback, and they are more willing to pressure others to go along with what you want to do. That makes them incredibly useful to corporate, but completely undermines their supposed role as a voice for the community. We see this already with influencers on every other platform, who become de facto spokespeople for corporations and brands and stop meaningfully criticizing them out of fear of losing the access that is critical to their status.

I'm not saying all this because I think it's news to the CEO of a tech company. I think you know all of that perfectly well already. I'm saying it because I think you assume we don't know it, and because some people might not. But I have played this game before and I know how it goes. It never benefits the community. It is always a way to control the community.

You do not need an advisory board to get feedback about site changes. The community is demonstrably perfectly able and willing to speak for themselves individually. If you really want to know what everyone thinks, you have to ask everyone, not a handpicked group of influencers who are under pressure to play along.

becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys

I remember something a bit like this a few years ago, when Tumblr tried to introduce that disastrous feature to let users offer paid content to their followers. They first rolled it out to a select group of users, to act as a trial group

I remember one of those users was Kaijuno. At the time, they were a big damn deal; I wasn't even following them, and yet saw their posts all the time, always with thousands of reblogs, often viral. They happily implemented the paid feature, so their shitposts would still be free, but their science content would be paid access.

Except everyone was so furious at the entire feature that they turned on anyone who had chosen to trial it. Kaijuno went, overnight, from being a huge deal on this gremlin site to being blasted into obscurity; but not before they were basically turned into the de facto Tumblr spokesperson for this stupid feature and subjected to the sort of tirade of public abuse and rage that makes celebrities check into rehab. It was relentless, it was aggressive, and staff just left them to take the brunt of it all and didn't do a damn thing to stop it.

All of which is to say, this would be a death sentence for any user chosen for this elite focus group. You'd burn through your "top users", because after every unpopular change they would not be popular anymore and would probably leave the site, until people would very quickly not want to be in your clubhouse anymore and the only ones left would have no clout to be useful.

So, no. I just don't see it working on this site

dceufandomhatespeopleofcolor

Have ya'll heard of #DCsowhite campaign ? DC comics hasn't had a black lead comic since 2023 with I am Batman. When there is a black lead comic it's a 6 or 12 issue mini series. Right now there's Absolute Green Lantern but it's not in the main universe. So now black fans are doing a boycott of DC comics until there is a black lead comic. The boycott is called #DCBlackout.

hey thanks for bringing this to our attention! I'm not really into comics so this was really eye opening for me to see (more into the dc movies and mcu even though I have read a few books in the past).

First of all, these links can all be found via ecosia and typing in #dcsowhite

These are not in order that I found them but rather how I think they should be tackled by order of importance.

Following the viral #DCSoWhite conversation, creators demand sustained investment, visibility, and accountability for Black representation

A YouTuber running the #DCSoWhite campaign announced Phase Two this week: DC Blackout, a full boycott of DC Comics including clearing his Ab

and

https://blerd.com/dcs-black-representation-comics-dcsowhite/

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

I'm begging followers please boost this!!! Supergirl comes out in less than a month make this bigger news than supergirl!!!!

mod laina

justagirlinacape

Just so we’re all clear:

Things that you SHOULD NOT deadname

Trans women

Trans men

Non binary people

Any other trans identity that doesn’t fit into those three

Cis people who changed their name

Anyone who goes by a different name then the one their parents gave them regardless of how “good” of a person they are, or your personal feeling towards them

Things that you SHOULD deadname

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