The thing that makes I and other transfems so uncomfortable when TME queers say they are envious of how our bodies are "so transgressive," is that its never about us existing as women in a society trying to deny that.
Its always that our bodies are transgressive because they see it as so at odds and incongruent with femininity. And its often demeaning they way they feel so comfortable talking so openly about our bodies in such a way.
Like there's not much difference in how I feel about a person going:
"Your body is so unlike a real woman's, you look like a certified freak! (Derogatory)"
"Your body is so unlike a real woman's, you look like a certified freak! (Affectionate)"
I'm not trying to be a freak that shatters ideas of gender by looking like a shocking incongruent amalgam of masculine and feminine traits. I'm trying to be comfortable as a woman and fighting ideas of gender by being a woman when others tell me I'm not allowed to be.
When someone, fawns over my body in such a way with out giving a damn about who I am it feels almost exactly like I'm just dealing with a garden variety chaser.
