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[monstera-daddi]

Twitter tends to not like my disability posts so look!

I got these beautiful wheel covers from IzzyWheels an Irish, woman and disabled owned company! Check em out! They've so many beautiful designs from amazing artists!

[arlo-venn]

Homelessness hasn’t been all that bad so far, but Arlo and I could really use some help as winter approaches.

After I pay the movers and my car payment this week, I’ll be pretty much back around zero on the money front, and I still don’t have all the supplies I’ll need to keep Arlo and I safe through the winter… and the supplies I have been able to acquire thus far have really set me back a ways financially.

I have a solar generator, solar panels, a power bank, and reflectix. I still need to buy a good quality winter sleeping bag, portable dehumidifier, a heater, winter gear to keep Arlo warm and safe, a good quality winter coat for him as well as one for me, etc., … all on top of my usual bills (phone, car, a nearly paid-off loan, prime, gas, planet fitness membership for showers). I’m also about to begin trying my hand at selling used books on Amazon, for which I’ll need a handheld scanner, scale and label printer, labels, and the $39.95/month Amazon charges for a seller account. I’ve been able to find a lot of these things fairly cheap, just don’t have the means to buy them yet. So absolutely anything you guys might have to offer (whether it be a reblog or a dollar) would be truly appreciated!

Ways to donate: Venmo: @remywolfe CashApp: $remywolfe PayPal: [email protected] Fb Messenger: Remy Wolfe Apple Pay: 4805199559

Thank you, sincerely 🥺

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https://wheelchairtravel.org/american-airlines-policy-prohibits-power-wheelchairs-regional-jets/?fbclid=IwAR3KP958-T5_0_YLrKBVuOxwPo3tpOqGNqw6LVJC0mumJpah7dlujKKVgyE

American Airlines Policy Effectively Bans Power Wheelchair Users From Flying to 130 U.S. Airports - Wheelchair Travel

American Airlines has established a new policy which prevents many disabled people from traveling with power wheelchairs on regional jets.

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by @elwueonquedibuja

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how has the lgbtq community helped you?

[lgbtqi-support-equality]

Honestly being disabled affects so many LGBT+ people.

In my town there is only 1 bar that has wheelchair access and guess what?! It’s not the gay bar!

Gay bars are also not accessible (the vast majority of the time) to those who are sensitive to bright lights and loud sounds. Example; some people with epilepsy, autism, PTSD, Tourettes, social anxiety, ect.

The pride march I went to last year would not be accessible (reasonably) for someone in a wheelchair or let’s be real, anyone who can’t walk for an hour +. 

The local LGBT+ group I meet up at tries to be accessible but often forgets that if a location has to be changed then the same level of access will almost certainly not apply to the new location.

The LGBT+ friendly bookshop I visited while overseas had a tiny door which barely fit my small wheelchair. There was also a step halfway through the store which meant I only got to view half of the books that were aimed at me. 

A lot of LGBT+ resources online are not set out in a way that people with visual or learning disabilities can easily read, or read at all. 

The LGBT+ community as a whole (not just the disabled members)  need to make a conscious effort to include disabled people where-ever and whenever possible. 

We are just as much a part of the community as abled body/minded people. 

This is 100% okay for able body/minded people to reblog too. 

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[annamaetion]

As a cis woman with a hormone imbalance (high testosterone) that effects my voice, I wholeheartedly endorse the use of this explanation.

[thechronicfuckingmasochist]

ghost!!!

find my friends art here https://tricauldrons.bigcartel.com/

[kitchenalia]

if i heard that a woman aborted a fetus because prenatal screening had revealed a disability that i shared, i would simply not shame her

[kitchenalia]

RIP to people who think bodily autonomy is conditional but im different

[kitchenalia]

i’ve been getting a lot of comments/questions about this post. some is good, some is bad. i’ve decided not to respond individually and instead say:

i said what i said. i wasn’t confused about saying it.

if i found out a woman had aborted a fetus because she found out that fetus had a disability that i have—disabilities that i have firsthand knowledge of being painful, difficult to live with, and often resource-intensive—i would not be angry with her. i would not feel like she doesn’t think people like me should not be alive (unless she actually said so).

fetuses are not little potential “you”s. projecting your own anxieties onto a woman’s abortion (”i wouldn’t have wanted to be aborted” is common reasoning in plenty of pro-life circles; it’s not better here) is invasive and nonsensical.

bodily autonomy isn’t conditional. you don’t know a woman’s exact reason for abortion and you don’t need to. women’s rights to abortion need to be protected, even if you feel icky about some potential reasoning behind an abortion, which you aren’t even fully privy to in the first place.

disabled people should always be in the care of people who have the resources and desire to take care of them. insisting that disabled children be born simply to ease your own moral qualms with abortion is frankly unethical in my opinion, resources are often very slim for disabled people. not to mention our quality of life is often just lower in general. you can argue all you want in the notes about “mild” disabilities but you aren’t the arbiter of what constitutes a mild enough disability to make an abortion terrible and immoral and shame-worthy. 

women aren’t vessels. regardless of how morally pure you feel your crusade is, they simply aren’t.

speaking as a disabled person, energy is literally always better spent on changing society—by increasing resources for caretakers and disabled people alike, speaking frankly about quality of life, correcting notions about what disabled people’s lives are like, punishing mistreatment of actual disabled people [not potential ones], and putting research into easing the pain/suffering of people as much as possible—than it is on getting mad about women getting abortions. and it isn’t just better spent that way, it’s just immoral to do the latter.

in conclusion: RIP to people who think bodily autonomy is conditional but im different.

