Melodious Suggestions

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✧･ﾟplaylists to help pass the time *:･✧

hi everyone! it’s been a while since i made a huge playlist masterpost, but i thought that right now when we’re all stuck inside wondering what to do with our time i would make a list of all my playlists. listening to music is so calming and definitely helps me pass the time…so enjoy! - cam

songs that remind me of a fashion show 

a mix of songs that remind me of driving down the coast 

a playlist dedicated to paris 

songs that inspire me 

a dreamy mix

songs to listen to when you feel carefree

a super fun workout/running playlist to keep you pumped up 

songs to listen to during golden hour 

a mix of songs to listen to on a sunny day 

a playlist full of songs that make me feel alive 

songs that remind me of my teenage years 

a study/coffee shop playlist to keep you calm 

songs to listen to on the weekend 

songs that make me feel like living in the moment 

a friday kinda mix !

songs that remind me of a warm spring evening 

a mix dedicated to nature 

my all-time favorite songs all in one playlist 

songs that remind me of flowers and sunshine 

a 12-hour long playlist of songs that make me feel nostalgic 

songs that remind me of going back to school 

my ultimate summertime playlist 

songs that make me feel like i’m in a movie 

upbeat songs to get ready to in the morning 

songs i’m currently loving & listening to right now

a playlist dedicated to italy and all its wonders 

songs that are soft and delicate 

a mix to listen to while watching the sunrise / sunset 

a playlist for a rainy and stormy day 

songs to listen to when you wake up ! 

another nature playlist because why not?! 

a monday playlist to make your monday more enjoyable 

my springtime playlist 

songs that are bittersweet 

my girl power anthems playlist 

for the daydreamers 

songs that remind me of the spirit of traveling & exploring 

a mix to listen to before bed 

songs to listen and dance to in your kitchen 

a super fun 70s playlist 

relaxing songs for a sunday 

songs that remind me of wintertime 

for people who love the east coast 

for people who love the west coast 

a mix of lo fi beats 

songs to listen to in your car at night 

fresh finds (new songs every monday!)

the ultimate sing along playlist 

an indie playlist 

the perfect road trip / daily commute mix 

a super studious playlist to keep you extra focused 

songs that remind me of the beach 

a mix of songs to listen to when you’re j chillin

songs that remind me of a trip to outer space !

listen to this when you’re in love 

songs for stargazing…

the perfect autumn playlist 

songs that make my heart flutter 

a mix of carefree & happy tunes 

the grooviest 80s playlist around 

a mix of golden oldies 

listen to this if you like rap / r&b 

another workout playlist !

a mix of fun, upbeat songs to dance to 

a playlist inspired by call me by your name

a coming of age playlist 

a mix of songs that deserve more hype 

[melodioussuggestions]

hello. i hope there are people who take care of you like you do for others. thank you, thank you for being like this.

🥺🥺 no thank you!! this is so sweet 🥺

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

things that can help ease anxiety:

- a hot soothing drink like chamomile tea - warm yellow lighting, like a little lamp - sweet scents or candles - reading a paper book - organising things - holding a cushion or pillow - a big bowl of soup - listening to songs that are calming - light exercise or a walk in a quiet street - fresh warm laundry and a tidy room - remembering things you’re thankful for - soft and comfortable clothes

[melodioussuggestions]

hi, i'm struggling with a lot of depression + anxiety in quarantine, and it's been yucky outside, so i can't spend as much time in the woods as i'd like :( any advice??

hi angel!!

i totally understand how quarantine can negatively affect your mental health - isolation can cause cabin fever, and boredom can allow time and space for preexisting mental illnesses (such as anxiety and depression) to fester. as someone who suffers from both, i of course would recommend spending time outside when the weather is nice! personally i like to roller skate in my neighborhood (i actually picked up the hobby during quarantine). but, since you've already said that the weather doesn't always permit trips outside, i would also recommend picking up a hobby/hobbies that can be done inside! ideally creative hobbies, such as art journaling, writing, drawing, making music/playing an instrument, sewing, embroidery, etc. cooking or baking might also be nice hobbies to pick up. in my experience, creative hobbies and hobbies that busy your hands offer the best solace from poor mental health, as creative hobbies can help you express your emotions in a healthy way, and there's just something about letting your hands do things on autopilot and letting your mind wander that's therapeutic.

