Curious Wayfarer

Well over half a century, going strong & still learning

[livelovelaugh-777]

[fu-boss]

Real life Road Runner

[rockyp77mk3]

I can't help but be a little disappointed that there were no anvils, painted tunnels, rockets, roller skates, or jet engines involved.

[roughribo]

Lot of folks know about safewords. Lot of folks are aware of tapping being a safe signal, or a way to nonverbally alert their dom they need to safeword, usually through touch or hand signals. Not as many know about safe objects. And I've had quite a few folks ask me what they are after I've used the term in conversation.

In situations where a submissive may be doing high risk edgeplay or will be unable to speak and unable to use their body to signal you (such as an all body tie with a gag) their safety can be better monitored with a safe object.

A safe object is simply an object the submissive holds in their hand that is noticeable if they drop it. If they need to safeword for any reason they drop the object. If they pass out during edge play they will lose control of their grip and drop it and play should always immediately stop and the safety of the sub always be immediately tended to when that object is dropped.

Some objects I've always recommended:

Keys: everyone tends to have keys and they make a lot of noise when you drop them and make very little noise when held.

Bouncy balls: specifically ones that make sounds and light up when dropped can be very useful if you can avoid triggering them in your hand.

Beanie baby/bean bag: look I know your beanie baby probably shouldn't see you like this but it makes some noise when dropped and is pretty easy to spot when it's missing from your hand. You can also squeeze it pretty hard without hurting yourself.

Typically you want something that will rattle or clang when dropped but not while held (so no small bottle of pills or a rattle) so it alerts the dom only when dropped. Nothing that will injure the holder, so if you're a sub that's going to squeeze hard from play, opt for something softer. But make sure it has enough weight to it that it just drops immediately when let go of.

And if you are a dom in this scenario you should be constantly scanning to make sure your sub is holding on to it. You always treat a dropped safe object as a full-blown red and get the sub out of whatever they're in the middle of being put through when it's dropped, even if by accident.

The reason for this is because in higher risk play, this object can be one of the only indicators you get before risking injury and is absolutely CRITICAL to even participating in this play (breathplay I'm looking at you).

It's like a gun, even if you know it's unloaded, you always treat it like it's loaded because most accidents happen when people don't treat it like it's loaded. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. No exceptions. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. Have I said it enough yet. Is it sticking? Safety before pleasure.

So doms remember: the riskier the play the more frequently you should be scanning for your sub's safe object, no exceptions.

And you may say well that doesn't apply to me, I don't do high risk play. And that's fine, but the amount of people I've met engaging in high-risk edgeplay not taking any precautions whatsoever is way too many, and I'm passing on my safety knowledge in the hope that it helps someone avoid getting themselves seriously hurt or injured.

And now you know too and can help pass this knowledge along. But if you're only ever in lower risk scenarios, sticking to safewords is not only perfectly fine but recommended. But everyone should know what safe objects are even if you don't need to use them.

[fleur-angedesir]

[beardedmrbean]

that was thrilling for all involved I'm sure

[beardedmrbean]

Next up someone is going to claim that the Narnia series isn't kids books.

Kids books is probably not the best way to word it, you can enjoy them at every age, including your childhood, as you get older you may find new truths in them, but they're still good for any age.

[cookingwithroxy]

I want you to understand this. I NEED you to understand this. My mother read me the hobbit as bedtime story, and I started pushing myself to read before pre-school so I could in fact read the hobbit for myself instead of having to wait for bedtime.

I didn't do so right away but jesus wept I PUSHED myself to learn to read SPECIFICALLY so I could read The Hobbit! It is, in fact, a children's story! And children only see page count as 'there is a lot of this fun story to read!'

[beardedmrbean]

I've enjoyed this bit o story since the first time I ever heard it, not only because it reinforces the fact that YES The Hobbit is a children's story, but it also lets us know that the Tolkien males are just like that.

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My brother had the 50th anniversary printing, so this was something I'd read in the book when I stole it from him to read myself at 11 I think I was, maybe 10.

Also if it wasn't a kids book I imagine the trolls would have had more eloquent names than Tom, Burt, and Bill.

[notwearingknickers]

[makingdonalddrumpfagain]

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[moonwane-wolfsbane]

Mythology Asks

[somekindofswitch]

Anubis: How do you feel about death?

Atum: What are your greatest imperfections?

Bastet: Do you have any cats?

Hathor: What brings you joy?

Horus: What is one thing you've had to fight for in your life?

Osiris: Do you believe in the underworld?

Ra: Do you have any major responsibilities or importance?

Thoth: Do you like to read/write?

Arawn: What is the most terrifying thing you've ever done?

Bran: How is your health?

Brighid: Tell us about your relationship with your father.

Cernunnos: What is your favorite animal?

Danu: What is your relationship with your mother?

Morrigan: What do you think happens when we die?

Olwen: What is your favorite flower?

Rhiannon: Have you ever been betrayed?

Bragi: What kind of music do you listen to?

Freya: Have you ever been in love?

Freyr: Do you have any children?

Hœnir: Are you a silent or talkative person?

Iounn: How old are you?

Loki: What is the best trick you've ever pulled on someone?

Odin: What is your family like?

Thor: Would you consider yourself pretty powerful?

Tree: What have you done with your life? What are you going to do with it?

Aphrodite: What do you think of yourself?

Ares: Are you an easy person to anger?

Athena: Would you consider yourself an artist?

Apollo: Do you play any instruments?

Dionysus: Do you drink?

Hades: Do you have a bad reputation?

Hekate: Have you ever tried to communicate with the dead?

Hermes: Have you ever stolen anything?

Poseidon: Are you a moody person?

Zeus: Are you a confident person?

Jupiter: Would people say that you are intimidating or fairly approachable?

Pluto: Where do you think we go when we die?

Apollo & Dianna: Do you prefer to be up during the day or at night?

Mars: Have you ever gotten into a fight?

Minerva: Do you generally give good advice?

Proserpine: Have you ever felt trapped?

Plutus: Do you have a job?

Venus: Have you ever had your heart broken?

Vesta: Do you like being home or do you try to get out whenever you can?

Morpheus: Do you daydream often? Of what?

[famouspainterwombat]

[wolfs-little-red]

That kangaroo teleported himself to another zip code

[soberscientistlife]

@sgrstk

[sweetinnocentredhead]

#truth 🌱🌹🌱

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

“Everything seems to have a soul – wood, stones, the wine we drink and the earth we tread on. Everything, do you hear me, absolutely everything.”

— Nikos Kazantzakis, tr. by Carl Wildman, from “Zorba the Greek,” wr. c. 1946

[orwell]

Amusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman, 1985.

[komputerwelt]

The fact that nobody is getting their comeuppance in the United States as shit as the UK government is, at least people are paying the price for out-and-out corruption. But that's precisely the point of Trump's administration, if you take hold of the institutions of the state for yourself you can subvert justice.

Which raises some questions about the efficacy of a constitution if the head-of-state can act as a de facto monarch with impunity.

[readmarkclippastecollage]

The Founding Fathers had not considered that the three branches of government and the fourth estate would collude to create a modern monarchy.

[allthedesiredusernamesaretaken]

... memory lane ...

Robert Redford & Meryl Streep in 'Out of Africa', December 18, 1985

" I don't want to live someone else's idea of how to live. Don't ask me to do that. I don't want to find out one day that I'm at the end of someone else's life. "

[this-old-stomping-ground]

[skeletonclaw]

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