Miri Mayhem

37 || lesbian, trans, ADHD || ⚠️ men DNI

[redheadbigshoes]

Why a lot of you are so pressed with people having “men dni” on their blog?

I don’t see this reaction when people have other oppressors on their dni list like “white people dni” or “cishet people dni”.

You really just seem like that person who gets more pressed about men being generalized than about women and other people being victims of men… You seem like that person who feels sorry for men being rejected rather than feel empathy for the people they’re forcing themselves on…

If you care about men’s feelings more than someone’s comfort and safety then there’s something seriously wrong with you.

You don’t even hide your misogyny.

[mirimayhem]

As someone who's social media profiles fly "men dni", THIS!

[elierlick]

You wouldn't know it from mainstream media, but cis lesbians are the most supportive group of trans people... even more than trans people ourselves!

Media doesn't present reality: it creates it. The moral panic over trans women in queer spaces is a contrived conflict invented to drive our community apart. But our movements are connected at their core, and we are stronger together.

[couriernewvegas]

idk what ur all reacting to but more people need to be comfortable saying they are bisexual . lesbianism isnt like . a cool kids club its just a sexuality . if u like men u can call urself bisexual its not like better than or less than lesbianism please be normal

[mikamikomiki]

[redheadbigshoes]

I never get people who’re - supposedly - trans supportive getting pressed with lesbians saying they don’t include trans men in their identity…

So… are you mad at me because I see trans men as men?

[redheadlesbianfreak]

Yes, people do need to take accountability for the partners they choose to date, at least to some extent. And no, this doesn't apply to abusive relationships, that situation is entirely different.

I'm talking about white people who date other white people who are openly racist. I'm talking about "allies" who date other people who are openly homophobic and transphobic. I'm talking about liberal women who date very conservative men. And seeing bigotry as nothing more than a "political issue."

Of course, it's different if your partner lies and actively hides their political views from you. But if your partner is openly voting for people like Trump, openly supporting conservative politicians, openly hating/harming minority groups, then you should leave them. And you should be held accountable if you to choose to stay with someone like that.

[mirimayhem]

Don't hide this in the Tags...

[lostryu]

once again i am crawling out of my den to tell you all that if someone says “women” on a post, and your thoughts automatically jump to “they must be excluding trans women” you do not think trans women are women.

like just saying, your default of women clearly does not include trans women. otherwise you wouldn’t get so tilted if someone says ‘women’ and not ‘women and trans women’. you are acting like trans women are a subset of actual women and it’s disgusting.

and if you wanna cry terf psy-op or whatever, let me be very frank when i say that you need to grow up. its not people’s responsibility to have a huge disclaimer on every post to pander to your lack of critical thought.

[lostryu]

Bi lesbians and radinclus or whatever are always like “being queer is just saying fuck societal rules ” But like. Why do these people want lesbians to follow the very much societal rule of all women need to be attracted to men??? Surely it can’t have anything to do with deeply ingrained misogyny….

[cuntstudies-deactivated20230614]

honestly lesbians are better off just being around eachother lol. we're called bigoted for not being attracted to men we aren't allowed to talk about our specific experiences we aren't allowed to even rightfully claim "lesbian" as OUR word. these people dont like us. they make it clear that everyone, INCLUDING straight women and straight men, come before us. none of them like us none of them are normal about us. and we are expected to tolerate that in exchange for "community." its bullshit. we deserve better.

[mikamikomiki]

[princessefemmelesbian]

Lesbians: We are not attracted to men.

This fucking hellsite: Okay but what about trans men and demiboys and non-binary people who are male-aligned and multigender/genderfluid people who are partly men are you not attracted to them too????? You're an exclusionist transphobic radfem bitch for not thinking trans/nb men are attractive!!!! And what about trans women, they're technically men so do you hate them too? You lesbians are all terfs who think that trans women are men, that's why you say you don't like them, don't you know that not liking men is a moral failing? Ignore the fact that I'm the one who brought up trans women when you talked about not liking men, which technically means that I'm the one treating trans women as men and also as a gotcha to win arguments, not you, but oh well, you're a lesbian, and lesbians are ALWAAAAYS the bad guys!!! I just...I just can't believe that you would say that you're not attracted to men! There are some good men out there you know? You're making the nice men very sad by not giving them a chance. Can't you at least try to like men, even partially, even a little? Pweaaaaaaase? 👶🏾

Lesbians:

Lesbians: Anyway, we are not attracted to men. Die mad about it.

[redheadbigshoes]

If you act like you’re morally superior for being attracted to all genders or your attraction not being influenced by people’s gender, congratulations on acting just like conservatives and homophobes 👏

You know the people who are taking the LGBTQ+ community’s rights and also think they’re morally superior for being straight, right?

Someone’s sexuality isn’t a measurement of being morally superior.

[mikamikomiki]

I think the main thing it comes down to is: the LGBT community is full of rampant misogyny, but so many people think that because they're a minority, they're somehow less accountable to analyze their own behavior.

This is why lesbophobia is especially prevalent; it's the intersection of homophobia and misogyny. The same is also true of transmisogyny; the intersection of transphobia and misogyny.

So many people who consider themselves progressive will support lesbophobic or transmisogynistic concepts without so much as batting an eye. They think they've done the work already, I mean, you're LGBT! How could you have unchecked misogyny in your interactions with the world and others? Well, quite easily, as almost any lesbian or trans woman could tell you of our interactions with other LGBT people.

You all need to take a long, serious look at your behavior, and start actually listening to lesbians and trans women when we tell you things are harmful to us. Because right now, most of our issues remain incredibly insular, with only a small number of allies uplifting our voices.

[mirimayhem]

Yuck! Can Tumblr please stop dumping this lesbophic shit onto my timeline?!

[tiredyke]

[elierlick]

✅ Adult ✅ Human ✅ Female

Yep, it works!

[gaying-into-the-void]

I find boobs fascinating for every reason besides why dudes my age like them

[lostryu]

Ok, but why should I have to create my own sexuality when 'lesbian' has existed and encompassed what I am and feel for much longer than whatever you chucklefucks are trying to rebrand it to.

Why can't you guys just understand that attraction, be it sexual or romantic, to MULTIPLE genders outside of the nonbinary spectrum makes you bisexual or pansexual? And if that's not easy enough to understand, why not call just yourself sapphic??

If you fucking tapeworms are so desperate to have historical context, go out and make your own damn history with your own new label. Stop trying to conflate yourself with importance off something you were never meant to wear

[texaschainsawmasc-deactivated20]

“In real life queer spaces and identities are messy!” <-online leftist who’s almost certainly about to argue that lesbians should “get to” fuck men, use femme or butch wrong at least once in their argument, and repackage a basic tenet of radical feminist transphobic beliefs as so progressive that if you don’t agree you “have a cop in your brain” or something (this gets 25,000 notes instantly)