i'd also like to remind you that during these times of isolation and distance, connection is more important than ever. don't be afraid to reach out to others, whether that be to those living with you (if anyone does) or to your friends through technology. we're very fortunate to live in a day and age in which distance can be bridged by facetime, texting, and social media, so i'd definitely encourage you to take advantage of those resources if you can!!

i hope this helps! hang in there. these times are definitely tough, but as long as we accept that circumstances are what they are and try our best to roll with the punches, we'll make it through. if you need anything else, please feel free to ask!!

[aladie]

gem; who are your favorite tumblrs?

these are my favorite tumblrs:

@jmtiny @joeguk @teteart @giltrees @3dawrk @taescuit @tearbtss @editsdna @artsminie @mirohsite @parkjimni @minietaes  @vanteclub @sunflorally @wlnterbear @jadoresadie @raiseheaven @magicchiato @studywithae @miniemalism @mimibtsghost @dionysusmood @thelostandlovely @lovelysuggestions @melodioussuggestions @artsyeoll @artsyeolpsd @wholeheartedsuggestions @summersunflower-suggestions.

not making me pick a certain number of tumblrs was a mistake, i guess, hshaushu. they’re so many (and i think i’m missing some blogs). but picking only a few of them would be such a torture! because i love them all equally. they’re incredibely talented, sweet, kind and helpful and own a huge place in my heart. i hope they know it.

[melodioussuggestions]

hello.i’m really not feeling well and i need to talk to someone. even when my life goes well-which is not a regular think, im always negative and i find the negative in situations. i have friends and i know they love me but i feel alone and isolated at the same time. i dont feel pretty even if i hear people saying that i am. my parents are so annoying.i know they love me but they dont understand me. we have money issues and sometimes i cant buy what i need. dont know how to be happy.

hi angel!

if you’re used to negativity or negative circumstances in your life, it makes sense that you wouldn’t expect good things or would tend towards pessimism. to me, it sounds like your circumstances may be aggravating a mental disorder, like anxiety and/or depression, which can cause low self-esteem, feelings of isolation or worthlessness, pessimism or a sense that life is senseless or useless, and feelings of being misunderstood or alone. if you have a predisposition to a disorder like this, circumstances like poverty or turbulence in the household can definitely aggravate them or bring them about. i have an anxiety disorder, and while i was living at home with my parents (in a lower-income, often conflict-filled and occasionally violent household), i had panic attacks and was often strongly affected by my anxiety. now, however, i’m living on my own in a different city with my best friend and her sister, and my anxiety has definitely lessened.

you may not be able to do anything about your current circumstances, but i feel like reaching out to your friends, family, and/or others you trust (teachers/counselors/etc.) may help. although it can be scary to be vulnerable to others and admit you’re struggling, having a support system in your life can help a lot. you’re not a burden to your loved ones, and they will be happy to help in any way they can! but communication on your part is key.

also, i know this may not be helpful or much of a consolation right now, but please hear me out: it will get better in time. your circumstances seem like they may be playing a large part in your mental state, and i definitely know where you’re coming from! if someone had told me four or five years ago that i would be as happy, productive, and healthy as i am now, i’m not sure i would have believed them. however, things do improve. it may take time, but they will. please hold out and hold on even though things get hard.

i hope this has helped at least a little bit! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask - my inbox is always open.

[melodioussuggestions]

I appreciate you and hope that the energy and effort you give is replenished.

🥺🥺🥺 thank you!!!! ditto x10000!!!!

