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i don’t talk about this aspect of the series much but the portrayal of tohru’s grieving process is so poignant and heartbreaking. like i think it’s one of the things fruits basket did best.

i think that in grief it’s not that they died, because it’s hard to even comprehend that, it’s that they’re gone. Like something was once there and now it’s not. tohru keeps her mom with her at all times, with the picture, the lessons she’s been taught, the anecdotes.

i also think how she interacts with people regarding it is very accurate, she gets insecure in season 2 over discussing her mom too much, because she’s afraid she’s making the zodiac feel bad and making it all about her. i think this resonates with those who have lost people and don’t know how to interact with others over it. she doesn’t want to take away attention from others, but she doesn’t want to never talk about her mother.

and finally, tohru’s need to help isn’t just inherent kindness (the series has said kindness is a choice), while she is kind, she cannot bear more loss. it also allows her to not look inward and think about what she wants for herself, which is why it took her so long to realize her feelings for kyo. one of the most important plot lines and conflicts of the series still stems from the very beginning, because that is how much grief can color your life.

her allowing herself to live for herself, is a form of healing from all she’s been through. and i think her mom would be proud :,)

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remember when fruits basket was like kindness isn’t a weakness it’s a strength and there’s nothing wrong with vulnerability and love

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rewatching furuba. I rly love Akito as this god who prays to her own false idol.

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I’m not one of those people who finds Akito’s actions justifiable because of her trauma, but I really appreciate the parallels between her and Tohru. They both have a desire to keep their connections eternal and unchanged. For Tohru, this began after her father’s death. Kyoko was so focused on her grief that she neglected Tohru and nearly took her own life. In an attempt to give her mother something to live for, Tohru took on her father’s polite/formal speaking style and became the perfect daughter. The belief that she needs to act a specific way to maintain her relationships spread to the rest of her life. While Tohru’s kindness is genuine, her motivation isn’t completely selfless. She’s nice to people because she wants them to stay. The show portrays her extreme kindness as a strength, but her motive is cast in a negative light. When Kyoko passes, Tohru is scared to love anyone more than she loved her mom because that might weaken their connection. This fear stopped her from moving forward in life. Bonds are not meant to be eternal. Change leads to growth. (TOHRU IS NOT A MARY SUE BTW!!)

Akito also lost her father at a young age, but unlike in Tohru’s situation, her mother permanently rejects her afterwards. This gave Akito a fear of abandonment and causes her to aggressively cling to the other zodiac members. As the head of the family, she believes that she’s owed a relationship with them. She maintains these bonds with extreme force, lashing out at the possibility of them caring for anyone else.

The protagonist and antagonist having the same core fear allowed the story to explore the theme from both angles. Whether you’re convincing people to stay through carefully crafted kindness or needless cruelty, it won’t guarantee genuine connection. Choice > Obligation. Growth > Comfort.

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