How To Preserve "The Sexy"
Have you ever gone to your stylist asking for a change or a new look only to get just that and still not be satisfied? Or worse, you and your stylist have tried style after style, color after color yet nothing is working. Nothing quite fits the season or the mood you are in. And nothing can bring you out of it either.
Many times, clients sit in my chair and expect me to bring their sexy back. What they don’t realize is that they are the only ones who own their sexy so only they can retrieve it. As women, its our responsibility to find it, preserve it, and respect it! Our sexy is that thing that lives inside to create in each of us our own unique mystery to the outside world. In reality, sexiness is just total confidence in your femininity and your abilities as a woman. This confidence makes you feel a bit more witty, pretty, fun creating a feeling of wholeness.
So here are 9 ways you can work with your stylist to help you feel beautiful and sexy inside and out!!
1. LOOK GOOD, SMELL GOOD & DRESS WELL!
Keep your grooming appointments. Hair, nails, skin, etc. Waxing, if you do that. If you have never been waxed down there, try it! Although it can be painful, you will thank me :-) Waxing gives a feeling of cleanliness. A clean woman is always sexy!
You will be surprised a signature scent will do for you as a woman. Invest in a bottle of perfume. If you love smelling yourself throughout the day you can just imagine how much your husband or husband to come will enjoy your aroma. The compliments will be coming all day.
Wear clothes that make you feel good and complement your body shape. Dress how you would like to be perceived. Never underestimate the importance of buying a great fitting bra regularly! Not only will your tops look better on and your posture better, you will be amazed how a new bra will make the girls look playful again, lol. Your undergarments don’t have to consist of all strings and lace but a matching bra and panty that complements your shape will make you feel sexy and confident. Who cares if no one else knows. You know and thats what matters. You have to feel sexy to exude sexiness.
Now show up! And soak up the compliments and whats more…believe them.
2. TAKE TIME TO ENJOY & APPRECIATE YOURSELF
Whatever you do for yourself, take time to take it in. Don’t rush everytime you bathe or shower. Light candles, play music. Use the good oils and soap for no reason other than you are special and you deserve it. Take your time to moisturize your body. Slowly massage your skin and appreciate its suppleness. If its not so supple in areas (lol), accept that you are not perfect, but give that area some extra attention. Do the same when you comb your hair or brush your teeth. Take time to be more aware of your posture when you sit stand and walk and even while you are breathing. Being aware can help you do what you must do to be the best you.
3. MAKE A DECISION ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND ACT ON IT
Whatever is in your life that is keeping you from being the best version of you, make a decision and follow through with it. Or at least promise yourself to work at it everyday. When you live without guilt or fear you are free to be happy and empowered. A free spirit is sexier than a weighed down bag lady. Age doesnt matter either. There comes a time when we all must take inventory, atone for ourselves, and release negative energy so we can move forward.
4. VARY IT UP TO SPICE IT UP!!
Try a new lipcolor/gloss. Add a splash of color to your current hairstyle for a subtle change or a new hairstyle/cut for a whole new look. Switch up your style of dress with accessories and colors or go for a new style trend altogether.
When you step out of the box it gives you a sense of adventure which can be very sexy.
It would be great if we could all take 2-3 weeks to vacation on an exotic island. But, honestly you can get the same benefits from weekend getaways that are taken more often. Or even a day away doing something you have never done or going somewhere you have never been can help you to declutter your mind and light the fire of inspiration inside of you. Living in the moment and opening yourself to the possibilities can make you feel fresh, excited, and well…sexy.
6. DON’T JUST GET BUSY…BE PRODUCTIVE!
Figure out what you want. Devise a plan. Write it down. Go for it! Be the author of your own life by writing down your positive thoughts, affirmations, and goals. Then work towards creating that in your life everyday. Not only will you be productive, you will be able to measure your productivity. You will find that you are unavailable sometimes but thats ok. A little business and a little absence makes a woman mysterious. And mystery sexy!
7. COOK, CLEAN, & CREATE PEACEFUL ENVIRONMENT
Getting back to our “womanly duties” is one of the best ways to feel like a woman! There is nothing sexier or that screams WOMAN or WIFE like a fresh clean peaceful home and a delicious home cooked meal to save money on eating out all the time. Again, this is for you. Do this for you and watch how your confidence will soar. Just think how you feel when you walk into a freshly cleaned home or lay on freshly washed bedding or walk into an immaculate bathroom….SEXY!!!
8. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CORE SUPPORT…in other words…
GIRL TIME!!!!!
I don’t just mean any girls. I mean YOUR girls!! Nothing and no one can take the place of YOUR girls and what you mean to each other. They help to build you up and give you the safe haven to be exactly what you need to be and thats YOURSELF. Being in a safe space where you are able to laugh, cry, talk, and have a ball does something splendid for your aura!
9. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF MIND BODY & SPIRIT
Commit to some regular form of physical activity as well as prayer and meditation, DAILY! Develop a daily ritual of setting aside time to do what is needed to take care of you, inside and out. It can be a daily walk/run or a time to turn off and tune out. Maybe a weekly massage works for you. I don’t suggest distracting or destructive behaviors that reinforce weak areas in your life for example shopping as your outlet if you have financial problems. Or eating out alot if weight is an issue. Figure out what works for you but doesn’t perpetuate a negative cycle. Free your spirit inside and watch how you’re outside begins to glow!
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