Hi!! We're Vyn!! We use he/they/it pronouns and are a plural system (will tend to use we/us and I/me interchangeably)
(Some plural resources for our singlet mutuals: sys guide, pluralpedia, plural FAQ by the Interstellar System, More Than One, what is a system) (<- other plurals feel free to reach in and give resources)
We love being asked questions about our system!! We have an ask blog (@vynnie-asks just for that
We'd prefer only 16+ interacting just out of personal comfort. We will block if we don't know you and you have no age clearly stated on your page, you will be blocked.
Mutuals, please tag our spam blog ( @vyns-spam-hoard ) for any rb/tag games... just a personal preference since we don't like a lot of long posts on our main
We're 18!! BIPOC loser (🇵🇭🇺🇸), many many fucked up issues (mental and physical disabilities) and we like talking about them!!
Very very much into Pokemon. Talk to us about Pokemon we're so so normal about it (<- literally has a Murdock pfp)....
We're also a baker!! We bake a ton and have such a big passion for baking. Let us know if we should post about our baking progress!!
Was on r/antiradqueernew and saw the WILDEST, SHIT ASS take. "If you support transabled people as an actually disabled person then it must be because you aren't SEVERELY disabled and your privileged as a LESSER disabled person and haven't TRULY suffered from your disorder like I have." Abyssal take Admin, and I will be leaving now, thanks. FUCK you actually. I am BEGGING other fellow anti radqueers to stop making their arguments so bigoted. Because I see way too much of it.
This is ableism.
Out of all of the ways to argue against transabled, this has to be the worst of the worst. I’m personally against transabled identities because they feel as though they demean my and my friends’ experiences, especially when they are of disability which I had friends that had who passed because of issues that present alongside their disabilities.
i’m genuinely afraid to bring this up to a blog like this, and also scared of the reactions i will get.
but i think nearsightedness not being classified as a disability is ableism.
i am nearsighted. when i do not have my glasses, i cannot function normally. i can barely see 4-6 inches in front of myself and i am in constant danger of hurting myself if i’m in an unfamiliar environment. i cannot read, write, or use most technology. but because my glasses correct my vision, i am not seen as disabled by my nearsightedness.
glasses can cost hundreds of dollars, counting the eye exam, frames, and lenses. if i could not afford glasses, or if i lost my glasses with no spares, i would have to work through my life with the same struggles and limitations as someone with vision like mine that can’t be corrected.
glasses are disability aids and i will always stand by this. if hearing aids are disability aids, so are glasses. just because something has a temporary, easily lost or damaged “fix” does not mean my life is not hindered by what very much disables me otherwise.
but the reason nearsightedness, or other related vision issues, are not considered disabilities is likely almost purely because 1) it affects so many people and 2) the government isn’t willing to give up that much more money to support those with such a common disability.
it’s infuriating to be told that i am not disabled in terms of vision because an OBJECT that i can LOSE or BREAK or BE UNABLE TO AFFORD like ANY OTHER DISABILITY AID “fixes” my vision only when i have access to it. i am visually impaired and i suffer because of it. why is that not enough to be disabled?
I personally consider the lack of classification for nearsightedness as a disability to be ableism.
Just because it's prevalent in a larger number of the population, doesn't make in less disabling, especially because of the degrees to which nearsightedness can effect people.
I also agree that it isn't classified as such because governments don't want to spend money on glasses, when they can literally be life saving for some people (if you can barely see ahead of you, that puts you at risk for environmental hazards that people without nearsightedness can avoid).
This this this!! I'm nearsighted. I can hardly see anything more than 5 inches in front of me. My glasses costed nearly $300 and it costs about $50 if any part gets broken and needs repaired. It should not cost that much for something that helps me from bumping into things that could seriously injure my body.
I will always say that nearsightedness is a disability. Without my glasses, I'd hardly be able to safely do anything without getting myself hurt or put in the hospital.
NOTICE FOR PSYCHOTIC PEOPLES LIKE ME AND THE NEW TOMODACHI LIFE: Please please pretty pretty please be careful while playing Living the Dream, esp if you’re currently unmedicated!!!
The game treats the Miis like they’re real people and makes zero mention ever that they are not, and only ever refers to them and their POV as if they are real and you are their caretaker! While playing this honestly messed with my head pretty badly at times and made me worry a lot on if I was hurting real people/not doing enough for real people while I was playing!
I cannot imagine how much worse this would be for someone who’s unmedicated, non-dormant, or experiencing breakthrough symptoms! Do please be careful and PLEASE remember to have a way to reality check yourself while playing the game!!!
Also: If you’re not psychotic, please reblog this anyway!!! It may not seem like a big deal to you but these kinds of things are REALLY important to know for us psychotic folk in a world that is both hostile and negligent to us and our needs!!!
