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@mamechiin
hi, i'm mamechiin.
i am a person with DID, this is my system-dedicated blog. DM to ask for my main. here, i'll post opinions, observations, and personal experiences. i also want to make a collection of resources at some point.
as far as syscourse goes, i am unaligned. i'm too busy with things that actually matter to bother with endo discourse or whatever.
i have no DNI, and i block freely. more info can be found under the cut.
i might make a notion wiki of various system terms and resources, mostly for personal reference, and because i enjoy researching. i don't know if i'll share it or even make substantial progress on it, but it's something on my mind.
a collection of thoughts
i regret being really mean to catherine at first just because it's behavior that i'm trying to move away from
at this point i don't really care if my main is found out or if the like. three people who know it decide to share it. i have nothing to hide, but i am concerned that these two will invade my work and the things i care about because i believe thede people are kind of fucking insane. that's probably just paranoia on my part but i would be heartbroken if for some reason they tried to sabotage my friends' artwork and my writing, so it's on my mind even though the odds of anything like that happening are slim.
sophie constantly acts in bad faith. what dia said was wrong, obviously, but i as a person don't think she would act any differently in a real abuse situation. i'm not trying to lobby accusations, but this is my genuine perception.
i do not care if person A and person B are the same guy. it's weird and strange to me to bring up intersex conditions as "proof" and to call the use of shi/hir pronouns by a supposedly perisex person "extremely intersexist." (it's mildly insensitive at worst.)
i just want to clarify my own points, idgaf about this and don't want to engage further, but i like clarifying for my own piece of mind
no, i don't think a perisex person using shi/hir pronouns is intersexist. it doesn't directly affect anyone and certainly doesn't make our lives harder.
there are so many things both socially and politically that make existing as an intersex person extremely difficult. persistent fetishization and invasive questions AND procedures. genital mutilation. people not really knowing anything about intersex conditions and passing laws that take away necessary treatment for some conditions. that is intersexism.
it's almost a slap in the face to see some random (who is known for acting in bad faith and making inflammatory statements) talking about annoying tumblr user number 1000000 being intersexist. for... using? a specific set of pronouns?
help me understand because something is not clicking. i'm not understanding how any of this is okay. if i'm missing something and reacting to incomplete information, then tell me what i'm missing. i can't be the only one who thinks this is crazy, surely?
i really didn't mean to become a syscourser but i really do enjoy discussion about things and seeing different perspectives. and arguing with people who are dumb or acting in bad faith. coughs.
i get a kick out of it and i like a community that supports open discussion. the rest of the system community is very split down the middle (and also full of teenagers when i would rather hang out with adults).
i think i'd like to make posts looking at studies and sources and breaking them down, and coming to a conclusion based on that. i consider myself pretty unbiased in plural matters specifically, but that assessment is pretty biased as well.
anyway, i probably will do that, but probably won't post it in the syscourse tag. so if you are interested in that, maybe check my profile every now and then idk lol.
After a very thorough search through the archives, I can now state quite confidently that Mitsuki did not in fact explicitly claim to be intersex.
Though given "hir" choice of pronouns, I hope you can see why we got confused.
This does not change my conclusions. The use of these pronouns is still suspect. Good day.
a) nobody is entitled to know about another person's reproductive organs
b) as an intersex person, shi/hir are just pronouns. seriously, there are NO exclusive pronouns with the exception of like. slurs. nobody irl cares.
c) this is weird and gross and going way too far.
FYI, shi/hir is intersex-exclusive because it WAS historically used as a slur before being reclaimed.
My first page of Google results for "shi hir":
Pronoun Wiki article screenshotted above
Reddit thread collectively agreeing that they're intersex-exclusive
LGBTQIA+ Wiki
(omg this is how i learned i've been pronouncing them wrong)
4. Tumblr post doing research which is the source for the above article in which the author is merely unsure about whether they should be exclusive which is as close as we've gotten so far
5. a Twitter post boldly stating they're exclusive
6. a Carrd saying they're exclusive
and then the last three results just have it as A Pronoun without commenting on intersex status. 7 is a thread where that's irrelevant and 8 & 9 are underdeveloped pronoun archives
give me a fucking break.
the pronoun wiki article above ONLY cites mogai-flaggot's blog. brings up geoffrey chaucer for no reason?
