i think one of the most interesting things about the allure of intentionally gaining weight is how it means such different things to different people
like there are people for whom the fantasy of gaining is about relinquishing control - whether it means handing control to a trusted encourager, or simply accepting that their body and appetite are not things they want to be “under control”
and then there are people for whom the fantasy is all about taking control. taking control of our own bodies and reaching for what we want for ourselves rather than what we’ve been conditioned to view as attractive. taking back control from a fatphobic society, taking back control from mental or physical illnesses that have imposed limits on our bodies or our relationships with them, reshaping ourselves in our own image (can you tell which of these paragraphs is personal to me, lol)
anyways, gainers feel free to reblog this post and share what gaining means to you! (d/eath f/eedism not welcome here)
Both of these are really appealing to me. I've never been comfortable in my body and I've always wished I could change it, grow into the image I want for myself. I'd feel afraid to admit that to anyone because I don't want it to be misconstrued as fetishising (yes, I'm very into these kinks, that's obvious on my blog) but like, it shouldn't be?? It's my body. If I prefer to be larger that's my right, and there's nothing wrong with that. But who is going to listen to that ideology in our fatphobic society? There's also the problem that it's difficult to gain weight consistently because my body keeps trying to stay slim despite what I want, and worse, being born in the wrong body comes with a ton of complications, envy, negative feelings and stigma that I often wish I could be without.
And then on top of that I take comfort in surrendering control, because it's exciting to just give in and not worry about anything. And having someone else take control makes me feel cared for, safe, and very sexy. And I could really use more of that kind of confidence, body positivity, and love bc tbh I've never really had those things.















