Anyone else miss when kids were just⊠kids?
Iâve heard that the some of the antis are prolly literal 11 year olds (makes sense because of their lack of knowledge but WHAT)
I meanâ donât get me wrong, Iâve done my fair share ofâ if I think about things remotely similar to these experiencesâ looking and writing wattpad stories, fanfiction.com, Tumblr, and using Episode and stuff at around that age (courtesy of being the weird kid with unrestricted internet access).
But I was weird in peace. I was quiet. I knew my place.
Sure, I had fictional crushes. I got into loads of fandoms. I occasionally stumbled into stories that were definitely not written with my age group in mind. I spent a certain amount of time online, though I also went out a lot to play with other kids and socialize. None of that is exactly new.
What surprises me is how many kids seem to be creating and treating fandom discourse like a full-time job and being bratty about things that arenât for them. At that age, I was mostly hopping between hyperfixations, making up stories, and then going outside when my friends texted me. The internet was a hobby, not my entire worldview.
Maybe Iâm sounding old, but finding out some of the loudest people in these arguments are barely in middle school makes a looooot of things click into place. Itâs not even the interests themselves that surprise meâ kids have always been curious and wandered into spaces they probably shouldnât. Itâs the level of investment. The certainty. The unhealthy level of obsession and parasocialism, and the lack of respect that these CHILDREN seem to have. The way some seem to build their whole identity around online discourse.
Meanwhile, I was busy being cringe, touching grass, and moving on to my next fictional healthy obsession three minutes later.
And, of course, their attitudes. At that age, I was always polite to people, online or otherwise. We learnt a lot about empathy and thinking about others, which is something these kids lack.
I meanâ dude⊠These children not only stumbled into someone elseâs house, but theyâre also acting like theyâre the ones who own it, rearranging the furniture, yelling at the residents, and then getting shocked and furious when people point out theyâve lived there for years.
Kids ending up in fandom spaces, reading things theyâre probably too young for, having fictional crushes, and getting way too invested in characters? Thatâs been happening since the dawn of the internet. Itâs why a lot of us grew up being weird kids (that, and also real life hyperfixations).
Whatâs weird is the attitude of walking into communities that existed long before they arrived and immediately trying to rewrite all the rules and harassing the directors and actors whoâve worked so hard to bring it to life. Itâs like showing up halfway through a movie and demanding everyone change the plot because you donât like whatâs happening.
Mind you, they donât even KNOW whatâs happening in the game. If they did, theyâd know that Valko is important to the main story and has been foreshadowed. If they did, theyâd know they can ignore him if they donât like him. If they did know, they wouldnât be playing a game made for adults and ruining the entire game for itâs intended audience and being so ungrateful over something that doesnât affect themâ that they were never supposed to even be a part ofâ that they have to tear down a beautiful character that was made with so much love from the development team who had worked so hard on him and made the game we all know and love.
The antis donât love the game, they just loved the idea of an unhealthy parasocial relationship where they simp over a character so much that it is physically and mentally so bad for them. For a character who wouldnât even like them. So âweâ does not refer to them.
Iâm not bashing on them for not knowing. Theyâre kids. Thatâs why they shouldnât be here.
Iâm bashing on them for deciding to join a community made for an older audience, barely understand anything, and immediately act like they have the authority to decide what should stay and what should be removed.
Thereâs a difference between saying âthis isnât for meâ and demanding that everyone else change because you personally donât like something.
Maybe this is my âback in my dayâ momentâ though I wouldnât call myself old at all, but when I was that age and found myself in spaces clearly meant for older people, my first thought wasnât âeveryone here needs to change.â It was âoh, maybe this space wasnât made for me.â
If I felt tempted to stayâ something I donât recommend but I didnât know better at that ageâ I treated people with respect and didnât whine and cry over not getting what I wanted with others when I knew I wasnât even supposed to be there. I didnât expect everyone else to rearrange an entire community around my personal preferences.
Kids being online every now and then isnât the issue. The issue is them looking into things they were not meant to see at that age and being disrespectful to the adults and the fandom that have been here from the beginning. The world doesnât revolve around their experience, and thatâs something they need to learn.
I hope that the internet becomes more regulated one day and that there are better ways to separate age groups online (with privacy-respecting methods, not invasive systems or AI guessing peopleâs ages). Certain spaces exist for certain audiences for a reason.
Kids need room to be kids. They need time away from screens, time to socialize, time to explore other interests, and time to learn basic things like boundaries, discipline, respect, and understanding that not every space revolves around them.
And again, this isnât me saying âkids shouldnât be online ever.â That would be unrealistic. A lot of us grew up with the internet (before it was the mess it is now). A lot of us found communities, hobbies, and creativity through it.
But thereâs a difference between being a young person exploring the internet and being a young person who has made the internet their entire reality.
At the end of the day, kids need guidance. They need to learn that âI donât like thisâ doesnât automatically mean âthis should not exist.â They need to learn that other people have different tastes, different experiences, and different boundaries and that itâs okay for something that you donât like to exist because maybe someone else enjoys it or maybe itâs important and serves purpose for something bigger.
They also need to learn that not every space online is meant for them and, no matter if itâs real life or online, they need to respect every space.
Just like in real life, different places have different audiences, expectations, and rules. You wouldnât walk into a private club, a workplace, or a conversation between adults and immediately demand everyone change the environment to suit you. Online spaces work the same way.
Being curious is normal. Exploring new interests is normal. Finding fandoms and communities is normal. But part of growing up is learning when to step back, recognize âthis might not be for me,â and respect the people who are already there.
The internet is a huge place with room for everyoneâ but that doesnât mean every corner of it is meant for every person. If you find a corner you do like, have discipline, etiquette, respect, have some maturity, and learn more before joining.
I hope kids can be kids again one day, instead of being entitled internet brats meddling in spaces that were never meant for them. Theyâll only get themselves into a lot of unnecessary trouble and face adult consequences for their bratty actions if they donât.
No wonder these people were so immature and lacked basic knowledge + comprehension and embarrassed themselves by showing that said lack of knowledge confidently (thatâs not to say everyone is a minor or that all minors are disrespectful. I know quite a few respectful kids, both in my family and as a babysitter. The antis are probably a mix of minors and adults. Remember: adults can be brainless morons too.)
We need to restrict internet access and let kids be kids again.
Keep fighting, stay strong, and take care of yourselves, LADies! We got this. Love you <333