[lonewolfsoulnomad]

you know you’re INFJ when...

…the natural people pleaser (and low-key conflict avoider), you almost always automatically present a version of you that you know people need you to be, despite how you really think and feel at that moment.

…and there will be spells when you’re not sure which version of you is the real one.

[introspectivecode]

What makes us INFJs feel loved

•receiving a text from someone who just wants to check up and see if we’re ok.

•someone taking interest in really getting to know us (our hobbies, dreams, interests and our inner person)

•when someone wants to hangout with us all day even if we are doing absolutely nothing.

•when we are chosen to be part of something special (a hobby, a tradition, an adventure/trip)

•when someone takes time out of their day or puts down what they’re doing to offer us help in what ever we are doing or working on.

[infp-problems]

[meg-beth]

The reason why I like resting, reading, sleeping, being while other things are going on.

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.

[etchingss]

needed this.

[thelingspace]

Obscure Sorrows and Untranslatable Words

A recent BuzzFeed article tapped into what seems to be a bottomless well of enthusiasm surrounding the connection between language and human experience. While this latest example focuses on fictional entries into the English language, many before it have inspired the same fascination using words from other languages. This particular listicle presents us with items from The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows — a compendium of complex emotions (the newest additions have paragraph-long definitions) neatly packaged into single words, perfect for individual consumption. For instance, nodus tollens — a riff on modus tollens, which refers to a particular kind of argument in logic — referring to “the realization that the plot of your life doesn’t make sense to you anymore”.

Interestingly, the foreign language lists rest on the very same foundation: specific emotions, experiences, and interpersonal interactions. Even the more concrete nouns are less about what they refer to, and more about evoking feelings of familiarity and commiseration. Like, the German word Backpfeifengesicht, claimed to refer to a face in need of a fist, is less about the face and more about what’s being done to it (and why).

Maybe part of what makes these articles so popular is that they’re connected to the central idea of the Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis: that language shapes thought. This is an attitude we’ve looked at askance in our video about it, and which linguists are generally suspicious of, at least in its strongest incarnation, but it’s an idea that is intuitively appealing. And if you go full Whorf on it, it’s easy to argue that if a language has a specific word for something, it must mean people who speak that language view or feel whatever that word applies to differently than speakers of a language that doesn’t. So there’s something more German about Backpfeifengesicht, or particularly Japanese about the concept of tatemae.

Even if that’s not true, if this thinking gets people more interested in other societies or languages, that’s probably a plus. But! Having said that, it’s worth spending a moment or two to ponder over a bit of irony: though these assorted non-English words are presented as “untranslatable”, each one is unfailingly supplied with a translation. It may not be a single word translation, but it’s not that difficult for us to grasp the concept.

Beyond that, at least a few of these words aren’t foreign at all by now! Quite a lot of English speakers are familiar with the meaning of schadenfreude, which raises the question of when a word can be called “English” (which is definitely a topic for another post). But there’s definitely something to the idea that one-to-one translations are tricky, at least when it comes to having to learn a new language. Like, English uses know for both facts and things, but French divides the work up between savoir and connaître, respectively. So in learning French, an English speaker has to learn how to divide this up. And more than anything else, these invented and foreign words both seem to be more of an excuse to ruminate over the human condition; it isn’t clear how many even really have the connotations we want them to in their native tongues.

Even if you don’t like lists like these and what they might tell people about language, they aren’t going away anytime soon, and there are still some real positives we can find there. They can expose us to the diversity of other languages and cultures that we might otherwise never encounter. And as far as The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows goes, creator John Koenig takes the time to delve into a little etymology, as with the word kairosclerosis, which he explains refers to a kind of conscious transition from happiness to unhappiness and breaks down into the Greek words kairos — roughly meaning moment — and sclerosis — roughly meaning hardening. There’s never any downside to a better understanding of how words are built, and this provides readers with a great opportunity to “peek under the hood”. Super cool!

