no thanks im gay

saiph. inclusionist. plu/them. good vibes and discourse. filipino. whole ass lesbian. aspec. feminist and pro-choice. no terfs, biphobes, panphobes, aphobes, homophobes, transphobes, pedophiles pls. about me // main: saiphsanctuary

[socialistexan]

I hate when I'm looking through lists of LGBTQ friendly cities and the criteria is like "this city has an amazing club scene, thrilling night life, and lots of hot guys on Grindr, so you can live fierce! 💅"

I just want to know if I'm going to get hate crimed or not, please.

[socialistexan]

And, like, not to shit on that lifestyle, either. I was absolutely a slut (you don't have to be to want those things btw) and I understand the appeal. I am absolutely on board if that's what you want out of a LGBTQ experience from a city. Live your life how it makes you happy, love ya 😘

But I just wish that wasn't like, one of the biggest criteria. That's not what some of us are looking for.

Like, I'm 32 and very happily in a committed relationship. I want to know if I'll have access to hormones and trans friendly doctors, and not just transition related ones. I want to be able to walk down the street with either (or both) of my partners without fear. I want to know I'm in a city and state where my personhood will be respected and my rights are protected.

At this point in my life, I want to settle down and live my queer little life in peace.

It also severely undersells smaller towns that while it won't have a thriving club scene, you will be welcomed into the community without fear.

That's what I want. My queer experience and needs are just as valid.

[the-haiku-bot]

That’s what I want. My

queer experience and needs

are just as valid.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[politijohn]

[maybespeon]

oh, do i have a job? mm no thank u actually

[soft-sapphic-love]

hi i was just wondering if you could help me.

im not sure if what i feel for women is romantic or queerplatonic attraction. im drawn to women obviously, i can immediately see that theyre beautiful and stunning and awesome and i want to have deep bonds with them, but i always find myself having to force daydreaming about being romantically or sexually intimate with them. i always find myself picking them apart and breaking them down into the features of them that one would find typically attractive in that way, and if i ever can imagjne an intimate scenario, its always the lady and a vqgue blank placeholder, but never myself.

but i long for woman as a partner who i can ve close with, maybe share a home with ans love so deeply. i juat cant think of anything overtly romantic or sexual that said partner and myself would engage in without focus and deliberate thought. ita not an immediate thing that just comes to me.

idk if this makes sense. can you help? thanks

hi there! i actually completely understand how you feel! if you have to force yourself to feel romantic things for women, then you most likely aren't attracted to women romantically, same goes for sexual attraction. i recently figured out my sapphic attraction is queerplatonic and aego-queerplatonic, and what you're describing sounds exactly how i felt, and definitely sounds like it could be queerplatonic in nature! of course, attraction is different for everyone, but that does sound like queerplatonic attraction and i recommend trying out that term for a little while to see if it feels right!

i spent a lot of time trying to force myself to feel romantic and sexual things for women, as i thought i couldn't be a "true" sapphic without that, but attraction is complicated and queerplatonic attraction absolutely is real and valid!

[maybespeon]

yknow i think it's also important to mention that romantic and sexual attraction are not criterion for a beautiful, deep relationship of any kind. many people, myself included, have partners/intimacy that isn't romantic or sexual at all, and yet i love them & my relationship with my whole heart. it doesn't make our experiences less meaningful or our connection less important than those who experience romantic or sexual attraction to their partner!

being aesthetically attracted to women, attracted to the potential close bond that you can see yourself having, or just wanting a woman to share your home with are also types of valid attraction that you can label as sapphic if you wish to. as soft-sapphic-love said, attraction is complicated and queerplatonic attraction to women is as sapphic as you want it to be! i also just wanted to draw attention to the idea of intimacy only being romantic/sexual because to see a lot of baby queers (sapphics specifically) worrying about not loving their partner enough if they're not sexually/romantically attracted to them, despite wanting to share their life with them. it sucks to see them doubting their queer identity because i know that it's normalized to think of a hierarchy when it comes to categorizing relationships (platonic, romantic, sexual, etc).

hope you figure it out, anon!

