Yesterday I gave a lesson to my new Brazilian student about the book Flute Music by French Composers (Louis Moyse)
So, of course, he went all, I must do this, I must do that.
(Here is what a typical lesson of mine look like)
"You like France. You intend to live here. What do you like most? How would you describe french music?"
"It is very rigorous. Very straight."
"... it surprises me what you say, it sounds more like German.”
“Why?”
“French people are most known as free, inconstant, moody”
Several minutes later, he says he doesn’t know, and I finally started explaining him.
Despite my origins, French people think I am french. Even when I say that I am not French, they get upset and tell me that I am, and not to jerk around.
I mean, okay, I can always say that I am French and nobody could agree, but it is quite the opposite, actually. So I am actually one of them. Not because I married a French guy, not because I speak fluently the language, but because I share something more important, and absolutely original.
Observe some french people at a dinner party at home, trying out some wine.
They find this good, but that might be better, and try this out, and it is fruity, but it reminds me that, and this, and those... it never ends.
Because, in my opinion, French people always seek for better.
So, when somebody is happy, they suddenly panic. Because it means that there is any better, the goal is reached, and you just lost your sense of life.
French to french :
"Why do you look so funny?"
"I am happy!"
"Oh, my god. Are you okay?"
French to foreigner :
"Why do you look so funny?"
"I am happy!"
"uh huh."
It is not and was never about origins, neither the language. It is about culture, the ambition to reach for the stars, and living with the never-ending frustration of nonaccomplishment.
(The Art of making a face - the french actor Jean Gabin)
ALWAYS LETTING A DOOR OPEN
Therefore, the notion of an end is very discussable. In each phrase of french music, you will always find this "ambiguité". You don't say "adieu"(farewell), you always say "au revoir"(see you again). French people can not live without this hope of more, better, and again.
When I was writing my essays at the Conservatory, some of my french friends helped me with my phrases. It was quite impossible to be efficient. On each phrase, everybody was correcting, changing, reading over and over. After almost one hour, we were only getting through 3 phrases instead of a chapter, as I had planned.
The detail is always so important, sometimes they get lost in time.
From my Korean background's point of view, having a party is letting ourselves go, loosen up and having fun. Sometimes with excessive alcohol.
French people do not understand this well. Some of them do, of course - this is a global influence. But usually, a well-raised french person would always say “No, thanks” at the right moment. (and secretly snob some foreign partying styles)
A party is about transgressing the standards for only a limited time.
It is about the art how to enjoy luxury.
Doing it excessively would make it totally out of context.
I don't drink Champagne every day. That's why drinking Champagne is a party on itself. And If I would drink Champagne every day, I would destroy a big opportunity of partying. Therefore, I will save it for special occasions, on my own standards.
I went to a bakery. At the cashier, there were some broken Macarons for free. I was so happy because, for me, it was an improvised mini-party.
Because I was not supposed to have them at that moment (I was on a diet), but it happened, and I was grateful of my helplessness and let myself go.
Every French person in the bakery nodded.
Every foreigner showed me pity, thinking maybe that I was poor...?
(Pierre Gagnaire, 3-star Michelin chef)
Do you understand why French people offer themselves a 600€ dinner? Not because they have money. It is because they do not do it at normal occasions! For a limited time, they experience something which is above their standard. It creates a souvenir which will last and stay unique. The greatest party ever.
The perfect moment on a Café Terrasse, with the perfect sunshine at the perfect moment. Pure Luxury, pure party - because you can't control it.
In this meaning, every French is ready to party, at any moment of the day.
French people always listen to life. And sometimes, there are some gifts. It is about catching these moments, and being there because it won't last.
How to play the fast movements? A little more than everything. Play a little faster than you can. A little louder than you intended to. A little more diminuendo than appropriate.
Just PARTY. It will be over soon - enjoy while you can. And be grateful.
I am not saying that everybody should be french.
Just saying, as a flutist/flute teacher, when you play, do it right. Make the piece alive. Bring perfume to your notes, make the notes french, just for the 5 or 6 minutes of play.
Speaking for myself, I love being French.
And maybe I was French even before being here.
Or I learned to be French.
All my friends think that I am more french than French.
What a fortunate coincidence.