[meg-beth]

• Blu Pepper Blue Orange Patterned Cap Sleeve •

Blue, white, and orange cap sleeve blouse in an intricate pattern. Measurements: Bust: Length:

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[meg-beth]

•La Belle 90s Zip Front Sleeveless Blouse•

Blissed out rocker chic. Bright white collared blouse featuring a sleeveless fit that's perfect for summer. Reminds me of American Apparel tops.  17" pit to pit laying flat. 18.75" shoulder to bottom seam. 15" in smaller waist area.

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[meg-beth]

• Versatile Sleeveless Asian Button Down Blouse •

Snatch this cute blouse in a size 2XL. It can fit a variety of sizes with a different type of fit. 💯 percent polyester. Tie up at the front for a casual custom fit or wear tucked into a skirt for a polished final look. Black collar and red print overall. Measurements are approximate and taken flat: Bust pit to pit: 22.25” Waist: 22” ~ Length from shoulder: 31.5” Shoulders: 14.25” Arm opening: 11”

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[meg-beth]

• Z By Zella Venice Crop Muscle Tank Magenta •

EUC. Not my style. Z By Zella Venice Crop Muscle Tank in a purple magenta color. Slightly cropped and super soft and breathy. Shows a little of your tummy if you’re not wearing high waisted bottoms.

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[meg-beth]

SwoleCAL California Barbell Club SUPER Soft Tee

EUC Soft Black tee bearing SwoleCAL Logo. Check out the other SwoleCAL items I have.

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[meg-beth]

Fleo Shorts Blue Monstera Leaves 3.25

Lots of bright white mixed with vibrant monstera leaves. These monstera leaves are electrifyingly blue, melting from light to deep in shade. Blue Monstera Leaves 3.25 are made for strong, healthy, happy legs. Fully lined in white! Mid rise Super soft fabric MaxDri Microblock properties 88% poly / 12% spandex 3.25" inseam Flat, 2 3/8" wide waistband Tight fit

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[meg-beth]

Pastel Nike Lunar Converge - Purple Pink

Ever wanted to know what it feels like to walk on the moon? They don’t call these ~lunar~ converge for no reason. Adorable and on trend coloring with a padded and cushiony step. Super cute! Lightly worn. Bottoms may be gray but they are white to begin with. Sides have been cleaned and show pearly like new. These run slightly small for those who may be a true 7.5.

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[meg-beth]

Burgundy Laser Cut Suede A Line Mini Skirt Express

Cute little fully lined A line mini skirt from Express in a burgundy and oxblood color. Faux suede Measurements are approximate and taken flat: Waist: 14.25” Hips: 19.25” Length: 15.25” front, 16” back

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[meg-beth]

Wild Strawberry Women's Print Tee and Shorts Set

Bottoms run more small than the top. NWT except they didn’t have tags to begin with. Never been worn! Super cute and faux distressed. Double layered.

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[meg-beth]

• Witchy Vibes Occult Tulle Skirt •

Cute little goth girl. You can be one, too. Very Wednesday Addams; Lydia Deetz. You know the drill. • Black Full Crinoline Tulle Layered Skirt • Size large. But it fits like a M/L.

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[meg-beth]

•Gold Shimmer Pleated Front Tie Skirt Moon River•

Unique gold and black pleated mini skirt with a front tie wrap to add some interest to a staple item. Kick it with some kicks on the weekend or dress it up for a night out in the town. NWT 14.5" waist 18" hip 18" length Perfect for NYE 2018! New Year's Eve

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[meg-beth]

• Anthropologie Sparrow Open Knit Tank - Mustard •

Sparrow brand from Anthropologie. Mustard yellow open knit tank in a cotton linen rayon material providing BREATHING & STRETCH on an incomparable level. Close tighter knit in the front for modesty and general wearability and a more open breathy back! See photos. Measurements are approximate and taken flat: Bust: 17.5” Length from shoulder: 25” front 28” back

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