[satyriconmp3]

sounds like a derry girls episode

[maybespeon]

hey trans lesbians - i love u

[sapphic-sprite]

gosh I just love aroace lesbians! I hope all aroace lesbians are having a good day!

[venus-sanctuary]

hello friends!! some of us made a nonbinary lesbians server when the other one got shut down so please feel free to join this one if ur a nonbinary lesbian like me!! this server is also on disboard and the disboard description has a list of things that we offer and include in this server!!

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[wishbzne-deactivated20210526]

journey to the interior, margaret atwood

[killtheteendream]

[onimuoyinbo]

A lady asked me how much it cost to make her a purse of a well known style in cotton fabric of a particular design and colour. £35 - I said. She said she thought that was a bit dear for a purse. I asked her how much she thought it would cost her to make one then. She thought about £10 as you can get similar in Primarni for £8 OK, so for £10 do it yourself I said Her reply was - I don’t know how to. I said for £10 I’ll teach you how to. So besides saving you £25 you’ll get the knowledge if you ever want to make another. She seemed pleased and agreed. OK I said, you’ll need a machine, cutting mat, rotary cutter, rivet press and the pattern. Oh well….. I don’t have many of things and I can’t justify buying all that just to make one purse. Well then for another £10 more I’ll lend you my stuff to you so you can do it at my house. Okay, she says. Great, I replied, come round on Tuesday afternoon and we’ll make a start Oh, I can’t come on Tuesday I’m having my hair done! Sorry, but I’m only available Tuesday to teach you and lend you my stuff. Other days are busy with other bags and purses. Bugger, that means I’ll have to miss my haircut. Oh, I forgot, I said, to make one yourself you also have to pay for the sundry costs. Now she’s confused – what on earth are they?? Fabric search time, electric, wear and tear on the machine, blades for the cutter etc She looks at me and says – but that’s ridiculous you can absorb all that cost as you are charging me to borrow your stuff. I could, I said, but I’m not spending time looking for the fabric you need you can do that yourself – you need 3 fat quarters of fabric, buckram, woven interfacing, non woven interfacing, a lock, rivets and matching thread. So she then says - I’ve been thinking, I think I’d rather pay you the £35. It’s too complicated to make one for myself, it wouldn’t be as well made and it would cost me a hell of a lot more than £35. When you pay for a hand crafted item, you pay not only for the material used, but also: - knowledge - experience - tools - services - time - enthusiasm Only by knowing all the elements necessary for the production of a certain item can you estimate the actual cost.

[hickeywiththegoodhair]

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[aidashakur]

PLEASE communicate to me when i’ve done something that bothers you or you don’t understand. let me apologize and learn

[nymika-arts]

The woods are lovely, dark and deep 🍃🍂

[nymika-arts]

Part 2 🍃

[nymika-arts]

I think I accidentally deleted half of this post so here’s part 3 and 4 again lol enjoy

[silkemoth]

witch hut 🌙 🌲 ☁️

[polyamaesthetic]

pansexual + neon art

requested by anon

pansexual: sexual attraction to all genders; sexual attraction regardless of gender

[duine-aiteach]

[ID: an image of a simple Celtic knot in the centre of the original rainbow, normal rainbow, gay man, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, nonbinary, asexual and aromantic flags]

[ID as Gaeilge: pictúir de snaidhm Cheilteach ar dhá bratachaí bogha báistí agus na bratachí aiteach, fear aerach, leispiach, déghnéasach, il-ghnéasach, trasinscneach, neamh-dhénártha, éighnéasach agus gan-rómáns]

I am interested in finding a way to easily show my pride at being Irish and being queer so made these. I decided to use a shamrock, a Celtic knot and the tri-spiral design from Newgrange. I placed them in the centre, large, but also to the top right, small.

Having made them all I think my favourite is the small tri-spiral but I have queued all six designs up so you can use whichever you like.

If you do use my edit for something please let me know - I’d love to see. Credit however isn’t needed.

This is post five of thirteen.