It's become part of who I am

She/Her. 26y. I like sad bad boys and I cannot lie. Truth be told, I reblog whatever media I've just gotten into / am currently hyperfixating on. Also, sorry if sometimes my english is weird. Accidentally learnt reading Naruto fanfiction circa 2008.

[multifandomlover]

It's my 14 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

[sacredstem]

tumblr has been the most consistent thing in my life since i was like 14

[afterword]

idk who needs to hear this rn but suffering is not noble. take the tylenol

[wahoo-shem]

One time when I was younger I was refusing to take headache medicine and my mom said “the person who invented that medicine is probably so sad you won’t let them help you” and now every time I find myself denying medicine I just imagine the saddest scientist making those big wet eyes like “why won’t you let me help” and whoop then I take the medicine

[guelwaar]

im always up at ass o clock doing god knows what

[lizzienoodles]

guy who's having gauzy idealized wife flashbacks for the whole adventure but it turns out she isn't dead or anything he just really misses her and wants to get home

[afterblossom]

Drifting in the wind

[postarcadian]

the thing I love most about how tumblr users use tags is that it’s like what if a social media website had a footnotes system

[newtkins]

i literally never force myself to do anything thats probably my biggest problem abjzsdgdhdj

[newtkins]

me: ugh i dont want to do that

brain: dont do it then

me: can’t argue with that

[extratragic]

i stole this from twitter

[im-somewhere-in-the-stratosphere]

To all my mutuals whether we talk much or not I love you all

[josilverdragon]

"The horrors persist but so do libraries, books, iced coffee, sunsets, trees, the word 'fuck', the moon and the sea."

[roguespeedster]

say what you will about the 90s but there were so so many women on TV with beautiful curly hair. we used to be a proper society

[luthientinuvielss]

90s curls really were so special and breathtaking

[kvothes]

a good thread

[elumish]

I agree with all of this. But! I think it is also important to recognize that there are subgenres where it is significantly harder to find certain things, and it's actively unhelpful to readers to pretend that you can just find whatever type of book you want to read if you just know how to look for it, especially if you are sticking to trad publishing.

It is possible to find both sapphic SFF and M/M fantasy. It is significantly harder to find, say, aro urban fantasy. Or trans romantic suspense. Or intersex mystery.

A lot of the advice above only really works for trad published or popular books and for identities/subgenres/content that aren't too niche.

So here's some advice if the advice above isn't working for you (either because you can't find books with what you want or because the books you are finding don't end up being the vibe you want), from someone who reads a few hundred books a year:

Find websites or lists dedicated to the specific thing you are looking for. They will generally have more variety and will post you to examples that don't show up in regular rec lists. (ex: aro book recs, ace book recs, intersex #ownvoices database, sapphic books). Goodreads lists can (sometimes) also be your friend.

Get comfortable reading self-published and small press books. Trad publishing has its blind spots.

Check Reddit for recommendations

Start figuring out what it is specifically that you like and then start making your searches more specific. This can be subgenre (if you want urban fantasy, you're rarely going to find it just searching "fantasy"), tropes, plot devices, vibes, etc.

Look at the "readers also bought" on Goodreads/Amazon, similar books on Storygraph, etc. if you read a book you like. Even if you don't end up reading the one you click on, it can show you similar authors (similar to looking at the blurb on a cover), especially because far fewer books have blurbs now.

Check out the Literature Map for similar authors.

[nipple-brains]

Another fantastic resource is @queerliblib !!

They have lists on Libby with very specific topics and will answer questions on Tumblr about recs for people after very niche stuff and almost always have a starting point for someone!

[achillesinhighheels]

everyone is becoming way too comfortable about being horrible people

[tpwrtrmnky]

Like. Look. Listen. I have taught introductory quantum physics at a university level, and I need you all to incorporate this into your trans advocacy: There are situations where you need to make a decision to prioritize being comprehensible to your target audience above being The Most Unassailably Correct.

[peppermintquartz]

You can try to teach a toddler about germ theory or you can get them to wash their hands because "yucky"

[tpwrtrmnky]

Teaching a toddler to wash hands because yucky when the Ethics Understander crashes through the roof. "STOP RIGHT THERE," the Ethics Understander shouts at me. "The disgust response is not a legitimate substitute for a considered value judgment, and in fact, weaponizing disgust instead of grounding those judgments in a more rigorous framework is fundamental to reactionary rhetoric!"

The toddler looks at me. "You are a fascist, auntie. I have seen the light and will now go eat chewing gum from the pavement, unless you can educate me on a rigorous framework on the microbiology of pavement chewing gum this very instant."

[tpwrtrmnky]

This is a hyperbolic example but here's a more real one:

You are trying to explain the trajectory of research on trans issues, and how the informed consent model came about as a wildly successful alternative to the gatekeeping model because time and again, people with clinical experience who actually cared about their patients found that just letting trans people transition was easier and the fear that it would lead to something bad was unfounded.

The Principle Understander is shouting at you that the medicalization of trans people is inherently unjust, and even the informed consent provider is still a gatekeeper, just a more lenient one.

You are already aware of this.

You are talking to someone who, as a first priority, needs to know what the worse gatekeeping model looks like.

The person you're talking to is asking "but isn't it good to give patients more time to think before making irreversible changes?" because they didn't hear the part where you explained that asking patients about their masturbation habits has nothing to do with anyone's safety. They missed it because the Principle Understander was on a tangent about the necessity of abolishing capitalism because paying for medication is bad, which again, yes but this is really not the time or place for that.

[wyf-of-bathe]

This has the funniest name btw.

[enbycarp]

Today, i was handing out flyers about an anti trans iniitiative that's going to be on the ballot that would require that schools perform invasive exams on girls before they can play in sports. This includes genital exams.

A guy came up to me to ask about it and said, "but this is to keep boys out of girls sports, right? "

I responded with, "that's what they're saying, but all girls who want to play school sports will be subject to this law."

The man asked for a flyer and i heard him discussing it with his wife afterwards.

I don't know for sure that he's going to vote no on the initiative, but i could tell he was upset at the idea of girls being forced to go though genital examinations, so there's a chance. But if i had choosen to argue with him about the fact that trans girls are not boys, he would never have agreed with me and would have been more likely to vote yes on the iniitiative.

[soracities]

“We eat the year away. We eat the spring and the summer and the fall. We wait for something to grow and then we eat it.”

— Shirley Jackson, We Have Always Lived in the Castle

[phylogeny]

"But this is my own maze, she told herself, this is the maze I grew up in; I could not be a prisoner here; I know the way so perfectly, and she turned and was further lost."

— Shirley Jackson, The Sundial

[thatsbelievable]