[thesweetiepienovels]

I don’t know how many times people have to say it, but you have to actively go looking for the good. It has been proven again and again that the more you actively think of the good outcomes and the good things in life and see the beauty in things and learn to appreciate things, the more these things happen, the more you rewire your brain into seeing more good things than bad, the more you notice good things happening around you and to you. It is called Neuroplasticity. It is neuroscience.

[lotuspositivity]

You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.

[hotnfreshtakes]

trans men and transmascs do need to hear they aren't hurting anyone for being masculine, but more than that they need to hear that they are loved for being masculine. your masculinity is wonderful and magical and you pull it off incredibly well. your masculinity is cool, it's desirable, it's attractive. there are people out there who will be drawn to you because of your masculinity, not just in spite of it. you deserve more than just to be tolerated in queer spaces. your masculinity deserves to be celebrated

[rose-of-rubicon]

blowin a kiss to all the men out there, queer or not, who're havin a tough day. love ya, mate. do somethin nice for yourself even if it's small, okay?

[kosmogrl]

december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good december will be good

[luke-jace]

BY THE WAY

YOU ALL SHOULD STREAM "I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST" BECAUSE IT'S AN AMAZING MOVIE. It's a book turned movie, and I do also very much recommend the book because it does go a lot more in depth with things and what not, but the movie is still great.

The description of it is "A high school junior comes out as nonbinary and is thrown out of their family's home. With nowhere else to turn, they move in with their estranged older sister and her husband. After enrolling in a new school, they find support from an eccentric art teacher while forming an unexpected bond with a kindhearted student."

The main character, who is non-binary, is played by Corey Fogelmanis. Their sister and brother-in-law are played by Alexandra Daddario and Cole Sprouse respectively.

If anyone wants to hear my ramble about it in full, I will more than happily write up a post, though, may have to be later once I rewatch it again with my partner, because we will be rewatching it.

But it, without spoiling, is a very refreshing movie and has a lot more realistic dialogue in it, like there's what is like actual Gen Z slang in it, without it seeming like it's trying SO hard to appeal, like it's actual shit that like people do in fact say. And there's a little bit of that

At the very least, look into it, look at the full cast and crew, watch the trailer. Again, the book is also amazing and the author, Mason Deaver, has a few other books as well that also have trans and non-binary main characters and they're amazing too. I definitely recommend the book for this as well.

[male-positivity]

I am reblogging this here as well because... I love this movie??? I waited for this movie and I finally watched it and I need everyone to watch it NOW. Please? :)

[feral-asexual-possum]

shout out to black trans men y'all are so fucking awesome and strong and don't let anyone tell you otherwise

[crispwormsoda]

Give it up for the people just realizing they're queer right now, actually. This is a really scary time to be queer, i imagine even scarier to be coming to terms with your identity and/or trying to figure yourself out. You're doing amazing and i think you're super super brave.

[your-gay-grandma]

i need everyone to know that community is what will save us all in every single way imaginable. you forming a bond with your neighbour or coworker might help them move house or feel less alone or have the courage to leave an unhealthy living environment. you helping a stranger might provide them with hope. in turn, being able to lean on your community in times of need will save you. your broader bonds with your community are the revolution we need. our society seeks to divide and separate us in so many ways but we are all so much more united in our struggles and joys than you are made to believe. we need to hold onto each other very tightly.

[slfcare]

ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.

[veryluckyclovers]

keep going !

[bugbuoyx]

Shoutout to all my fat transmascs, my long haired transmascs, my short transmascs, and all my transmascs who get misgendered from behind and on the phone.

All my transmascs with "feminine" hobbies, "feminine" gestures, "feminine" ways of talking. My transmascs who don't voice train, who still wear clothes from the women's section.

Every transmasc experience is unique and amazing. You're all so wonderful and handsome and bring something that's just you into this world. Don't stop breaking boundaries and rules, reshape them and force the world to conform to you.

[deathtokillian]

If you are trans I need you to stay alive.

Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.

They don’t get to erase us! They don’t get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Don’t let them erase us, and don’t let them make you a statistic. Don’t let them win.

Stay alive

If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.

[status-quo-hater]

Love for men with ""feminine"" physical features. "Soft" men, "dainty" men, men with curves, men with hips, men with tits. You aren't a joke, you're a living piece of art.

