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good things are coming

[icaseybaybee]

[vexheart]

[placeeee]

[werenotreallystrangers]

you don't just marry a person. you marry their ecosystem. their food. the temperature of their house. their sleep schedule. their friends.their family. their way of moving through the world

[theambitiouswoman]

This made me think about all the “I can change them” people and how in reality, it usually ends up changing you. The reason we become those people isn’t just control but the hope that love can create the safety we are craving. That we never got or aren’t giving to ourselves. It’s attaching to potential instead of reality. Believing that if you can fix what feels off, you won’t get hurt later. That if you can shape the situation, you can finally relax

Sometimes it comes from old patterns where love to you meant earning, proving, or holding everything together. So you start adjusting yourself your standards, your needs, your routines,trying to make the relationship work. But you don’t change someone into alignment, you choose someone who already is because that “ecosystem” isn’t a small detail. It’s your everyday life. It’s what you wake up to, how you feel in your own body around them

And if you constantly have to reshape yourself to fit into theirs, you’re not building a life together you’re slowly abandoning pieces of yourself just to stay. And this expands to everything else in your life. Just to avoid looking inward, and really going for the love you deserve

[aidashakur]

[loveletters2myself]

the most powerful nervous system regulator is having conversations with God

[rhapsodicdaisies]

[eggsdoodz]

🐞♡ spring is on the way !

[naryamirie]

just saw this personal ad from 1966 (sourced here) and god. this is really it

[fortuneaday]

[lady-dedlock]

It was a cold grey day in late November.

Daphne Du Maurier, Jamaica Inn

[softwaring]

by @bridgeydoodles (ig)

[gogumagirl]

Windows no. 2 nuit by Mathieu Walter (2022)

[zoomerbro]

[loveletters2myself]

this is how july will be spent

[loveletters2myself]

people will really be bothered from you for being soft, and living life at ease. i’m sorry, i don’t run on chaos, cortisol, and victim mentality. i show up for myself. i put in the work. i’m kind because it keeps my spirit light, not for applause. you should try it, and you’ll feel less triggered from others living with calmness and appreciation.

[ahotknife]

the thing is that childhood doesn't just end when you turn 18 or when you turn 21. it's going to end dozens of times over. your childhood pet will die. actors you loved in movies you watched as a kid will die. your grandparents will die, and then your parents will die. it's going to end dozens and dozens of times and all you can do is let it. all you can do is stand in the middle of the grocery store and stare at freezers full of microwave pizza because you've suddenly been seized by the memory of what it felt like to have a pizza party on the last day of school before summer break. which is another ending in and of itself