I just wanted to get something off my chest and this is a place I can dump junk out of my brain, feel free to scroll on if you’re not into reading drama.
I was just told that an ex-friend called me “toxic” because I wasn’t tolerating emotional abuse/manipulation from her anymore. I’m honestly not shocked, I’m just really impressed by the nerve of this bitch. She claimed that I told her to her face that I unfriended her just because I didn’t want to know if she ever killed herself... I told her that I couldn’t handle having a friend who threatened to kill themselves or move out of state to isolate themselves every single time a friend disagreed with her or pointed out any wrongdoing on her part.
The argument that we had that led up to it was stupid. It was like, really stupid. It was in regards to the schedule of financial aid disbursement dates for our school. She’d heard rumors from a facebook group, and I told her that I wouldn’t take that as a completely accurate source of info since it’s just a group of students that may or may not know everything about what was going on. We went back and forth a little bit and I just wanted it to end, so I said “okay”.
Then I got a big, long message in my DMs (the previous message was in a group chat along with mutual friends) telling me that she didn’t know why I was being so hostile and that she was just venting, and so on. In the meantime, she’s messaging a friend saying that she wants to die or that she wants to move away (I don’t remember which at this point because she used both threats interchangeably pretty often, the last time it happened she threatened to kill herself when our friend told her that they didn’t like her “joking” about their SO being ugly). I responded accordingly and told her that I was simply disagreeing and not being hostile and that if she was going to react in such a way every time someone disagrees with her then she needs to get help. She sent a few long messages and I needed some space, so I just ignored the messages to think about it. There were some more messages sent that I responded to in a little bit more of a snappy mood after all the melodrama, and I ended up unfriending her after a few days of just not responding and after telling her I needed the conversation to end, because the whole thing just really stuck with me and made me feel like things were not okay. I figured that maybe I would eventually cool down and that I could add her again once things had settled and I knew what to do or say to make amends.
Then she randomly started messaging my SO at work about what happened and why I blocked her, and decided to show up at my house unannounced. It was awkward. She apologized, and I told her that I don’t hate her but that I wanted her to get help for the sake of her and her friends. I told her that I’d deleted her because I hated the feeling that I’d find out one day that my friend killed herself over a dumb argument. I didn’t like not being able to have an adult discussion and tell someone I think they might be wrong without worrying about them either killing themselves or moving away because they didn’t like me because of it. She’s known for years that she needs mental help, she’s had the resources to get it if she wanted to. She chooses not to, and she and her friends suffer for it.
I will not apologize for what I said to her. I am not wrong for it. I don’t feel bad for it. NO ONE is entitled to anyone’s time, friendship, or emotional labor. If a person is detrimental to my own mental and emotional wellbeing, then I deserve to cut them off as an act of self-preservation. I wouldn’t really be shocked if she found this at some point, because she stalked another friend of ours who distanced themselves from her at one point and she tried contacting her on all kinds of social media platforms. If you’re reading this.... fuck off, take screenshots if you want. Tell everybody if you want. I know that I deserve not to be treated like this.
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