Behind the curtains

24 y/o, student in Austria. Back at it again. 170 cm// HW: ~90 kg// CW: 76 kg// GW1: 72 kg // GW2: 70 kgs // GW3: 67 kg// GW: 65 kg // UGW: 63 (I know that is not stick skinny - I got a heavily built body type, shoulders like a cabinet, soo...)

[oliviafitmomof3]

[angelwarm]

i hope that one day i will finally be ok….i’ll make a cherry pie when it is all over

[angelwarm]

today is the day

[joshpeck]

reblog the cherry pie to be ok

[thedailypositivityblog]

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[mebehindthecurtains]

I wish the had included a picture of the baby elephant and not just the light post. 😶

[mebehindthecurtains]

I don't want to be sad anymore.

If others (and I) can cry in public, I can also dance in public 🌸

[solvatochrome]

humans are meant to eat together…. sharing a meal…… preparing a feast together…. so much of american culture has like…. ruined all sense of community idk where im going with this but why are we not coming together for massive feasts unless someone gets married or dies. we should be sharing……… everything…….. why is everyone now so obsessed with being individually independent? i know the cause of all these problems is capitalism but it makes me sad that its gone so far that like…… u dont even ask ur neighbors for shit anymore. we dont trust our communities anymore. humans are meant to rely on each other but we’ve been convinced that the ultimate sign of success is not needing anyone but yourself. i love to need people. i love to be needed. we all do. why is it so unacceptable to need a community to thrive when humanity would have gotten nowhere if we didnt help each other

[styrke-deactivated20240722]

a wise woman once said, “you are capable of twice as much as you think and ten times as much as your mother thinks” and honestly i think about that a lot whenever a wave of doubt rushes over me telling me that i can’t do it. sometimes you just gotta look your doubt right in the eyes, stand up straight and say, watch me!

[sweet-emptiness]

what if we drank green tea all day and denied ourselves basic human needs like eating... just kidding... ah ha ha... unless?

[memories-never--die]

2020

To the people who think that they didn't do enough this year; that they should have exercised more, eaten more healthy,  made more money, read more books, took on more tasks.

You did enough!

Some of you lost your job this year, some haven't seen their family for months, maybe even lost loved ones, had to home school their kids, or didn't get to graduate, went through breakups, depression and so much more.

And even if you feel like there isn't anything that effected in those extends. You still lived through a fucking pandemic, you survived every single one of the 365 days this year. You kept going when you felt sad, lonely and hopeless, when the world felt like it was crashing down.

And if that is not one hell of an accomplishment then I don't know what is. You did enough. You survived. I am proud of you.

[dansphalluspalace]

I recently became inspired to write this tip list. TW: Abuse

If you are living with an abusive person (be it a spouse, sibling, cousin, roommate, or partner, and whether it is physical or verbal or whatever), here’s some tips.

1. If the person demands you isolate yourself by deleting things like facebook, tumblr, etc, here’s a tip: Do it, and let them watch you delete it. Then, make a new one and download ccleaner.com. It looks like a regular spyware/adware/registry cleaner remover, and one helpful aspect is it deletes history permanently and basically makes it easier to cover your tracks.

2. This is something a relative of mine did; when they are gone, take out one of the base moldings of the wall. She took the whole thing out so the line from a cut wouldn’t be seen. She cut a low notch/alcove. She hid money, extra things like snacks, and other stuff in there. Eventually, she saved up money to get away. She would use wood glue to put it back to the wall and would pry it off again to fill it in with a shoehorn. Even if you don’t get away, this can be your cubby hole for resources.

3. That same relative hid a prepaid cellphone with contacts in it to make infrequent calls and kept the phone off when hidden away.

4. I am not complete in compiling the survival guide stuff, but here is a copy of First Aid for Everyone in case you cannot go to the hospital for any reason.

REBLOG WIDELY and feel free to share and add on pieces of advice, please.

[salt-water-chardonnay-blog-blog]

Safari’s private browsing mode is very easy to turn on and off quickly. Just check or uncheck it in the “Safari” menu. When it’s on, it won’t save your history or any other information.

[missgingerlee]

Adding…if you think they’ve put a gps on your vehicle to keep tabs on you, most police departments (and some domestic violence units) will help you check. 

Wasp spray. Yes, wasp spray. If things go downhill fast, & you have to get away from a person/have something to protect yourself that looks like just another random household product, wasp spray can help you. It sprays 20+ feet, & it will temporarily blind a person if you aim at the eyes. 

As horrible as it may sound…wear the right shoes as much as you can. Running in heels is hard, & at a certain point function comes over fashion. 

Document, document, document. Have that info somewhere either than your home/computer. Even if it’s an anonymous email account on gmail to yourself. If your computer/camera/phone are destroyed, you don’t want to lose all that info. Thumb drives are your friend, & they can be hidden in all kinds of places. DO NOT KEEP IT ON YOU. 

Screencap things like they’re going out of style. If you’re being sent texts, tweets, etc., you want to be able to show them in case your abuser decides to go back and delete things at some point. 

If they have access to your banking information, whether it be by seeing/finding paper statements or having access to your online banking info or having a joint account, your movements around your town/where you are traveling to can be tracked. If you can use cash for things, do it. 

Know alternate routes to get to/from home from places you frequent, as well as police departments, etc. Sometimes losing somebody following you on the road comes down to you knowing more ways out than they do.  