the reddit post's comments all appear to be perisex people saying "this is what i've heard." which is fine, but i would have liked to see input from an intersex person as well. when OP asked a commenter why shi/hir pronouns are exclusive, they linked to a tweet that is no longer available.
lgbt wiki also cite's mogai-flaggot's blog, but also number 4, the tumblr post doing research into it.
as for the post, i think it's good! turns out i was wrong about them originating from chakats, but it still is from the furry fandom. now, obviously it came from a place of fetishization, which again, is very bad. but nowadays that specific piece of information is generally unknown, and i've even seen people claim that shi/hir was a pronoun set used derogatorily on intersex sex workers (???). again, no citation, just word of mouth. now, knowing this, i think it's completely justified to be uncomfortable with perisex people using those pronouns. that said, it's really stretching far to call them slurs, considering i haven't seen anecdotes of people using them derogatorily irl, towards a person (but i don't doubt it's happened to someone, somewhere). also, a derogatory term is not always a slur (eg calling a pwNPD a narc is usually derogatory, but not a slur).
5. twitter is not a source
6. carrd is not a source
7. neither of the above have citations or source the claim.
you can't use the furry pronouns because 4chan said so.
listening to intersex voices also means listening to even unpopular opinions, and considering them. you might come to the same conclusion as before, but you might learn something along the way.
the road to becoming a kinder person has been a hard one for me. i don't enjoy hurting people, in fact, it usually makes me feel pretty awful.
i think the idea that it's always easy to be kind to others can, at times, actively push people away. it's true that kindness costs nothing, but some people need to get something out of it in order to be kind.
and i don't think that's inherently bad.
i'm not talking about equivalent exchange, or power over someone, or demanding compensation. rather, there are natural benefits to taking care of others.
as someone who cares a lot about reputation, i like that people view me positively when i am kind to people. i don't like being disliked, so being mean negatively affects me as much as the people around me.
if you like material things, you might receive gifts from people because you were kind to them. being kind in the workplace helps you build connections to climb higher. being kind opens up new opportunities for you, maybe even a shot at fame. beint kind gets people to listen.
TL:DR - i think doing good things for selfish reasons is still a net positive as long as nobody is being hurt
After a very thorough search through the archives, I can now state quite confidently that Mitsuki did not in fact explicitly claim to be intersex.
Though given "hir" choice of pronouns, I hope you can see why we got confused.
This does not change my conclusions. The use of these pronouns is still suspect. Good day.
a) nobody is entitled to know about another person's reproductive organs
b) as an intersex person, shi/hir are just pronouns. seriously, there are NO exclusive pronouns with the exception of like. slurs. nobody irl cares.
c) this is weird and gross and going way too far.
FYI, shi/hir is intersex-exclusive because it WAS historically used as a slur before being reclaimed.
as far as i can tell, based on actual research and not just word of mouth, they originated from an original furry species in the 90's. that said, the species (all of whom were intersex) were sexualized by the creator and the community who participated in the species, which is OBVIOUSLY BAD. but i haven't been able to find a source stating they were used derogatorily irl that isn't from social media. if you can find actual historical evidence, do let me know, because i would love to see it, genuinely.
i am aware this is a pretty unpopular opinion online. and that's fine, and i am of course open to being wrong, unlike some people here. i don't believe in exclusive pronouns. but if you can show me historical evidence, i will gladly accept that i've made a mistake.
either way, speculation on someone's reproductive health based on PROUNOUNS on TUMBLR is wildly inappropriate and distasteful. the fact that you think this is okay is pretty alarming.
edit: also we're really taking the word of a random 4chan user? you have to be stupid to think anything posted about labels or pronouns or culture on /lgbt/ is genuine and in good faith. fucking idiots.
i'm probably more endo-positive than most people in my circles would like, but meh. do whatever you want forever, it doesn't effect me.
of course, i have my doubts about certain things, but really that's none of my business. i have no interest in voicing those doubts publicly.
i think we should all care less about what others are doing.
After a very thorough search through the archives, I can now state quite confidently that Mitsuki did not in fact explicitly claim to be intersex.
Though given "hir" choice of pronouns, I hope you can see why we got confused.
