I hate when I'm looking through lists of LGBTQ friendly cities and the criteria is like "this city has an amazing club scene, thrilling night life, and lots of hot guys on Grindr, so you can live fierce! 💅"
I just want to know if I'm going to get hate crimed or not, please.
And, like, not to shit on that lifestyle, either. I was absolutely a slut (you don't have to be to want those things btw) and I understand the appeal. I am absolutely on board if that's what you want out of a LGBTQ experience from a city. Live your life how it makes you happy, love ya 😘
But I just wish that wasn't like, one of the biggest criteria. That's not what some of us are looking for.
Like, I'm 32 and very happily in a committed relationship. I want to know if I'll have access to hormones and trans friendly doctors, and not just transition related ones. I want to be able to walk down the street with either (or both) of my partners without fear. I want to know I'm in a city and state where my personhood will be respected and my rights are protected.
At this point in my life, I want to settle down and live my queer little life in peace.
It also severely undersells smaller towns that while it won't have a thriving club scene, you will be welcomed into the community without fear.
That's what I want. My queer experience and needs are just as valid.
That’s what I want. My
queer experience and needs
are just as valid.
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