[melodioussuggestions]

hey you!!! it’s best friend anon!! just wanted to pop in a say i hope you’re doing well and wanted to give you a quick update! i got a boyfriend now and he’s like the best thing ever!! anyways i hope you’re having a rad time and taking care of yourself!! love you dude!! 💖🌺🌼💛💛💖🌼🌺

omg hell yeah!!! congrats on being in a happy relationship!!!

i'm doing good, just potentially experiencing some changes in my medical condition that i need to get to the bottom of (i've been super tired lately for no reason and have been inexplicably gaining weight, so i'm gonna get my thyroid checked). i also just started college!! so that's been super cool as well.

thanks for checking in!! i love hearing from you!!! ❤️💞💜💚💕💛🧡💗💘🧡💓💞💓❤️💚💛💜💚

[melodioussuggestions]

Hi, I’m struggling with being lonely. I’ve struggled with this for a long time now and every so often I feel as though it consumes me. Do you have any advice?

hi lovey!

this also sometimes bothers me as well. what i do when i feel very lonely is channel that energy into something creative that i enjoy doing - writing, art journaling, reading, singing, etc. it helps me express my emotions without wallowing in them and letting them consume me, which i find very helpful!

additionally, if you don't have the energy to create, you could always read, watch a lighthearted show or movie, or play electronic games that require your full attention (preferably something with a problem-solving component, so that you have to focus on the game instead of zoning out while you're playing). sometimes just a lighthearted distraction is enough to shift your perspective!

lastly, don't be afraid to reach out and connect with others. texts, phone calls and video calls can do a lot for your mood when you're feeling isolated or lonely. sometimes, i find that i don't feel like talking to others when i'm lonely, but it's necessary to stop isolating myself and reach out; when i do, i end up feeling much better.

i hope this helps! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask.

[melodioussuggestions]

Hi, for the past week of been freaking purging myself of food, especially around dinner. I know that eating disorders are bad, and I feel guilty about wasting food, but I hate the feeling of being full. I can’t seem to lose weight whatever I do and I don’t lose much by purging either. I know the health risks and the way EDs affect people mentally, but I just want to become healthier? Thinner? Idk

hi angel!

i would really encourage you to seek help for this. ik it's scary, but eating disorders will not make you healthier!! they're bad for you in multiple ways, both physically and mentally. your body is not designed to lose weight through extreme methods like purging or starving and it affects your whole body negatively. through treatment and help/support from family and professionals, you can find healthy thought processes and begin to view your body in a more positive light (bc whether you believe it or not, your body deserves love as it is!).

i hope this has helped at least somewhat, and i'm sorry i can't help more. again, i really encourage you to talk to an adult you trust about your disorder so that you can get some treatment - you'll feel much better physically and mentally.

[melodioussuggestions]

guess who’s back in action... ITS BEST FRIEND ANON!!! hello don’t know if you remember me but it’s been a long while and i wanted to pop in and say hi! i hope you’re having a lovely day!!

omg hi!!! i totally do remember you!!! hope all's going well with your best friend ;) it's great to hear from you!!!

[melodioussuggestions]

hey! im incredibly extroverted and confident; u could get a good image of me from the stereotypical clout chick in highschool. ive been realizing some of my friends are incredibly toxic. they degrade me in front of my face and other friends and def take advantage of my loyalty and generosity. ive been distancing myself, yet it feels weird to have a missing presence. i have full confidence in the fact that im incredibly fun and a good friend. is there an explanation for their attitude towards me?

hi angel!!

sometimes people are just rude and mean for no reason. however, in your case, i think some of your friends might be a little envious of you? i'm not sure bc i don't live in your friend group, but from what you've told me, it sounds like your confidence could definitely be a point of envy for people who aren't as confident or for people who wish they could be more like you socially. that's definitely not your fault! keep being yourself and stay confident. the right people will appreciate that confidence instead of trying to tear you down.

i hope this helps! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask.