Intrusive thoughts, by definition, are unwanted, and almost always distressing. They are not
“omg I totally want to dye my hair all of a sudden!”
This is an extremely important distinction to me as someone with severe OCD. I frequently have thoughts and obsessions about murder, assault, and pedophilia. These are not wanted nor are they secret desires.
As summer is approaching, I’d like to remind everyone that you are not entitled to ask someone to cover up their scars, self inflicted or not. I don’t care if they’re big, I don’t care if they’re noticeable, or purple, or all over their body, or what. You can’t police people’s bodies.
"This political figure is a pedophile!" Child predator.
"These TV shows sexualizing children are encouraging pedophilia!" They're encouraging sexualization of minors. They're encouraging predators to take advantage of children.
You cannot know if someone is a pedophile through their harmful actions. Pedophilia = ongoing attraction towards prepubescent (SPECIFICALLY PREPUBESCENT, stop conflating it with hebephilia and ephebophilia!) children.
All of these politicians, CEOs, directors, celebrities/subcelebrities, they are not automatically pedophiles just by preying upon children. How do you know they are pedophiles? Have they told you "I have ongoing attraction to minors"? Or are you just seeing them prey on the vulnerable?
Most child predators are not pedophiles, as they do not have this ongoing attraction. They are acting on opportunity. Just as most men who rape men are heterosexual. Please see my post [link] about this.
More importantly, why does it matter if they are a pedophile or not? There is no "evil disorder", most pedophiles are innocent people. There is only evil behavior. So even if they are a pedophile, it is not their disorder that is causing them to prey upon children, it is a desire for power.
Pedophilia is a mental condition and it does not make someone more likely to abuse others, nor does it make someone more likely to turn their head away if they know a child is in danger.
You can advocate for the rights of children without demonizing the mentally disabled. In fact, many victims of CSA develop pedophilia themselves as a result of their trauma. Pedophilic attraction can begin very early on in a person (ie; a nine year old discovering they are attracted to babies is an example of a child who is a pedophile.)
I am tired of every youthlib blog demonizing para disorders. I am a huge youthlib advocate too, but it makes me genuinely so uncomfortable being in spaces that dont care how saneist they're being.
"You're being pedantic!" People tell me, even those within mental health movements themselves.
So is it pedantic when people point out that narcissistic is not the same as "egotistical/self-absorbed/emotionally abusive"?
Is it pedantic when people point out that psycho, psychopath, and sociopath aren't the same thing as "criminal/abuser"?
Is it pedantic when people point out that schizophrenic, psychosis, and delusional aren't the same as "quirky/lying to oneself"?
Is it pedantic when people point out that ADHD and autism are not the same as "being quirky"?
Is it pedantic when people point out that low/no empathy/sympathy is not the same thing as "being cruel"?
Is it pedantic? Or are you just unwilling to admit that paraphilic disorders are stigmatized, and that thousands of non-offending paraphiles get demonized by your statements?
Is it pedantic? Or are you just unwilling to recognize that most predators do not have para disorders [link], and that even those who do are predatory because they're bad people, not because of their condition?
When will ya'll admit that you're unwilling to give up the concept of an "evil disorder"?
[PT: Is it pedantic? Or are you just unwilling to admit that paraphilic disorders are stigmatized, and that thousands of non-offending paraphiles get demonized by your statements?
Is it pedantic? Or are you just unwilling to recognize that most predators do not have para disorders [link], and that even those who do are predatory because they're bad people, not because of their condition?
When will ya'll admit that you're unwilling to give up the concept of an "evil disorder"?]
Going to be filling out these autism questions in one big post because I dont like doing seperate posts for these kinds of things. Im gonna be skipping around some and doing which ones I can give a comprehensible answer to. This will be staying in my drafts until I feel like posting it.
Prompts can be found here.
I will be swapping out "neurotypical" for "allistic" in this because I genuinely hate how people get them mixed up. And also "allistic" applies to me more in these questions.
April 1st: What age did you find out you were autistic? If you have a diagnosis, what was the diagnosis process like, if you can remember it?
I have no fucking clue. But!! I might be getting properly tested next month. I think I found out I was autistic when I was around 13-14? It was around the time I started high school, I know that.
April 2nd: Are there some things in life that you either learned much later than your [allistic] peers or not at all?
Definitely social standards. Just... as a whole. And even now, I still barely understand them.
April 3rd: Do you feel like being autistic makes you easier to take advantage of? More gullible perhaps? Talk about a time where this happened to you.
For me personally, yes. I fluctiate between medium and high support needs for a lot of things. And I have vague memories of my childhood where I thought people were friends with me and I'm just now realizing that my lack of understanding things made me more vulnerable to people tricking me into doing things.
