What moms can teach CEOs about leadership
I have taken the courses, read the books, played the roles, but I have learned the most about being a leader from my on-the-job training as a mom to my four kids.
1. You can’t please everyone.
As a mom, I have learned to rid myself of the notion that it is my job to make people happy. In fact, sometimes it is exactly the opposite. Parenting is a constant balance between short-term peace and long-term problems. For example, my son would happily spend all day watching TV. While the hours of quiet that would come of it are often tempting, it’s up to me to keep the bigger picture in mind and impose restrictions on TV viewing.
2. No micromanaging.
As a leader, I set the structure to get desired results and then step aside. My primary goal as a mom is to raise responsible, independent adults. To that end, my husband and I try to create opportunities that push our kids to step up and take charge. For example, our kids do their own laundry, make their own lunches, and pack and carry their own bags. We don’t have a nanny, so if they want to be driven somewhere, they need to figure out how their plans work within our household schedule.
3. Mistakes happen—learn from them.
Heavy delegation can have risks. Leadership is about letting your people run with it, but also stepping in and realigning priorities when mistakes happen.
There are consequences to heavy delegation. In our house that might mean pink clothes from mixing colors and whites in the wash, weekends away with only one pair of underwear, and lunches that don’t quite pass nutritional standards. These are learning moments. Sometimes, we need to adjust when things aren’t working. Writing packing check-lists and explaining about food groups has been helpful, but once the kids shrink their favorite shirts or forget their homework on the kitchen table, they pretty much don’t do it again. Being a leader is setting a vision for how you want things to be. Leadership is about letting your people run with it, but also stepping in and realigning priorities when reality sets in.
4. Try to find the win-win.
Here is where listening and the art of negotiation come in to play. How much my kids have this ingrained in them was brought home when my then sixth-grade daughter wanted a cellphone. After months of our pushing back, she finally came to us with a fine-tuned proposal.
“This is why I think my having a cell phone will be better for everyone,” she said.
Her points made sense. She pre-emptively laid out guidelines for phone use, and she figured out how to pay for it. She got her phone, and my life became a lot easier.
I’m still learning every day how to be a leader, but whenever I confront a new challenge, putting on my “mom hat” almost always helps.
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