[status-quo-hater]

my favorite reblog on this

Such a way with words people on this app have

[queeraliensposts]

So my last post about transandrophobia got me on the wrong side of tumblr so if you agree that trans men and transmascs should be allowed to talk about their experiences without being accused of hating women please interact with this post cause I'm tired of blocking people.

[creature-wizard]

Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

[xpxssxm]

Whether you're carrying one big rock or a big ol' bucket of sand, it's going to weigh on you just as much.

[ramshacklefey]

This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.

After years and years of this, your nervous system gets "stuck" in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like "genuine human connection" and "interpersonal attachment."

[naamahdarling]

No lie, Complex PTSD/CPTSD is HUGE.

If you are disabled, if you are queer, if you are chronically ill, if you are the survivor of a toxic but not abusive relationship, if you grew up or lived under the threat of harm but no "actual" harm (or "very little" harm) was done, you may have CPTSD that isn't getting caught because CPTSD looks different from PTSD.

[thenookienostradamus]

At the risk of falling into a trivialization trap, a lot of things you may not perceive as traumatic actually are. I was embarrassed for a long time in both group and individual therapy to say anything in my childhood was traumatic, because I was sitting with people who had suffered horrible physical or sexual abuse. But here are some things that are, in fact, traumatic and - when they occur over a long period - can set you on a course of maladaptive coping for decades if not addressed:

Being told or shown that your emotions are not valid, that you have no safe place to express them

Parents or caregivers oversharing graphic trauma from their past with you

Threats of physical violence, even if not carried out

Being told or shown that affection or approval is contingent on competency or academic success

Prejudice from inside OR outside the family (homophobia, racism, body shame)

Mocking or dismissal of things that are meaningful to you

If you constantly feel unworthy, afraid, ashamed, or even flat and emotionless, it's worth exploring why. And, because you've been so consistently undermined and minimized, you may feel like a fraud for being upset or functioning poorly. You're not a fraud; it's years of conditioning telling you "I should be able to handle this" or "lots of people are worse off than I am so I shouldn't complain." Your conditioned brain is lying to you; you won't be able to open yourself to the joy of trusting relationships with others OR do meaningful things to help those who are worse off until you do the work to melt the block of ice surrounding you. All my love to you, friends.

[genderqueerdykes]

if you are a trans boy, especially a teenage trans boy, i wanted to say that as a trans man in their 30's, you have my deepest respects and condolences for what you may be going through right now.

it has become socially acceptable and basically online custom to bully teenage trans boys & mascs, call them cringy, or excuse misgendering them for whatever reason. people put trans boys on this pedestal of "must perform masculinity and manhood to cartoonish degrees" even though they're still children.

people make trans boys fight for their manhood before they can even be boys. i am sorry people can be so judgmental and harsh on you. you are not wrong for wanting to be a boy. you are experiencing something wonderful. it's okay if you still want to be a boy even if people have treated you poorly, or tried to make you feel bad for being a boy. there is nothing wrong with being a boy.

it's okay if you never socially transition. it's okay if you're afraid to come out because it's not safe. it's okay if you never change your outward appearance. it's okay if you try very hard to pass but struggle to. it's okay if you wear "women's" clothing and shoes, bras, makeup, etc., it's okay if you're gay and love other men. it's okay if you're scared of hrt. it's okay if you don't want surgery. it's okay if you mainly occupy girl's spaces still. people will find every reason to pick these things apart and ridicule trans boys for, but they are all perfectly fine experiences that do not make you any less of a boy. you are the one who is in control of your transition, presentation, and state of being- you should be able to prioritize your safety over the comfort of random strangers who have no impact over how you live your life.

i've been put through this too, but later in life as i came out when i was an adult. people still try to make me feel bad for identifying as a trans man, for whatever reason they have in their head to justify hatred of a trans person. i've had enough. there will never be an excuse for how people try to excuse the infantilization and abuse that trans men and trans boys face.

take care of yourselves, no matter what age you are, if you are a trans boy, man, or masc you deserve to know that other trans men care about you, especially when people are scrambling to find ways to punch down on you. there are people who suck, but there are also a lot of people who care about you. keep your chin up. you know who you are