You might be asking yourself āwho the fuck doesnāt want a happy, healthy, and normal sex life built on love, mutual respect, and a genuine desire to see your partner happy?ā The number of people might surprise you, my children.
There are many factors that lead certain individuals to be like this. Undiagnosed mental illness, poor family life, parental absence, former sexual abuse, premature exposure to sexualization, and so much more. And while they might feel like thereās no other way, or that this is just how life is. Trust me, it isnāt.
Treating something as the norm is what makes it the norm. Sexual immodesty is not freedom or happiness. Mistreating your partner because of your selfish sexual proclivities is wrong. And this behavior is not normal. Itās symptomatic of mental and spiritual health problems.
As always, I donāt judge nor mistreat the mentally ill, and being a bit of a lothario, seductress, or sexual deviant doesnāt automatically mean you are mentally ill. In fact, a little deviance can be therapeutic for some. But there are far too many men and women whoāre suffering from an inability to develop and maintain proper and wholesome relationships with their significant other. And we as a culture treat this problem as though it is not.
We call it āliberatingā, āhealthyā, and ānormal because weāre all just animals after allā. We just let mental and emotional abuse fester in our sex culture because in all honesty, weāre all just trying to bust a nut. Itās selfish to do this, and itās wrong to exploit people for brief carnal pleasures. I have seen dozens of friends suffer from hookup culture, and I myself have done harm and been victimized by others in hookup culture.
Itās not fun, glamorous, healthy, or normal. Love and romance is the pursuit of meaningful connections. The finding of the soulās counterpoint in another. The building of a life together, and a family if you so choose. Itās hard to abandon something as pleasurable as sex addiction. But if you donāt try, then youāre only perpetuating the norm of abuse and exploitation.
I know this seems a little out of the blue, and Iām sorry if I touched a few nerves or stepped on a few toes. But I feel it needs to be said. The concept of a hookup free sex culture, based on vintage romance and marriage ideas should be developed. If you have anything youād like to in favor of or in opposition of, give it a go. Iād love to hear your thoughts.
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