Why do we love Chuck Bass?
Very curious that I got this thoughts on Valentine’s Day but so it seems, like the world and Pinterest needed to show me a image to get me thinking.
Do you think we’ll eventually find our own Chuck Bass?
What exactly is it about the love story of Blair and Chuck that eclipsed and continues to marvel thousands of girls. I know for sure it eclipsed the hearts of many boys as well, but I can only talk from what I know. With that disclaimer out, lets continue.
What exactly cause for Blair and Chuck to have one of the most fantastic love stories on tv-series, for my generation? and What makes Chuck's character so desirable and attractive? Is it a merely physical or attitude thing? What about the words, the perfect selection of words...
So what makes us wish we had a Chuck Bass?
I’ve never been the girl to dream about her wedding, but I’ve dreamed of having a romantic relationship, since I was a teenager. English literature gives you an endless list of couple-goals to choose from, so when you are a teenager madly in love with Shakespeare and Nicholas Spark nobody quite meets your expectations.
However, Chuck and Blair are not the typical couple of old english love stories. They are a modern relationship, from a high-class society, with their own problems. Being trade for a hotel, and having to fight your uncle, father, mother, Georgina doesn’t seem to be the casual every day for all characters. Was that what called my attention? The fact that this characters were my age, living in New York (the city of my dreams) having drama in high school, like I did, but still having family problems, like I do?
For sure that was the first thing, but I think their story is what attracted me the most.
Blair, a beautiful queen B, dressed head to toe in the brand new designer clothes. Loved and hated by her friends, respected by all. Having the most popular it-girl as her ride or die best friend. Still, an absent mother who knew nothing, but how to criticise her, and a gay father who left her mother to move to France. Besides, one of the most controversial topics of the show, she struggled with bulimia.
Chuck Bass, the bad-boy, the cliché of a bad boy turned right. However, a bad boy for good reason. Winning the most self-centered, narcissistic dad in history of the show and a dead or apparently dead mother. A lonely boy who practically raised himself in a hotel, without siblings or many true friends. Basically, a lonely human being, at the age of 17. Go to real life for a second, what teenager grows up to be a great man, if those were his living conditions?
So what do you get from Blair and Chuck right away? Blair gives you power, girl power, she empowers you to be in charge, to be fashionable, to have a best friend. Of course, for some she reminds you of a bully and just that. You are also right, the interesting thing about the show is that it explains to you why she behaves that way. Telling you about their personal lives, makes it more relatable to your and eventually you kind of forget about her not-so-nice behavior, because it gets justified.
Chuck meanwhile, makes you angry. It doesn’t matter how difficult his life is, he needs to stop being a jack ass to woman. Except, he changes. Love changes him, but not radically or super fast. Which makes you wonder, if there’s something to this idiot you may like, and there is. He said kind words to Blair, and looks at her (you know that look, after watching the series like 7 time, you’ve memorized his look.) So, as the show goes on he changes your perspective of himself, until eventually he crushes you, just to prove again that he is an idiot and cares too much about money.
So what is the turning point for this characters? Were does the sad love-story of Chuck taking Blair for granted ends? The answer: Season 3- Episode 1, Paris, Garde de Lyon.
The moment, the show lets you know that money, things and the upper east side mean nothing to you, if you loose the only thing you’ve ever loved.
Ever loved? Destroy? Chuck Bass didn’t knew what love was before Blair? You mean he had no idea what love was, like, before?
It changes everything, he practically died. The shows present him as a new born person, better manners, better appreciation for things, better guy, and better boyfriend. A grown up men, no longer a boy.
No we’ve felt in love with both characters, the princess and the dark knight. Second face, fall in love so much with their relationship, that conquers your dreams, and makes you wish for a Chuck Bass.
The worst about the serie, is that you felt in love with the relationship, while they were not even together! (“What this girl is crazy!” Give me a chance)
Season 3 and 4 Blair is trying to be a real-life princess, trying to get over Chuck and move on. Chuck is with her new BAE and trying to be a better man. The Season is full of fireworks when they start fighting each other, and it ends with a real prince, a crystal shoe and a limo.
The thing with Chuck Bass is, that he was a roller coaster for your emotions. He was great, then bad, then awful, then amazing. You wanted him to leave Blair, to be with her. But right now, you are watching them separately, for a whole season their's no Chuck and Blair, and that helps you to know them better separately.
Season 4 is a test for Chuck, does he love Blair enough to fight for her to Louis, or is it best for him step away. And the baby??? omg the baby… Be honest with yourself, do you wanted it to be Chuck’s or Louis’? I know my answer…
At this point, wether you liked Chuck or not, you were team Blair. Because who doesn’t want to find happiness and true love? or? That’s the question, was Louis true love, or happiness? Was he giving her a princess life or a love life?
Don’t worry, not only you are confused, Blair is too. What Chuck did to her is unforgivable, isn’t it? And Blair is you, she is the modern women, feminist and independent, who knows that she shouldn’t forgive Chuck, and that her destiny is to be a princess. That’s what her brain knows, but her heart? Your heart? What do you wanted to happened during season 4?
