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In hindsight it's very insulting to be told that flunking out of college due to adhd is actually "quite common"

just like, if there's a history at your institution of disabled kids not being able to make it you realise that's your fault right. like why don't you fucking do something about it. i guess they tried to do something about it with me and it failed so they let me go. crazy. nice work. why should we try to do any better.

yourheartinyourmouth

only 5% of people with adhd who go to college finish a degree. FUCKING. FIVE!!! PERCENT!!!!!!!!!!!

that should disgust and enrage you.

if any other demographic of students had a 95% failure rate, we would be demanding reform and studies to understand why that’s happening

when i was at my first university, trying to get accommodations for my ADHD, they just kept asking me what accommodations i wanted, and refused to answer when i would ask what was available to me. how the Hell am i supposed to know what i can have? what’s available???? also, i don’t know!!!! i’m an adhd sufferer, not a fucking disability expert for the fucking college, unlike you, DISABILITY EXPERT WHO WORKS FOR THE COLLEGE.

but because the us is OBSESSED with making sure no one gets anything “”for free””, she literally would not tell me what my options were until i broke down in tears and asked her why she was refusing to help me. and then she did a big sigh, like i was fucking up her entire career by *checks notes* asking the disability center in my university to help me, a disabled student

at the second uni i went to, i tried to explain to a dean that i was literally two gen eds that had nothing to do with my degree away from graduating and that i was burnt out and broke and exhausted and suicidal and i just needed to be able to finish my degree without the gen eds. and this. fucking. guy. looked me right in my face and said in the most patronizing tone he could muster “if you can’t handle it, then maybe college just isn’t for you.” keep in mind that up until that semester, i had been an honor student who made Dean’s List every semester and didn’t get below Bs. if it hadn’t been for my mental breakdown, i would have graduated cum laude, maybe even summa cum laude.

but this dean of students looked a disabled person right in the face and said well i guess you just can’t do it, short bus

jecook

Pulled these from a couple articles really quick but yeah the statistics are not kind. I remember writing a scathing essay about my issues with ADHD and college as part of an assignment for academic probation. I got back an email calling me entitled and lazy. Somehow, this thread helps me feel a lot better. I still have about a semester of school unfinished that I’m unsure if I’ll finish but… yeah. Makes me feel better to know it’s not just me.

emiliasilverova

I'm in the 5% (supposing the statistic extends to outside the US).

Looking at this reblog chain I can't help but feel profound sadness. Been there, done that, except back then I was still undiagnosed and completely unaware that maybe, possibly, it wasn't me who was lazy but the system that was built against me. I had some sense that accommodations existed, but I never ever considered them—I was not "disabled", therefore I couldn't just walk in and "steal" something not meant for me.

Even now that I am diagnosed with both ASD and ADHD, it's hard to get out of that line of reasoning. At the same time, I feel so much the part about asking for accommodation and being asked "well, what accommodation do you want?" in return. I don't know man, do I look like I can just come up with that sort of thing? It's exhausting, really. Every time I try to reach out for some help nothing ever happens, and then the same (sometimes even very well-meaning) people ask "but why didn't you ask for help?" Yeah, well, I wonder why...

Still, I "survived", in spite of everything set against me—my own family included. I got that degree, despite all the hurdles and bleeding of my self-confidence. I have found wonderful friends and a wonderful partner along the way, most of whom I would have never dreamed of just a few years ago. I have more hope. It's not perfect, I'm still battling burnout cycles (I'm in the midst of one just as I write this), but it got better, thankfully. I'm due to quit my mentally taxing job in a few months, not because I'm getting laid off but because I finally have the opportunity to start over.

My solution was soldiering on, but I don't really recommend it. It was the only one I had, and it took a lot from me. If you can find any help, any relief—just take it, as soon as you can. You deserve it. If you can't... well, you certainly have my commiseration. I can't promise you that you'll be as lucky as I am, but I really feel for you. If not for some chance encounters, I might not be in a much better mental place than if I were in the 95%.

At the very least, take care of yourself. As much as you can anyway. Of course, it would be infinitely better if the system accommodated us, and we do need people to advocate for that cause, but don't beat yourself up if you can't. I would know that not everyone has that energy, especially when struggling with that whole shitshow. So, again, take care of yourself, first and foremost. Always keep some space for the things you love, and please, I can't stress this enough, don't stay isolated.

Thank you so much for reading this.

karadin

My daughter has ADHD, I think what got her through four years was beginning the first two at a small well-funded community college that had many supports for students, as they had programs for english as a second language students, students who were working and had children, students who were the first in their families to go to collge etc, so she was able to learn how to college, and then finished at a Big Ten.

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