[magicalgirlpropaganda]

The whole self love thing is good and all but some people can’t fathom being loved. They can’t imagine there being anything good about them. So they can’t simply just stop doing unhealthy things, there’s a process.

[sandersstudies]

Before self love you have to invoke self tolerance and self neutrality.

[sandersstudies]

If you can’t say “I love my body!” say “my body gets me from place to place.”

If you can’t say “I’m beautiful,” begin by shutting down the “I’m ugly” thoughts and saying “I’m a person.”

If you can’t say “I’m valuable” begun by shutting down the “I’m worthless” thoughts and say “all people deserve basic respect, and I’m a person.”

If you can’t say “I’m important,” or “I’m kind” say “I am the one who waters my plant every week” or “I am the one who tips the kind barista down the street” or “I am the one who makes sure my dog does not eat plastic” or “I am the one who leaves long comments on people’s fan fictions.”

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How to Deal With Suicidal Thoughts #BellLetsTalk 

Thank you to everyone who supported us and made this video possible! 

[melodioussuggestions]

People says "people who cuts themselves dont do for attention" but i did it for attention. I wanted to scream for help. i had cut my hands and didnt tried to cover or hide it. Am i guilty?? Yes. But it still hurts when people says "they dont do it for attention" that makes me feel like a manipulative bitch.

hi lovey!

try not to let others define your struggles!! no one but you knows what you're going through or how you feel. however, i would encourage you to try to communicate more clearly with others if there are people in your life who would understand and/or try to help. as someone with mental illnesses, i know it's difficult to talk about it when things are difficult for you or your mental illnesses are acting up, but speaking personally, i've learned to do it and it's been very beneficial for my mental health and for my relationship with my friends and family. it took time to become comfortable doing so, and it's still a work in progress, but i think you'll find it will help a lot.

i hope this helps! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask.

[melodioussuggestions]

Hi I need to vent. My gf broke up with me after 6 years (22 yo), when she started working she didn’t make much time for us and stopped being spontaneously, also did not show affection as often anymore. I just became really insecure. She kept telling me that it wasn’t true and wasn’t on purpose etc after a while I couldn’t take it anymore and started a huge discussion, that weekend I went to her home and she broke up with me bc of that.She’s on my mind 24/7 and I don’t know how to stop thinking😔

hi angel!

i'm sorry to hear y'all broke up. ik it can be really tough to deal with a breakup with someone you really loved, especially after you've been in such a long relationship. i would suggest keeping yourself busy in as many healthy (i repeat, healthy) ways as possible. try a new hobby. if there are classes you've been wanting to take (dance, pottery, art, writing, singing, etc etc), sign up for a few. definitely express your feelings however you feel is best (venting, journaling, creating, etc), but try not to wallow in it (there's a difference between letting off all that built-up steam and purposely staying down in the dumps - one makes you feel better and the other just makes you feel worse and worse). keep in mind that it will hurt for a while, but it will get better.

i hope this helps! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask.

[melodioussuggestions]

Hi. I suffer from social anxiety. And by that I don’t mean that I’m shy, I get uncomfortable and have anxiety-like symptoms when I’m talking to someone. It’s horrible as they can see me turning red. And it’s not just that i actually feel terrible inside and it’s keeping me from going outside. It’s really horrible. I don’t know what to do it’s hard. I’d be unstoppable if I didn’t have this...

hi angel!!!

i understand how debilitating it can be to deal with severe social anxiety. personally, i would recommend going to see a therapist or maybe a medical professional. i suffer from gad rather than social anxiety (my anxiety is triggered by other stuff - i actually do fairly well in social settings), but my best friend really struggled with severe social anxiety since she was in about third grade (when we first met) until sixth grade. in sixth grade, she saw a doctor and got meds, and from there on it's only been uphill. (ofc, meds may not be the answer for you! everybody is different. however, please keep in mind that for many people, meds are very helpful and are a very effective treatment.)

i hope this helps!! if you need anything else, please feel free to ask.