RFA With an MC with ADHD/ADD
• He's got this issue too so you're not alone. Actually his tends to switch between hyperactive (ADHD) and inattentive (ADD) so regardless, he gets it.
• You can work on yourselves together and keep each other in check! He forgets to eat? You order pizza. You've gotten to sucked into a project, story or videogame and haven't taken the time to sleep? He'll make sure to keep an eye on the clock so you don't stay up to long
• People with ADHD/ADD can often do much better with someone else around to make them feel more accountable for their actions! And if you understand each other then things can be that much easier.
• Some days are worse than others, but that's okay. Whether you both just get to into something and forget to check in on each other, rejection sensitivity kicks in, or anything of that sort, its okay. You both are always there to catch the other when you start to fall.
• Vanderwood is still the main source of cleanliness in this house though, unless you tend to hyper focus on cleaning or just don't struggle with messes. Its a bit better now that you're both regulating each other but stuff still gets messy. And that's perfectly alright. There's nothing wrong with you if you're disorganized.
• Gets a bit frustrated about it sometimes ngl
• Thats not to say he gets angry or anything. He's just a bit impatient. He likes talking to you and when you zone out and stop hearing him it feels like you're ignoring him! You should both be patient with each other though. Explain you weren't trying to ignore him and try again.
• That being said he loves your creativity, if you do that sort of thing. The way you think, make connections and see things in the unique way only you see them, he loves it. He loves hearing about how you see the world.
• He will probably cater to the way ADHD/ADD brains love instant gratification. You guys probably eat a lot of restaurant food or frozen dinners because its quick and tastes good. You don't have to expend time and effort into cooking it yourself
• A lot of people with ADHD/ADD have a large sweet tooth because brains with it tend to have a lack of dopamine- and sweets release it. If this is you, expect gifts. Specifically those cheapish chocolates you can get at the supermarket. (unless its a special occasion, then he'll save up to splurge on the good stuff)
• will definitely do his best to help you manage time better if you struggle with it, but he has a schedule as well. At the very least, he will make sure you get to bed at a decent hour and eat at least twice a day (Breakfast and dinner, at least)
• he may not be the most responsible RFA member and he may not understand ADHD/ADD very well (hence his impatience sometimes) but you're MC and he loves you so he'll make sure you're happy and healthy, and do his best to learn about what YOU need.
• He can be impulsive with activities sometimes, but considering his career one thing he will definitely help you with is impulse purchases. He's not rich, so money is something to be careful with. You're allowed to buy things! Just make sure there's enough left in the bank for necessities after.
• if youre messy it may fluster him a little, depending on HOW messy, but for the most part he doesn't mind as long as you're willing to pick up after yourself when he points it out. He'll help too.
• If you experience rejection sensitivity this is something he's very good at curbing. He loves you. No matter how it may seem to you, even if he may be a little impatient, he's learning how to best communicate with you. Just tell him what you need, he wants you to know how much you mean to him.
• Most important thing to remember with this man is that he wants you happy and healthy.
• He loves to cook. He will make sure you get two home cooked meals a day and will call you at lunch to make sure you're eating.
• If you're not medicated (and want to be) he will set up the appointment for you, if you're scared of phones
• If you are medicated and have trouble remembering to take your meds he will get you one of those medication sorters to keep on your bedside table
• He's surprisingly helpful considering his reputation in the fandom. But remember! He is a doctor! Well, an animal doctor but a doctor nonetheless. He's going to be just as attentive to your health as he is with his patients.
• Did not know a LOT about it until you came along. He had suspected a few times before that he might have ADD (and perhaps he does. He does seem to thrive off of the accountability of having MC to take care of, after all) But now that you're here he's rather well read on the topic.
• Overall, he's very helpful and supportive. He'll help where you ask him and let you take the reigns when you want. He can be timid when it comes to helping you at first but gets more confident with it the longer he knows you.
• He's a very patient man. Impulsivity of any kind isn't an issue unless it could harm you and you don't leave the country without him . If you're messy, he has maids. If you zone out while he's speaking he'll gently get your attention and either ask what you were thinking about or repeat himself without issue.
• He's very patient and loving. If there's any issue you have with this you want to work on, he'll make sure to help however he can. But if not, he's also alright with that- he is rich, so there are a lot of ADHD/ADD symptoms that are easily managed considering he'll have people wait on you hand and foot at your request.
• He doesn't understand rejection sensitivity very much. But if you're ever feeling unsure or insecure about something, he's more than willing to quell those worries.
• Overall I'd say he's either the most helpful or the most enabling of the lot depending on the individual MC's. Because he's willing to help you where you struggle but if you're lacking motivation and don't say anything he's likely going to assume that you're alright with it.
• Queen of time management. You'll never have to worry about being late to something ever again.
• Youre her best friend, so of course she's willing to help you out with these things.
• "No MC we don't need that. Don't buy it." "MC it's two in the morning, we get up at four to start baking!" "Remember to grab lunch later okay?"
• She'll help set you straight and put things into perspective when you can't seem to help yourself sometimes. It may seem a little strict, or a bit bossy, or perhaps like she's mothering you at these times, but she's just looking out for you.
• She also however recognizes that you're an adult. So this isn't going to always be the case. She knows where to draw the line. Its not every time you try to do something or buy something fun that she's going to talk you out of it- only when its actually necessary.
• She will pay attention to things on your behalf though when you zone out. That's something that's hard to control because a lot of the time you don't realize you're zoned out until its to late.
• Girl's got your back, you've got hers. You help her relax and have fun when she gets to into work, so she'll help you focus, rationalize impulses, and whatever else you may need help with managing. What are friends for after all?
