Lone Wolf, Soul Nomad

even my quiet gets misunderstood. infj. contradictions. yin yang and everything in between.

[metamorphesque]

— Mary Oliver, Upstream

[curlicuecal]

Whenever I take a long car ride I end up exhausted afterwards, and I'm always like "why am I so tired? I was just sitting around doing nothing all day."

But the answer, it turns out, is I was doing something. Riding in a car jars your body in many directions and requires constant microadjustments of your muscles just to stay in place and hold your normal posture. Because you're inside the car, inside the situation, it's easy not to notice all the extra work you're doing just to maintain the status quo.

There's all sorts of type of work that we think of as "free" that require spending energy: concentrating, making decisions, managing anxiety, maintaining hypervigilance in an unfriendly environment, dealing with stereotype threat, processing a lot of sensory input, repairing skin cells damaged sun exposure, trying to stay warm in a cold room.

The next time you think you're tired from "nothing", consider instead that you're probably in situation where you're doing a lot of unnoticed extra work just to stay in place.

[lonewolfsoulnomad]

"Maintaining hypervigilance in an unfriendly environment"

For an INFJ stuck in (various) extroverted workspaces for 15 years, no wonder I was so exhausted all the time.

[ashstfu]

normalize letting whoever think whatever because people are going to misunderstand you anyway

[itsjuanke]

😍

[lonewolfsoulnomad]

He’s looking so pensive in this photo I just want to come over and rub his back gently.

[sylvia-aliveinnightmares-deacti]

[anxietyproblem]

[lokihiddleston]

“Solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.”

— Jim Carrey (via quotemadness)

[lokihiddleston]

“When you’re an introvert like me and you’ve been lonely for a while, and then you find someone who understands you, you become really attached to them. It’s a real release.”

— Lana Del Rey (via quotemadness)

[lonewolfsoulnomad]

You ever wake up and mentally go through your planned activities and feeling tired just from thinking about it?

[valtsv]

the exhausting ordeal of getting to sleep

[relatablepoetryandquotes]

“You lost all interest in this world. You were disappointed and discouraged, and lost interest in everything. So you abandoned your physical body. You went to a world apart and you’re living a different kind of life there. In a world that’s inside you.” - Haruki Murakami, 1Q84

[jupitersmusings]

good things will happen 🧿

things that are meant to be will fall into place 🧿

[overlord-fire-bubble]

THIS ONE FUCKING WORKS. REBLOG IT.

[hplyrikz]

“You can tell how dangerous a person is by the way they hold their anger inside themselves quietly.”

— Unknown (via hplyrikz)

[olearypoetry]

[simplecomplexity168]

you know you're INFJ when..

with your unusually wide range of interests, you dabble in quite a number of different skills and abilities, and with your knack for fast learning, you find yourself quite easily becoming adept at most of them.

[chativity-blog]

Can’t handle more 🙌

[lonewolfsoulnomad]

So true.

[lonewolfsoulnomad]

You know you're INFJ when

You have moments and periods in your life when you just need things to be moving at a slower pace, and when things and people around you moves so fast, you get so easily drained just trying to keep up.

..or, you might choose to stay at your speed at the risk of being seen as not participating enough - and as much as you tell yourself that your needs come first, it slowly eats at you.