Harder Harmonies

[purplequay]

its fun to draw cats when you dont know cat anatomy 

[halfabouros]

They look normal to me

[cliveguy]

i literally can’t stop thinking abt that richard siken quote where he falls to the floor crying but all he can focus on is the details of the wall in front of him

[cliveguy]

“Eventually something you love is going to be taken away. And then you will fall to the floor crying. And then, however much later, it is finally happening to you: you’re falling to the floor crying thinking, “I am falling to the floor crying,” but there’s an element of the ridiculous to it — you knew it would happen and, even worse, while you’re on the floor crying you look at the place where the wall meets the floor and you realise you didn’t paint it very well.”

[nevver]

Design Crush

[syrian-barbie-deactivated202210]

Anne Louis Girodet. The entombment of Atala. 1808.

[kingsophiesworld]

“My aesthetic: Girls who have been treated badly finally in caring and respectful relationships”. One of a kind free hand embroidery on www.kingsophiesworld.co.uk

[unclefather]

how to kiss a boy

grab his waist

slip your hand in his pocket

steal his wallet

dont even kiss him

just run

[gahdamnpunk]

Her tuition so damn high she can wear whatever tf she wants

[smallswingshoes]

Spite goals

[lyinginbedmon]

Her name is Letitia Chai, she is Korean, and her presentation was “Acting in Public: Performance in Everyday Life”.

Her demonstration drew two dozen supporters. She was wearing a modest shirt and some cut-off shorts (which we can’t see in the images here because they’re mostly hidden by her laptop, exacerbating the need for retort against her professor’s disagreement with them). When her professor also asked what Chai’s mother would think of her attire, she informed him that she’s a gender and sexuality professor.

[verminviscount]

Letitia Chai: Chaotic good

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[petalya]

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

[melody-in-everything]

this is mind blowing...

[podencos]

U could be one of the greatest things to happen in someone’s life, according to them, and they will still run away from that, from you, and somewhere along the way u will be sitting at a red light, accepting that they’re allowed to be skittish and you’re allowed to feel hurt and you will both grow from there

[claryfairhild]

i’m so done with the way girls in twenties are treated. i’m so done with people who literally create timetable for us. 20- 24  find a guy, 24-26 make him propose to you, 27-29 get married. i’m so done. i’m do not want to get 2 a.m texts from my best friend who is freaking out that she is gonna die alone. i do not want see my 20 years old friend wasting her time on some guys who are not even interested in her. i do not want see us falling for every nice guy who does not look creepy. i do not want to see girls get sad or paranoid just bcos they do not fill in the schedule. you are ok. you should enjoy your life at its fullest and one day you will find 10/10 so do not pursue 6 just because you do not want to be single. it is ok and one day you will find someone. do not split your love with people who does not deserve it. keep it for yourself and when time will come you will know. i know it hurts. i know you wish u could just open part of yourself and release the buzzing love. but not every kind of love is romantic. show it to your family, friends, plants, yourself.

[books-n-quotes]

We would be together and have our books and at night be warm in bed together with the windows open and the stars bright.

Ernest Hemingway, A Moveable Feast (via books-n-quotes)

[up-north-23]

[thoughtsfromawallflower]

[melody-in-everything]

We both love winter and I think that says a lot about how often we leave the house. You asked someone else on a date this week and I smiled until my mouth hurt. The lies strained my muscles. I spent a whole year thinking about you, and planning new ways to leave you, and never sticking to any of those. People I love have become people I loved. Not because of you, but you were present in those final conversations. When you tell me I can call you whenever I need to, you mean it. But you keep your phone on silent. Tonight I have a fever and cannot stop crying. The tears do not calm my temperature. I ask you to spend the night with me. It is winter, after all. It is Wednesday, after all. Soon there will be one promise you have to keep, after all these others. Soon you will arrive here and I will not wonder when you are leaving (me). Soon I will learn how to be the one who leaves.

[sleepingpigeon]

no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there it’s work. it’s not work like it’s a chore it’s jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.

[oodlenoodleroodle]

And it’s also terrifying! Like it’s the kind of vulnerability you can’t do while being all cool and in control of things, you have to like open up the really awkward, ugly inner part of yourself and hope that the other person is still into you. 

Like you have to actually say - with words coming out of your mouth or hands or whatever way you use to directly communicate in person - what you would like from the other person! You have to say stuff like “hey the thing you did made me feel some ways and we have to address this like adults” and hope that the other person says “I see, yes I also think we should address this like adults” (instead of “no I didn’t” or “you’re overreacting” or other shut-down-ing shit that ruins lives). 

[picturesimlivinthru]

Worth the read my oh my

[comfortableinteriors-blog]

[books-n-quotes]

“She had rooms in her mind that she would not look into.”

— Wallace Stegner, Angle of Repose