April 4th: Talk about online social interaction. Do you feel that being able to interact with others online, such as on social media, has been a positive or negative thing for you? Do you think its easier, harder, about the same as in person communication?
It's a mix. Definitely a mix. Online, I can use tone tags to get what I'm saying across. But I also express what I say with body movement, and that it gets hard to express what I say online because people generally can't see my movements.
April 5th: Do you often interact with other autistic people? Online or in person? Do you find it harder, easier, about the same difficulty as with [allistic] people?
I find it easier but also harder. With both online and in person, I interact best with people who are the same kind of level of autistic as I am.
April 6th: Do you feel that autism affects the way that you view/interact with media? In what ways? Talk about it.
I'd say it does. I have a big special interest in clinical psychology and always have. And I feel that special interest has made it hard to talk to people. I understand the nuance in things, I know when terminology is being misused, I see sanism almost everywhere and my autism freaks out because it needs things how I view as "right", so I end up getting such heavy backlash just from me impulsively needing ro correct people. But there's also the good parts of having such an interest!! Sometimes people do listen and take what I say seriously. It gives me hope.
April 7th: Talk about autistic characters in media. What are your favorite canon autistic characters? Are there any characters that you view as autistic, that aren't officially so? What about them makes you think they are autistic? How do you relate to them? What would you like to see in autistic characters in the future?
Maomao from Apothecary Diaries!!! Just... the overall way she is. Especially with medicine. I'm the same way with my psych spinterest.
April 9th: Are you ever prevented from doing things because of sensory issues? For example, clothes you'd want to wear, places you'd like to go, etc. How does it make you feel? Talk about it.
Oh, abso-fucking-lutely. I can hardly do anything because of sensory issues. I actually like socializing and wearing various clothes and trying new foods. But I can't do SHIT when everything is too loud, I have a big list of "no no" fabrics, and a lot of food textures throw me off. 💔💔💔
April 10th: Are holidays/birthdays/similar social gatherings something that you find difficult in any way as an autistic person? Talk about it.
Yes. Noise. So much noise. HATE it all.
April 15th: Talk about special interests. What is your current special interest? What do you like about it? Do you dislike anything about having special interests? Talk about past special interests.
Clinical psychology..... I talk about it so much to my friends that I get deemed the "token psych nerd". I already kinda talked about the goods and bads of having a psych interest on the April 6th prompt.
April 16th: What are some accommodations that you would either like to have or already have to help you in your everyday life as an autistic person? If you could change an aspect of society to make things easier for you as an autistic person, what would you change?
First of all, just... being allowed to bring my headphones. Anywhere. I'd like to be allowed to get a job and also be allowed to control what noise I hear. As for things I want to change, just more understanding. More resources that aren't pure watered down slop. I want people to understand what autism really is outside of the media representation.
April 18th: Have you had trouble, now or in the past, with people not respecting your boundaries as an autistic person? For instance, people not listening when you don't like hugs or being touched etc.
YES. The sheer amount of people who do not understand I don't like being touched without being asked..... I dont even think this is explicitly an autism thing either.
April 19th: Talk about speech. Are you nonverbal? Do you use AAC? What is it like if you are? If not, do you have trouble controlling the tone of your voice? Do people often misread you based on your tone (thinking you're angry when you're not for example)? Do you have trouble controlling the volume of your voice, especially when excited about something? Do you tend to speak in a monotone?
Not nonverbal, but I get frequent verbal crashes. I use ACC through Discord and emojis/stickers. Outside of AAC, I definitely struggle with tone. In general, I struggle to put things to words other people will understand, so what I say tends to be taken the wrong away a lot. As for monotone, I'd say it fluctuates. Sometimes my voice comes off monotone, sometimes not. I personally can't really tell since nobody points it out.
April 20th: Give a shoutout to some of your favorite fellow autistic people. Could be an actor, writer, youtuber, a family member, another tumblr blog, etc. What do you like about them and/or their content (assuming they're an actor/youtuber/etc)? Would you recommend other people follow them?
CANDYCOURN!!! Just... absolutely everything. Literally just look at their posts. They're actually probably the most informative autistic creator on YouTube that I know of. I very much recommend them to everyone I know.
April 21st: Do you have trouble keeping up with personal hygiene? Bathing, brushing your teeth, flossing, etc? Is it because of sensory reasons? Is there anything you've found helps with this?
YES. I struggle so much with hygiene. People point out my poor hygiene all the time. I have such horrible executive dysfunction that I forget to do a lot of things. Showering and taking care of my teeth takes a lot of energy so my brain defaults to "yeah let's not do that". I hate the feeling of water on my skin and I hate the feeling of pressure against my teeth.
