Writing a Non-Binary Character
Even being nonbinary myself, I was still raised in a society where my mind is used to gendering people. Below are a few decisions I had to make when I began including nonbinary characters in my work, and things you should know about any non-binary character you are going to write. These answers will likely be different for every nonbinary person and character so keep that in mind.Â
How Does Your Character IdentifyÂ
A character can identify as being just non-binary, but there are a lot of options. My character is genderless, meaning that the character does not identify with any gender at all. A character might be gender neutral, meaning that they do not feel particularly drawn to any gender. There are so many gender identities out there, so make sure you find the identity that best fits your character. For more gender identities, look here.Â
What Pronouns Does Your Character Use
The pronouns we see most often are he/him, she/her, and they/them. However, there are plenty of pronoun options.Â
(He/Him): He went to the store to buy himself chips for his party. Â (She/Her): She went to the store to buy herself chips for her party. (They/Them): They went to the store to buy themself chips for their party. (No pronouns): Charlie went to the store to buy chips for the party. (Ne/Nem): Ne went to the store to buy nemself chips for ner party.
Keep in mind a non-binary person chooses their own pronouns. Being gender neutral, I used she/her pronouns for a long time. I recently decided to start using they/them pronouns. It is perfectly acceptable to continue using binary pronouns, such as he/him or she/her pronouns to refer to, say, an agender character that chooses those pronouns (regardless of if the characterâs sex), but some agender people might prefer they/them, ze/zer, etc.
What Name Does Your Character Use Naming nonbinary or trans characters is different than naming other characters - because it is likely they chose their name themselves (but some trans and nonbinary people keep their birth names too!) If they did choose their name, the name says a lot about who the character is.Â
Consider what a character values more than what the character is. For example, your character might be sweet, kind hearted, and gentle. I might name them âGraceâ or âLiamâ or âAngelâ. However, if that character wants to be braver or stronger, they might prefer to call themselves âRavenâ, âXanderâ, or âThornâ. Consider genderless names as well, âAlexâ, âSpencerâ, âCadenâ. You can find lists of names online. A trans character may wish for a very traditional name, if your character is a trans woman she change her name to âAmandaâ or âClaireâ. Â Some characters might want unique names, like âLynixâ or âBlaydeâ. Know your character well before you let them choose their name.Â
 There are a few names nonbinary people seem to really love: Alex, Sam, Charlie, Ash, Luna, Indigo, and Willow come up a lot in the community.Â
 Also, unless itâs relevant to the story, you do not have to include their birth name.Â
 *Side note: While some non-binary people identify as trans, and some trans people identify as non-binary, but this isnât always the case! More questions on non-binary life? Let me know! Best of Luck and Happy Writing, Marina MarinaProseâs Writing Blog Follow on Facebook | Twitter | Join on Discord