During Louis’ time, Chuck was growing to be a gentleman. Nevertheless, it took him to make many mistakes to actually become a better person, and his mistakes helped Blair be sure, that Louis was the right choice for her. He thought he had lost her forever, he thought the love of his life was gone. It took Chuck Bass to learn what love was, to experience it, and to loose it for good, to become a better person. Doesn’t that happen to all of us? But you know, at this point you really didn’t which him any good, the level of bad behavior towards Blair was just too much. At least, he behaves like a normal human being and not like a drunk teenager.
Are you still following me, or did I lost you?
I’m glad you’re still reading.
Basically, he learns to control himself, buys a dog, goes to a therapist, apologizes, and becomes a almost normal, but millionaire, human being. Then and there you, just like Blair, fell in love with him. Blair always saw the best in Chuck Bass, the best person he had in him. She saw through him. She could see his potential, and knew how he was throwing it all away, but when he hurt her, she new she couldn’t forgive him. It isn’t enough to see the best of someone, that person needs to show you they are willing to become that beautiful person you know they have inside.
When he changed, he became that image she had of him. He worked on himself. He didn’t need her. He realized he was better, grew his self-esteem and became a completely different Chuck Bass. He changed into the man, a women now in her 20s, would fall in love with. The drunk, sex-addict teenage boy, was long gone.
Now you have to see Blair Waldorf, and looked at her, because you are her. The same feelings she expressed, those are the feelings the audience received towards Chuck. When she reject him, so did you. When she loved him, so did you, and when she hated him, so did you. But when he “died” and changed, all you did was observe. Until you realized, he turned into the man you LOVED.
Did Blair love Chuck before? I mean, when he was an idiot. Yes and No. You see she loved him, as a friend and as a companion. She fell in love with him. However, I don’t think she loved the person he was. She loved the person he COULD be. Now he WAS that person, now she could love him truly.
On the other hand, he fell in love with her sooner. He loved the person she was, because he knew, that she knew damn well who she was and wan’t going to change. He was scared of her security, and of the fact that he hadn't known love before.
So… I fell in love with Chuck Bass when he said:
“Something this beautiful deserves to be seen on someone worthy of it’s beauty.”
but I loved Chuck Bass when he said:
“But most of all, I’m sorry I gave up on us, when you never did.”
When admitting his mistakes, apologizing for them, and leaving. He left without a Bass attitude accompanying it. He showed no “Chuck Bass attitude on that scene” You could’ve just thought that Nate said that, but not Chuck, never. I stood there watching that scene just like Blair did: kind of annoyed that he was so perfect, annoyed that he knew just the right words, surprised that it wasn’t part of a plan, sorry for myself that I had to love this bastard, confused to wether or not I liked him, thinking why does love have to mean so much, and reevaluating my life choices. Although, I have to say, I wasn’t not even close to pregnant, lol. Still more single than a pringle!
So he had already gave Blair up to Louis, he stepped out of the way, he was calm and put together. Most importantly, he loved Blair. He truly loved her. So much, that he would loose his pride and ego to apologize to her for everything he had done. He would rather her to live her happy princess life, than to live with him, make him happy, but being at risk of getting hurt. His character was so vulnerable on that scene, because he did the ultimate sacrifice. He gave up the only thing he had ever love. No longer was selfishness a word we could attach to Chuck Bass. If you had any doubt of he being an idiot, at that moment he wasn’t.
"Now what, crazy tumblr girl? will I find my Chuck Bass or not?"
So, you’re right, but I’m not sure…
Did I liked Chuck Bass because he was independent, elegant and good dressed // because he had the right words at the right time // because I had empathy for him //did I understood him because in really life I identify myself with him? // or was is it the fact that he grew up with me, that he change from a stupid teenager to a better man… don't we all?
I don’t think Blair changed Chuck. I think LOVE changed Chuck. That’s the power of emotions, specially love.
What do I want from my own Chuck Bass? Socks from Germany and macaroons form Paris? No. Not, necessary (if Ed Westwick wanted to be my BF no objection though). I think I want a Chuck Bass, because I what a selfless partner. I want someone who is willing to loose me, to see my happy. Because I want to be that partner as well. I want a Chuck Bass, because I want someone who knows me, as well as I know myself. I disagree with having a partner that is different from you. I think they’re success was based upon similarities, which allowed them to understand themselves. I want someone who understands me.
I don’t want a CHUCK BASS, I want somebody with a few of the attributes that I see in him, or maybe I want a Blair. Since, I think sometimes, that I am as bad in relationships as Chuck.
WILL I FIND MY CHUCK BASS? an entire article, so this girl can’t even answers the question at the beginning.
I don’t know, I don’t know if you’ll find your own Chuck. I certainly hope you do. I hope you find one, and hopefully with a different name...pls...
Finally, remember that you will always love certain people in your live, no matter what you do. You are your own person, so you can choose between Louis, Nate or Chuck. (I don’t like Dan, sorry not sorry) hahaha or you can choose to stay single and grow up. It's a matter of choices.