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Go OFF

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[that-catholic-shinobi]

THANK YOU

[fantasticallytragical-deactivat]

Oh, go OFF!!!!

[aevios]

[transcript:

“This is how it feels when neurotypicals tell me to use person first language.

Actually, you can’t call yourself gay. Oh uh, I would really prefer if you called yourself a person with gay, that way you’re putting the person before the sexuality.

Actually, I don’t think you should call yourself a short person. My child is actually a person with a height challenge, and I would really prefer it if you used person with height challenge rather than short.

I don’t know, the word fan sounds really harsh. Can you just say person with interest instead? I just like the way that sounds more.

I don’t know if you cashier enough to speak for the entire cashiering community, can you please use person who bags groceries and also scans them? No its not a mouthful.

If you can’t treat me like a person because autistic is in front of it, maybe the word isn’t the problem.”]

[ephemeral-eternity]

Okay if anyone is willing to help I would appreciate it. Im in education and currently getting a masters in special education and we are constantly taught to use person first language. This is the first time I have seen anything saying the opposite and especially since it is coming from someone who is autistic I want to listen and take it seriously. Is the issue that people are correcting OP on using person first language themself, or is it just generally not liked by people?

[kyriolex]

Person-first language is kind of complicated, and obviously individual preferences vary. But in general, you should use person-first language when dealing with illnesses and diseases. You should not use it to describe an identity.

GOOD: “the person with schizophenia,” “parent who has an opioid addiction”

BAD: “lady of gayness,” “man with Jewishness”

People in the autistic and deaf communities tend to resist person-first language because many consider their condition to be a natural variation in human development rather than something to be treated or “cured.”

That’s the super-condensed explanation. But ultimately, WHAT you are saying matters a hell of a lot more than the order of words you say it in.

[earhartsease]

To me, autistic is simply an adjective. Person-first advocates will say “you shouldn’t define yourself that way” and I say it’s not a definition, it’s merely a description - I’m tall, I’m blue-eyed, I’m queer, I’m old, I’m autistic, I’m exasperated.

“My child has autism” reads to me like “my child has cancer” or “my child has a bicycle”.

[unthinkingclunk]

I mean I’m diabetic and I hate forcing “person with diabetes” too. Diabetes is obviously objectively an illness and I’d certainly click a magic button to cure it without a second thought, unlike my ADHD for example, but it’s a thing that affects a lot of my life. People telling me not to call myself diabetic sounds like “oh, actually, I want to pretend this isn’t a serious illness that affects literally every moment of your life, and I want to pretend that you’re lying and making up excuses anytime you mention that it’s causing you issues and also you should just be better at ”“”“"managing”“”“ your illness.”

But lots of other people with diabetes feel differently and would rather it be phrased like I did in this sentence.

So there’s a couple guidelines I’d recommend:

1) Generally, mirror the language of the specific person you need to describe, excepting things like reclaimed slurs. If they correct you, accept it gracefully.

2) if you are writing something about them, like a blurb for a newsletter or anything and it’s relevant, ask them directly what language they prefer. Only ask parents or caretakers if there’s literally no way you can ask the person in question.

3) When you need to talk about full groups without a specific representative in mind, look to see what they call themselves. Don’t rely on CDC or governmental guidance bc their guidance sucks. Try to see what self advocacy groups use, and avoid groups dominated by parents if at all possible.

4) if you ARE going to use person first language, never abbreviate it. Part of the point with person first language is for it to be a bit clunky, as a way to force people stuck in thinking patterns out of them– for example, “unsheltered people” as opposed to “the homeless”. The idea is that instead of conjuring up images an audience has previously associated with the phrase, you can short-circuit that and maybe make them think about how much it would suck to be without shelter. Abbreviating it takes away a huge part of the point of the person first language and is likely to cause you to do things like write “PWDs” instead of “people with diabetes” and “person with diabetes s” makes no sense and you should stop. It also indicates that, rather than using the phrasing to emphasize their humanity, you have instead just checked a box on a checklist.

5) don’t correct someone about language they use to describe their own identities.

[sirfrogsworth]

I think Zelda got more of her father’s comedy genes than she realizes. 

[tikkety-tok]

Imagine being a fierce, fuzzy hunter, and here comes this massive, furless ape to jiggle your flab.

[cinnnabunnn]

Hey jsyk it’s 2018 and if you’re still drawing characters with big lips like THIS, even if they’re pale/not black, it’s fucking racist. Stop doing it.

No excuses. “It’s a stylistic choice!” It’s a RACIST stylistic choice.

“Idk how else to draw big lips!” That’s because you relied on racist caricatures and are a bad artist. Teach yourself. Learn. If you’re not willing to do that, then you are a bad, racist artist.

“But it’s part of the character design!” Yeah, and it’s racist. If it’s your OC, then change it. If it’s not your OC, make the right choice and draw them with normal looking bigger lips instead of this racist monstrosity.

And if this post makes you uncomfortable because it’s calling you out for stuff you’ve done, good. Fix it. Own up to it. Grow.

If you see this and you’re first thought is to defend this: you are racist. You are part of the problem. Congrats. Now work on yourself and unlearn that.

[mizgrownnonsense]

Here’s how to do it right:

[mizgrownnonsense]

(some troll gave me shit about only providing overly “feminine” examples. I would have been happy to ignore them…but there are so many great examples on how to draw perfectly acceptable (not racist) full-lipped male characters, in the end, I couldn’t resist.)

[mizgrownnonsense]

Since this is making the rounds again, I’m reblogging the version with both sets of examples.

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