[menhekawa]

❝ I know happiness won't come even if I depend on you. ❞

anhedonia , kennel

he , she , it , doll ♡ femmasc terms

apl multigender nonhuman sys

autistic dog + cluster b , c

my partner holds my leash

The melancholic doll has no DNI

[imthelearner]

making a blog with the name “transmascvoicesproject” and then not actually accepting submissions from trans men and only using it to paint all trans women as rapists and predators, on top of the blog name being a parody of an actual project run by a trans woman made for other trans woman to talk about violence and transmisogyny they’ve faced, is so insanely disgusting i don’t even have the words for it

[deltaomicronfive]

You need to extend kindness and visibility to fat people who "won't get better." Who will feel no peace with fatness, who will get bigger and have health problems life long, who do have dietary issues. It is your duty to my friends, to stop fucking erasing them. Glorify fatness and expand beauty standards by all means. Just stop erasing my fucking friends.

[lunaeregia]

[sillylandmagic]

This disability pride month remember to include and not separate yourself from disabled people with higher support needs.

I need physical help for all self care and showering, I use adaptive cutlery or else I can’t feed myself, I’m also both bladder and bowel incontinent and will be wearing adult pull ups soon.

No I’m not babyish or gross for needing physical help, I have ataxia spastic triplegia and left sided weakness, this makes fine motor skills very difficult and also makes it so my bladder and bowel muscles are weakened.

If you also have higher needs just know you aren’t alone🫂

[firewalkwithmedvd]

man if you're disabled you've GOT to find some way to make your fuckass body a source of pleasure whenever you can. jacking off. eating good food. wearing soft clothes. kissing an animal on the head. whatever you can do

[smoov-criminal]

pedestrians don't seem to realize how exhausting using a wheelchair is, both manual and powered. i had to wheel around a hospital today with several ramps i had to go up and down multiple times, and even with my smoov i ended up with shoulder and chest pain and deep exhaustion.

people look at wheelchair users and think "well you're sitting down all the time that doesn't take effort" no actually it does. pushing a manual chair takes a lot of fucking effort, especially without a power assist. repetitive stress injuries are a huge problem manual chair users encounter all the time. going up hills and ramps is so deeply fatiguing.

this doesn't just apply to manual chair users btw. power chair usage can also be really exhausting, especially for people with complex seating needs. going over bumps and cracks can trigger many symptoms such as spasticity, pressure sores are common, even just sitting upright can be exhausting for many people.

basically don't assume using a wheelchair takes 0 effort, it really really does. getting to "sit down all the time" doesn't mean it's easy.

[smoov-criminal]

im gonna need you able bodied motherfuckers to stop comparing the extreme pain and exhaustion that comes with using a manual chair to being in a car for 8 hours. not even remotely the same thing.

[ndnbutch]

I get in theory why people complain about het ships or whatever, I get wanting to watch queer media I really do, but I guess where y’all lose me is like. I saw some asshole on a post about Sinners complaining it was “hetslop”—this person was specifically doing so while also claiming Remmick was a queer character and thus they were justified in caring more about him than the Black protagonists. which is a whole other disgusting can of worms that has been well addressed by others at this point. but even in the absence of that part of the argument, like, no, i actually don’t think that a hunger for queer stories is an especially good excuse to deride and dismiss a piece of landmark Black filmmaking, especially as a non-Black person. I have a post that’s been going around encouraging folks to engage with more Native stories and characters, and I had someone come onto that post saying in the tags that they’d need these stories to be queer in order to care. and I just think that, you know, sucks! like obviously as a queer Native I also want to see more of those stories too. but idk how else to put it other than to say that Black people and people of color shouldn’t have to be like you in order for you to care about our narratives and experiences. and I think some of y’all are using this disdain for heterosexuality as a cover for your unexamined racial biases. it’s not okay to be racist to people just because those people happen to be straight, and you continue to be white before you are queer.

