Nine steps to gain full control over your sub
(Modified from a very well thought out post by @m4mdiscipline. Most of the credit is his. My modifications were to remove whatever i disagreed with, add in some thoughts of my own, improve formatting and readability, and correct mistakes)
Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. Use this information to your advantage.
Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.
Make him show his loyalty to you regularly. Reward him when he does, even if it’s just with praise.
Aside from family, close friends, and work, give him minimal privacy. Don’t hide this process from him. Make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”
2. Punish him for infractions, no exceptions!
Don’t let him get away with anything! When you let your sub get away with something, you are telling him that you don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.
You can spank, paddle, or whip him.
Humiliate him past what is easy for him.
Write a short essay explaining why his behavior was wrong, or a report on some reading you assigned.
Ground him/take away privileges.
Make him do something he hates.
Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.
Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending your control over him as a punishment. That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.
3. Routinely discipline him. This is different than punishment.
Spank him at least once a week, just because you can. Not too hard, not too soft. For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.
Five to ten minutes of corner time can do wonders, to promote meditation.
Routine discipline will save you time and energy in the long run. You will have to punish him less as a result.
Taking care of you is an essential of his discipline. Have him do your laundry, cleaning, etc.
4. On some level, even if it’s small, keep your sub horny for you.
Sexualize nonsexual things or activities you are interested in. He will see whatever it is you’ve sexualized as such and be more interested and eager to engage.
Have your sub do some or all of your body grooming. This can be your bath, shower, nails, shaving, trimming, etc.
Tell him when and what you’re going to do to him in the near future.
Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
Make him give you orgasms. This is different from sex. This is a service.
Let him rest on you to smell you as you watch TV or read.
Give him underwear/items of yours to smell as he sleeps.
5. Control your own feelings of guilt.
When it comes to your control over your sub, be firm!
Some toughness will be needed from time to time to help break your sub down.
Your sub may not want everything you give him or do to him, but he needs it.
Letting your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because you feel guilty adequately addressing it is weak.
Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them. Sometimes real men need to show the fag that he is inferior. This can’t always be done by talking. And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.
Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs. You are filling his needs.
Remember, you both need to be happy. But happiness comes from different places for different people. Where there is good communication, and your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then you are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.
A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop you from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does, be there for him.
6. Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.
Have him wear a butt-plug, perhaps Wi-Fi enabled, or with a hollow rattling core, or with a dangling bell.
Have him be naked or nearly so, around you and or your friends.
Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.
If he has trouble keeping his hands off his penis without permission, make him wear a chastity device.
Teach him commands or hand signals such as “drop to your knees,” “kiss my crotch,” etc. In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.
Make him masturbate for you.
Treat him as an inferior in public, such as by carrying bags, opening doors, etc.
Make him eat his own cum sometimes.
Talk down to him in front of others.
7. Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please you. Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.
If you want to change his body to your liking, do so. Control his workouts, diet etc. Make sure to be realistic with this one.
Make sure he is available during some of your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve you during those times.
Put him on a sleeping schedule. Lots of fags are unable to adequately manage their sleep times. The better rested he is, the better he will serve you.
Go through his closet or dresser and set aside any clothing you don’t like him to be wearing.
Sign him up to learn new tasks or perfect tasks/skills that will help you, such as massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.
Change his grooming habits to your liking.
8. Help your sub be grateful for everything he has. Make sure you are at the top of that list. One great way to do this is to deny him things. Yep, it’s time to say “No.” Subs need boundaries and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.
You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.
Make him show his gratitude to you often. Faggots will show this to you in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to you.
Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain, take it from him.
You can take things/items from him that you know he does not need but likes. A caution here: Make sure he can afford for you to take them, and that they are not of sentimental value. Let him know from time to time that you enjoy something that you took from him.
Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what you make him do.
9. None of these actions will work without real trust.
If your sub is your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes you and your power.
If your sub is not your partner, make sure you are real friends. Let him know you appreciate how his inferiority completes you. The more you two know about and do with each other, the more thoroughly you can control him.
Part of trust on the sub’s part is knowing you will follow through when you say you are going to do something to him or for him or are going to make him do something. Follow through always.
When a sub fully trusts you, he can submit to you his mind and privacy. Letting you go in and rearrange/manage his life.
Subs need constant reassurance. Let him know that no matter what, he is yours. If a serious sub feels disposable, he will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.
If your life is getting too hard for a bit or you need help with something, trust that your sub will be able to take over for you and act in your best interest until you are back in shape. Giving a sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that you are not actively controlling him 100% of the time. If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for you, he is not a right match for you.
Talk to your sub often. Ask him how he is feeling. Let him honestly know how you are feeling on anything and everything.
By taking things away from him, you are in a sense rewarding him when you give them back. Also, nothing he has is his forever. You need to retake things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right. Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog. Your sub needs to be docile enough that you can take his food away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and will patiently wait until the food is returned.
Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with friends or family. Make him realize that the only reason you allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member. Make sure he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness he brings them. Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones while under your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed - and encouraged - to keep and even strengthen the bonds he has with them.
