Mocking the bird, tempting the spider.

Queer. They/them. A space to be. Kink blog:@dontcallmealady

[cuntcurator]

[polythought]

Adapted from something I wrote on a different part of the internet a few years back.

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I’m about to make an analogy. Bear with me… :P

Non-knitters are always super-amazed whenever they see someone knitting on double-point needles. When I first learned to do this, people would come up to me and be amazed at how complex it looks. “How do you knit with four needles at once?!” The answer? You don’t. You’re only ever knitting with two needles at a time. First you use needle #1 to knit the stitches from needle #2, and when you finish, you use needle #2 to knit the stitches from needle #3. Needle #1, meanwhile, bides its time holding stitches until you come back around to it.

Poly can sometimes feel overwhelming. So many people in a network who all need to be able to work together! And sometimes it does feel like I have a lot of balls in the air – especially in between dates! I need to keep track of who I’ve emailed already and who I’m planning to email, who I’m seeing this week and when, and what unresolved questions need my attention. This is good work, but it’s work! YET – when it starts to feel like I’ve got a lot on my plate, time and again, I come back to one comforting truth: everything ultimately rests on one-on-one interactions. And when I have those one-on-one interactions, I feel good, and it all feels simple again, not much different than monogamy ever did.

That isn’t to say that groups of people dating one another can’t or shouldn’t have conversations all together – in fact, sometimes this is probably a great and very useful idea. But: when I, myself, am fretting about the intricacies of my poly network, the thing that reassures me, pretty much every time, is having good, solid one-on-one interactions with each person I’m seeing.

Because if needle #1 works things out with needle #2, and needle #2 works them out with needle #3, and needle #3 with needle #4, and needle #4 with needle #1… then pretty soon, you have a sock.

My love life is a sock.

[socialpsychopathblr]

[quotemadness]

You’re only given a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.

Robin Williams (via quotemadness)

[quotemadness]

Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.

Erich Fromm (via quotemadness)

[lovelustquotes]

[onlydoll]

[quotemadness]

Nothing haunts us like the things we don’t say.

Mitch Albom (via quotemadness)

[mockingthebird]

That Guy™: You know that witchcraft doesn't work and is a waste of money, right?

Me: I mean you can say that about religion too, but the difference is that I eat better and my baths smell great AND my anxiety is lower than ever before, so shut up and light that candle for me 'cause I want that interview

[rosespell]

[hirxeth]

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) dir. Michel Gondry

[craved-deactivated20230908]

Don’t get attached to moments. Good or bad, they all pass.

Skins.  (via alterated)

[lifeinpoetry]

           Every few years I start a bonfire,

incinerate a mattress or a man

           or a city, then dust off the rubble

and rebegin from the nothing

           I built with my own hands.

— Jeanann Verlee, from “Secret Written from Inside a Grizzly’s Mouth,” published in Sugar House Review

[kant-deactivated20190908]

[1000drawings]

[quotemadness]

The moon understands what it means to be human. Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.

Tahereh Mafi (via quotemadness)

[legitimism]

Do you ever wonder how many people have loved you and never told you?

[f4ke-ing-deactivated20150611]

Or have told you and never loved you.

[theogstevemt]

fuck you both