April 28th: Do you prefer person first language (example: person with autism) or identity first language (autistic person)? Why?
I use identity first. Saying I'm a "person with autism" very much feels like I'm a regular person with a side of autism. Which I'm not. My autism is highly ingrained into who I am as a person. I'm an autistic person. My autism makes me, me.
I think a lot of the people who say “autism isn’t a disability” have entirely misunderstood what disability is.
Being disabled isn’t always severely impacting, you don’t have to be a complete tetraplegic to have a disability.
Being disabled can be having mild nearsightedness, and wearing contacts to correct it. It can be having ADHD, and using regular alarms to keep you on track. It can be having autism, and finding it hard to make friends.
Everytime a user comes to me and is like "wahhhh, wahhh, i won't read what you have to say, fuck you, why would i read what you say when youre a disgusting paraphile supporter/paraphile, wahhhh, theres no evidence for anything you're saying, wahhhh" (ignoring all of the LITERAL RESEARCH PAPERS I LINK) I just think to myself about how fucking easily these people listen to saneist puritanical pop psychology propaganda and how unwilling people are to challenge what society has taught them.
Like hm. I wonder what other demonized groups you hate because you believe in society's bullshit. Do you also demonize cluster bs? Schizospecs? People with behavioral disorders? Plurals? Queer people? BIPOC?
How many groups do you let society tell you are disgusting and evil, and then plug your ears and go "LALALALALALALA" and block out the noise when that viewpoint gets challenged?
Do you believe in "narcissistic abuse?" Do you believe in the "scary schizophrenic person is too dangerous for society" stereotype? Do you believe in the "people with ASPD are terrifying serial killers" stereotype? The "plurals are broken people with an EVIL PERSONALITY" stereotype?
Do you believe that black men are inherently more likely to commit violent crime? Do you believe that queer people are disgusting perverts trying to harm children and infiltrate vulnerable spaces?
Or is it just people with "scary paraphilias" you do this to, because you want one specific group to project all your hatred towards?
You do realize every single one of these stereotypes is nearly the exact same as the propaganda against people with stigmatized paraphiles, right? That theyre inherently abusive, "delusional", "serial rapists blending into society", infiltrating the vulnerable spaces, preying upon children? Yet somehow this...doesn't sound like propaganda to you?
You do realize that conversion therapy doesn't work, that locking people up for the "crime" of thoughts/feelings is authoritarian and helps nobody, and that any therapist worth their shit (as in, who is in the field to ACTUALLY HELP, not just for the money) will recommend to people with stigmatized paraphiles to find outlets (roleplay, fiction, vent art, etc)?
If your first reaction is to completely deny conversation and education on topics you aren't informed about, then to put it frankly, you aren't a trustworthy advocate or ally for any marginalized group. Because any of the groups you are advocating for can have intersectionality with stigmatized paraphilias.
For example, if you claim to be an advocate for black people, but demonize black people with stigmatized paraphilias, you're basically saying "well I think the government should be allowed to torture anyone who is black that is deemed to be a stigmatized paraphile" in which case racists will take advantage of this by accusing EVERY black person of having a stigmatized paraphilia.
The only way to be an activist for any group is to advocate against abuse of people with stigmatized paraphilias, and advocate for people to stop using "predator" and "paraphile" interchangeably.
[PT: The only way to be an activist for any group is to advocate against abuse of people with stigmatized paraphilias, and advocate for people to stop using "predator" and "paraphile" interchangeably.]
when people tag posts "unreality" it's a signal to people who struggle with discerning reality that a (likely scary if believed to be true) post is not real even though it's written as if it was. it's also a filter tag so those people can opt out of seeing posts like that entirely. many people who rely on the unreality tag are psychotic and struggle with paranoia alongside (or because of) the struggles discerning what's real. posts that these people interpret to be real can lead to incredible distress and compulsions.
when someone tags your post "#unreality" and you screenshot the tags and say "what are you talking about? this is real" because you consider the post easy to discern as not real and find this joke funny you're actually just causing paranoia for people who now feel like they can't trust the unreality tag. not everyone has the same reality discernment skills as you. what's "obviously" a fictional story to you may not be obvious to other people.
I don't think most people make this joke maliciously. I think most people making this joke don't even realize why the unreality tag exists. anyways, if you've made this joke or have the urge to make this joke then consider not doing that.
someone I follow posted a story that says "repost if you don't support p3dos, let's see who skips" and I'm like. I support paraphiles who don't abuse others and have safe outlets for their paras, just not predators or offenders. and predators don't necessarily have paraphilias and paraphiles aren't immediate predators, so I skipped, especially since I hate this "let's see who skips" bullshit.
This is paramisia.
Posts like that are super saneist towards folks with OCD too, guilting them into reblogging or causing a moral spiral.
