Midnight Wonderer

[victusinveritas]

[whetstonefires]

easy to miss that one of the reasons maternal mortality is diminished so extremely by modern medicine is that modern medicine makes it so much more possible to identify the pregnancies that will die and take you with them, or are otherwise unacceptably high risk. and then discontinue those ones safely, before it's too late.

thought about this because it's so frustrating when people argue that 'dying in childbirth' is a historical sort of event that doesn't happen nowadays (false) and therefore is irrelevant to the legal status of abortion, since it's not a real danger.

except it super is, and i think a lot of people haven't noticed that this argument in addition to simply being incorrect is basically the same as when people say we don't need vaccines for deadly diseases because no one gets those now anyway.

like yeah one reason for that is we vaccinate everybody ffs.

[dailymanners]

After years of meaning to read it but never seeming to have the time, I finally started reading "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I've been told by countless people that this book is the ultimate handbook on how to talk to and deal with people.

I'm not far in, but so far it's been pretty interesting and insightful. This book is almost 100 years old but so far everything I've read seems to still hold up today.

I've had a few people message me asking about more resources on how to improve their social skills. There's always r/etiquette (I don't even have a reddit but I find myself lurking) but, if you're looking to read something to help brush up on your social skills, I can so far recommend "How To Wind Friends and Influence People"

Although, take my recommendation with a grain of salt because I haven't finished it yet. But I tried looking up if there was any criticism for it and had a hard time finding any. It is slightly more focused on social skills for a business setting, but honestly those skills can transfer to just about any social setting. (such as presenting your views and opinions to people in a way that doesn't make people feel attacked, and generally making people feel comfortable and at ease around you)

[dailymanners]

If there was one book I would suggest to everyone on here, Twitter (or X or whatever) and everywhere else on the internet where people lash out at strangers for no reason, it would be this book.

Because one concept it keeps returning to is that people do not like people who lash out at them, people who criticize them, people who scold them. People also do not listen to people who lash out at them, criticize them, and scold them. If you want people to like you, and people to actually listen to you, you should start by not doing that.

[dailymanners]

@2ndgengeek thank you, gonna go ahead and add this to my to-read list :) also as an FYI for any of my followers looking for more sources on manners / etiquette / social skills

[dailymanners]

@connanro also adding this to my reading list (and reccs for books on manners to my followers), thank you!

[aprillikesthings]

It's been ages since I read it and it is older, but What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't? by Michele Novotni is specifically aimed at people with ADHD. Some of it is hella basic, but in all honesty it's shit I didn't know until I was an adult.

[itberice]

Star Trek: Deep Space Nine I 3.15 Destiny

[hungwy]

Another reason why trains would be good is that most people are not good at driving

[orphic-mysteries]

If it keeps you from killing yourself it's not stupid. This applies to anything btw.

[brb-on-a-quest]

Bestie. How dare you leave “do not mock the life preserver…” in the tags.

@onewingedsparrow

[insomniac-arrest]

Taylor Tomlinson, Look At You (2022) Netflix special

[desolationlesbian]

The ongoing conflict of Puella Magi Madoka Magica is that Homura has a self-destructive knight-savior complex but only specifically for the girl she has a crush on, but unfortunately for her the girl she has a crush on also has a self-destructive savior complex for Every Living Thing On The Planet Earth. So they are doing a constant back and forth of "I am going to save everyone" > "No, I am going to save you." > "No, I am going to save everyone." over and over again with increasing stakes each time until we've reached a cosmic scale and they're both smashing planets and becoming abstract concepts instead of just making out with each other. Tragic yuri. Many such cases.

[parkchanwoohoo]

This kid is so fucking good holy shit. I love how into it the audience is, too

[storybookprincess]

if everyone wouldn't mind getting normal about mobile homes immediately that would be awesome, because it's bonkers to me how much stigma still exists around them

if you live in a rural community, chances are extremely high that you or a friend or family member lives in a mobile home. it doesn't just make sense from an affordability perspective, but also from a logistical one. dragging a full construction crew out to a rural piece of land every single day to complete construction on a home from scratch is just impractical. but mobile homes allow people living in rural areas to just stick a house wherever they want!! it's a big part of the reason that they're everywhere around here!!

there are shitty and run down looking mobile homes, yes, but there are also super cute and nice ones! just like their are shitty run down apartments and houses and also cute and nice ones!!! you could be driving past a mobile home and not even realize it!!! it's bizarre to see people turn their noses up at an extremely affordable and convenient housing option because of all the classist stank folks have left on them. it's literally just a type of dwelling!!!

[harrenhals]

one of the most comforting constants on this website is when a long-running show comes to an end and all the people who gaslit themselves to the point of psychosis over a ship that would never be canon go apeshit

[lh7]

for sale: makorra bottles, never popped

[sophsun1]

The Simpsons – 5.08: Boy-Scoutz 'n the Hood

[perennial-lee]

Anti-revenge narrative this, anti-revenge narrative that, I personally think that Inigo Montoya had the right idea when he stabbed Count Rugen in the gut and said "I want my father back, you son of a bitch"

[galwednesday]

A lot of revenge arcs end with the hero saying "there's nothing you can do to bring my loved one back, so me seeking revenge is pointless." The Princess Bride's revenge arc ends with Inigo Montoya saying "there's nothing you can do to bring my loved one back, so there's nothing that can save you."

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Give me less "being kind requires zero effort" and more "being kind is worth the effort it takes."

[mammal-blogging]

Birds of Aotearoa! At the very least, a couple of them!

[sunderwight]

Came back wrong but the wrongness is that you're no longer as awful as you used to be. You're not mean anymore. You don't lose your temper as quickly, you don't say awful things, lash out, or hurt people on purpose just to prove that you can, not since you came back. It's the same face, the same voice, the same superficial tendencies, but all the rough edges have been smoothed away so thoroughly that it feels like something else is wearing you as a mask. Yet it's impossible to get anyone else to see the problem, because you're less of a problem than you've ever been before.

[electronicmail]

advice on how to say sorry? hope ur well

yea sometimes its too late. sometimes youre sorry and its too late and you have to just know youre sorry and live with them not knowing. Make sure youre saying sorry for them and not for yourself.

[moonrosegirl]