This does not change my conclusions. The use of these pronouns is still suspect. Good day.
a) nobody is entitled to know about another person's reproductive organs
b) as an intersex person, shi/hir are just pronouns. seriously, there are NO exclusive pronouns with the exception of like. slurs. nobody irl cares.
c) this is weird and gross and going way too far.
my understanding of The Drama based on what little i know:
what dia said about causing a rape was wrong
sophie is so cruel that nobody really wants to defend her and we would all rather sweep this under the rug.
she probably would do the same thing in a real situation, at least that's what i think. regardless of if that's true or not, that's the kind of reputation she has, where people don't think she's above the enabling abuse to prove a point or whatever.
that's all i have to say about this.
Genuine question for other systems, and a general statement about the state of the community.
System discourse is so pointlessly stupid. It's 2026, genuinely and truly who gaf. Do I believe in non-traumagenic systems? No. If someone tells me they're non-traumagenic, am I going to tell them to kill themselves and die? No lol.
Am I so incredibly well versed that I can pass judgement on everyone and anyone who says they're a system? Fuck no. Everyones brain is different, who am I to tell Sally to jump off a cliff because her system isn't the same as mine. Have I seen some things in the community that I think are bullshit made by little kids? Yes. That's why I don't interact with it.
People need to learn to start protecting their fucking peace dude. If you don't like a community, don't interact with it. It's frustrating that a life altering (ba dum tss) scary disorder that I have is mocked and has misinformation spread about it, but truly, it's so much easier to block and scroll instead of harping on it and telling someone who is probably 12 to blow their brains out.
It's upsetting to see things you don't like or agree with, I understand, but at some point you have to pull yourself up by the bootstrap and grow a fucking pair. Not everyone that "fakes" DID/OSDD is faking mental illness. It could be a BARRAGE of different illnesses that they mistook for being plurality. Not everyone is privileged. Not everyone can afford a diagnosis, and I always keep that in mind when I talk about MY diagnosis.
If you think that telling someone on tumblr to die is a good use of your time and energy, go get a job. If you already have one? Go get a second one. Pick up a hobby. Learn to knit or join a club or SOMETHING. That person on the other side of the screen isn't going to magically change their mindset because you told them that they're a horrible guy who deserves nothing but the worst. In fact? That'll probably make them double down.
I don't care what kind of system you are. If you have some kind of negative experience to rant about or recall? Send it over to my ask box. I'll rate it 1-10 and give it a few big booms or something. Just curious to see how everyone feels about the hellhole called the system community.
Can everyone just mind their own business for two seconds. The block button exists. Go make out with it.
weirdest opinion i have is that i think syscourse and plurality as a whole are part of a bona fide internet rabbit hole and i am just patiently waiting for some internet mysteries youtuber to talk about it. i think someone like farrell mcguire could handle it with tact. perhaps even the internet investigator.
jessicur please make a video about sophiecourse
internet investigator please make a video about whatever the fuck is going on right now
your take on ramcoa was really refreshing. a lot of people thoughtlessly defend the terms thinking anyone expressing questions about the theories around them are doubting severe abuse exists at all which is just... no. you don't have to post this, in fact i would recommend you not bc it could draw some very bad attention your way that nobody needs to deal with, but creature-wizard is a blog on here that's posted extensively about project monarch, the conspiracy that ramcoa refers to, and debunking it. no use of any of the false memory foundation stuff that people (rightfully) take major issue with. just directly debunking primary sources.
i appreciate it, anon. i'm familiar with creature-wizard's blog also!
i really understand where people are coming from, and i think it's right to believe people when they talk about their experiences. that said, i think there also should be a soft line to draw when we veer into... certain territory.
there's nothing i can really say here that i didn't say in my previous post, and i don't want to come off as lecturing. in essence, i think sometimes the truth is stretched a little far online specifically, and that's all i have to say about that.
i'm young and pretty new to adulthood. but i currently am and always have been more comfortable with people a little older than me than people in my age group, which is something that often frustrates me purely because of the difficulties it causes me.
i know it sounds totally lame and egotistical, and it very well could be, but i just don't really relate to my actual peers very much. even my closest friends from school feel very far away from me, even though they are certainly people i trust and care about. i feel restless and uncomfortable around most people who i should get along with incredibly well in theory.
i think it's because of the very different path my life has taken from the norm. or maybe i just don't like people all that much in general.
this syscourse shit get serious. IM OUT! no more syscourse im now holding hands with pro endos and frolicking in the fields idegaf anymore i give up
i think syscourse has completely lost the plot at this point. infinite monkeys at type writers theory.