Gaslighting is real. It can make you begin to feel like you are going crazy, because your entire reality can be used as a way to control & frighten you. You know you. Trust yourself. 

[bebinn]

Here are some ways to protect your internet activity

Hide an extra set of car keys.

Along with the practical shoes tip, try not to wear many necklaces or scarves - they can be used to choke.

Keep the car backed into the driveway, with all doors locked except for the driver’s side, and with a full tank of gas.

Arrange a code word or signal for neighbors and family if you are in trouble and need them to call the police or get help in some other way.

Identify safe rooms, where there are no weapons and ways to escape. If an argument occurs, try to move to that area.

For people in domestic abuse situations and victims of stalking, keep a small bag packed in a safe place with:

Money and bank info

Medications

Birth certificates and passports

Social Security #s

Extra keys for neighbors

Kids’ items

Important numbers: law enforcement, friends and family, attorneys/prosecutors, medical care, child care, pet car, creditors

If possible, a change of clothing

This website has more suggestions for safety strategies and steps to take when leaving.

For more support, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).

[fromonesurvivortoanother]

Although GPS was mentioned, there are a few other ways someone can track you:

All iOS devices (ipad, iPod Touch, iPhone) after 2nd generation can have the Find My iPhone app installed, and then someone with access to the iTunes account connected to that device can track it. There’s also a similar app for Macbooks now.

A lot of other smartphones have similar features.

Even if you have Find My iPhone turned off, some apps (such as facebook or instagram) have location tracking whenever you make an update or post…check your settings app to turn off that stuff.

Feature phones with GPS functions or software can be tracked also.

Some car anti-theft services have tracking that can be used, especially if the abuser is the owner of the car.

One other thing:

If it’s an emergency and you have no way to call for help, get to a public school, fire station, public library, or similar building, and try to open the locked doors. Most of these places (especially in larger towns and cities) have automatic security systems which will call the police to go and check on them.

[the-kepler-system]

For domestic abuse: Unsure if this will help anyone, but if your abuser begins to get irate, put yourself where there are at least two doors out of the house. If you can’t do that, plant yourself between them and the door so you have a clear way out. If you have time, pop open the window and leave it open if you can’t get to a door. Any way to escape is a good way. (Basically what was said above about a safe room.) Keep your cellphone near you at all times, especially if the person is unpredictable. Put the police on speed dial, or if you’re lucky enough to have a smartphone, try to get one that has instant-dial 911 in the corner, even when locked. The above mentioned bag that I call a “go bag” is vital for a quick exit of the house. One thing I have to add to that is to keep change in there, not just paper cash, in case you don’t have a way to call anyone and need to use a payphone.

[sylvia-collective]

I love this thread! 

A really helpful app is Aspire News. It looks like an average News app but has options (iirc) to send emergency texts, record conversations, and helpful GPS stuff.

If anyone is interested I can add some tips on if you find yourself in a situation of sudden homelessness due to domestic violence? “Go bags” can be absolute life savers!

If you’re a minor, and it doesn’t put you in an unsafe position to do so - try to get ahold of information such as SIN number, Medicare number vaccination records, etc 

[bobohu-deactivated20180524]

be kind. be ridiculously, radically, endlessly kind. be a part of someone’s good day. send nice thoughts, send positive vibes, send support and love and well wishes. be kind. so often we wish for tomorrow to be a good day when we are at our lowest. some sort of sign that it gets better. be a part of that better day for someone. the world does not magically decide that it will be softer on you today, tomorrow, the next day. and sometimes it starts with a message from someone else, maybe a little bit of inner strength to pull yourself up and take a shower, maybe a bit of sunlight makes the day better. but it’s these small things, these soft things that make a day better. so be kind. don’t ever think about being anything other than kind. be a part of someone’s good day because you don’t know how desperate they might be for it. 

[mebehindthecurtains]

I am so mad at myself rn.

Can someone send some weet words?

[roseseafoam]

anonymously send me a fruit!

🍏 Green Apple: I like your personality more than your blog! 🍎 Red Apple: I like your blog and your personality!  🍌 Banana: You’re fun to talk to! 🍒 Cherries: I think you’re hot! 🥥 Coconut: I like your taste in music! 🍆 Eggplant: I don’t remember why I followed you… 🍇 Grapes: I wish we were better friends! 🥝 Kiwi Fruit: I have a small crush on you… 🍋 Lemon: I love your sense of fashion! 🍈 Melon: I love your sense of humor 🍑 Peach: I want to date you! 🍐 Pear: I wish you knew I existed… 🍍 Pineapple: We never talk, but I care about you! 🍓 Strawberry: I have a huge crush on you! 🍊 Tangerine: I prefer what you post more than what you reblog 🍉 Watermelon: I prefer what you reblog more than what you post

[thinchimchim]

“breakfast time!” i say. i grab a diet coke. it’s two pm.

[mebehindthecurtains]

"Breakfast!", I smile, as I set down my bike amd get on. ^^

[mebehindthecurtains]

Just ate.

0/10 do not recommend.

[mothcub]

[sjoongki]

if you have cried, felt alone, had your depression/anxiety worsen, and/or struggled to stay afloat without the support you deserve this year, then I pray that this last month blesses you with the light and strength you need to continue to push forward and not give up hope for a better tomorrow. may the upcoming new year bring much happiness, positivity, love, and growth to your life and may you never go by another minute without remembering just how resilient and beautiful you are. it may not seem like it right now, but good things are headed your way and you will feel warmth in your heart again.     

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