[ndnbutch]

on an even more basic level than that, also, I simply just think some of y’all NEED to learn how to interact with media and storytelling without ships and fandom in mind. like if not being able to write fic about two men kissing is genuinely going to be a dealbreaker for you I think that’s actually something you need to work on within yourself because at that point I think you’re no longer really interacting with art and themes and narrative so much as just kind of playing with toys. which is, like, fine I guess. have fun. but it wouldn’t kill you to disengage from that from time to time. especially if would allow you to actually appreciate rich and deeply moving cultural stories from communities of color that you desperately need to learn how to see as human

[thebeautyofblackneutrality]

saw a twitter post about how a non-binary person was bothered by people sayin’ “they is” instead of “they are” and it’s definitely a reason why i created this blog and the blacknbculture blog. no matter how pro-black or anti-racism a white nigga will be they will always find some way to criticize “ghetto”, “trashy”, or “lazy” ways of speakin’ and bein’.

i cannot speak my dialect around white without havin’ to assimilate unless i want people to mock me or just laugh at everything i say, even if i’m actually mad. other times, i just feel like i come off as rude to white people. in english i see examples of my native dialect be used as a “incorrect examples” of Real English. the reason i write in my dialect is so i don’t lose it bein’ surrounded by so many white people who only tolerate me as long as i throw my culture away. usin’ “is” instead of “are” in African American English (AAE) is the most common feature in the dialect i’d argue it’s part of what make it so distinct, along with the accent as well. i will not be fooled by white people bothered by grammar, cause 99% it’s racism they probably don’t even know of.

so, i will be sayin’ “they is”, actually. and i’ll say it proudly.

[ndnbutch]

white european communists are obsessed with talking about wanting to nuke the entire landmass currently known as the united states because they feel an ancestral call towards killing Indigenous people

[bebsi-cola]

we lost the plot when people started saying "afabs" or "amabs" like that's an adjective or a noun. or, especially, a discrete category of person you can make generalisations about. agab is just a single event that happens to most (but not all) newborns. it doesn't mean that person was raised as their agab. it doesn't mean that their body looks a certain way. litcherally it was someone looking at da baby and going "seems like a boy" or whatever and writing that shit down

[tariah23]

Seated

Stuff like this always makes me remember how sensationalized the ​“hide your kids, hide your wife” video was, also known as the “bedroom intruder meme” 🗿.

The guy was clearly one of the earliest memes of a black person expressing frustration publicly (it was a news report of the man explaining how he’d run off a predator trying to rape his sister by the way) but in a “funny way” (the way that nbs and whites find entertaining at least because they don’t see black trauma as something that should be given grace, and shown empathy right from the very start over their own intial enjoyment because that’s no fun), and something like this became a huge joke. Like, this meme was literally everywhere in the early 2000’s, and I think people forgot that his sister was almost raped 🧍🏾‍♀️…………………………..!

[phaea]

⠀⠀❥⠀⠀blue n white dividers

mbm⠀⠀―⠀⠀rb2use recolors okay,⠀no reposts

[gothhabiba]

in response to people saying things like "men aren't allowed to cry in public, unlike women" other people will then say things like "women are penalized, not rewarded, for public displays of emotion—the fact that women are presumed to be overly emotional & irrational is misogyny, not a privilege"

which is often true but like, it's contextual innit. lest we discount the phenomenon of White Woman Tears

[gothhabiba]

I've recently had white women in professional contexts tell me that they were quote "hurt" and "gutted" by what amounted to very minor professional faux pas on my part. I remember reading a white woman academic's essay on Jane Eyre that began with recounting her emotional upset upon having Jane Eyre "taken away from her" by postcolonial / anti-racist scholarship. white women's emotions do have currency in personal and professional spaces in selective contexts, i.e. when wielded against people of colour 🤷🏽‍♀️

[cybervalkyrie]

[sailatina3]

No offense but if you're exclusively attracted to white people or cis people that is not a neutral or unbiased thing lmao. I know that may sound uncomfortable. But attraction is not this infallible thing that's completely uninfluenced from broader forces.

[cutecipher]

it really is annoying as hell how someone will talk about how poor people can't avoid ethically dubious products because of how being poor works and then someone with a two story house in the suburbs will take that to mean they can order harry potter books through a drone delivery from amazon and if you criticize that you're a bigot

[probuccalfat]

there’s a conversation here about how queer people who come from heavily poor, illiterate, traditional ass backgrounds have to put in fucking work to gain any real acceptance from the queer community so we’re not seen as ignorant and backwards but we also like don’t have community with our own families because of our gender and/or sexuality most times. it’s really rich that the progressive movement can acknowledge how poverty, illiteracy, religion, racial identity shape people but fully fail to understand it beyond good vs bad, enlightened vs ignorant, with us vs against us… like some of you fully cannot conceptualize a person that’s with you and on your side if they’re not exactly like you or deeply apologetic about where they came from because you look down on it. but i don’t really want to have that conversation with y’all.