jo!

19 // queer (wlw) black woman-centric blog minors + men DNI

[multiversejo]

totally forgot to make an introductory post so ima hop on that real quick.... lol

Hello, and welcome to my blog! i've been lurking on tumblr for quite a while, but i have (finally) decided to come out of my shell and get comfy on this side of the internet :))

call me jo! 🩷

19 ♓️

she/they (emphasis on the they)

jamaican-american

pro-black

psych major

introvert

queer fem with a very strong preference for black women and other woc 👩🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👩🏾

likes: music, yapping, the color green, drawing, painting, psychology, learning new things, shaving my head, crocheting, long car trips, blueberries, raspberries, limes, roblox, animal crossing, minecraft, walking, collecting jewelry, pretty things, long skirts, tote bags, leather jackets, napping, being alone

dislikes: hostile environments, religion, male-centered women, potato salad, being unemployed (lol), the current political climate, ignorance, narrow-minded people, large bodies of water, peace disrupters, tight jeans, small talk, people who make everything sexual

dni: anyone under 18, cishet men (trans men/mascs are absolutely welcome), homophobes, transphobes, xenophobes, fatphobes, queerphobes, racists, terfs, and anyone who voted for that fuckin bozo in the white house 🫩

looking for mutuals!

i don't mind chatting in dms or asks, as long as you remain respectful :))

last updated: 06/4/2026

[multiversejo]

somebody bully me into starting my crochet projects, it's actually getting ridiculous now

[fuckyeahsapphics]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH HONEYS!👩🏾‍❤️‍💋‍👩🏾🏳️‍🌈✨

[theartofmadeline]

happy pride to the gay people in my computer <3

[aretasreads]

WUNMI MOSAKU • GLAMOUR UK

[afirahs]

[81gb]

megan thee stallion , tiktok .

[kosmogrl]

[appapasta]

fat femme summer has begun 💋

[stemmehistorian]

'I think white gay people feel cheated because they were born, in principle, in a society in which they were supposed to be safe. The anomaly because of their sexuality puts them in danger, unexpectedly. Their reaction seems to me in direct proportion to their sense of feeling cheated of the advantages which accrue to white people in a white society. There's an element, it has always seemed to me, a bewilderment and complaint. Now that may sound very harsh, but the gay world as such is no more prepared to accept black people than anywhere else in society.'

- James Baldwin, The Village Voice (1984)

[stemmehistorian]

The erasure of Blackness from 'stemme' & 'stud' and why it bothers me

This is more of a vent post/social analysis then 'what is stemme 101' but to summarise stemme stands for stud-femme lesbian. A stud in basic terms is a Black lesbian with masc presentations and roles. A stemme is a Black lesbian with fem and masc presentations and roles. Stemme is a Black lesbian term but according to tiktok it's 'just being masc and fem' and 'has nothing to do with race'. And that pisses me off.

Black gender nonconformity is barely represented. There isn't a 'how to be GNC whilst Black 101' and it gets really isolating tryna figure yourself out with no one to help you. Tomboy and androgynous representation is predominantly white. Being tomboy or andro is associated with having short straight hair or a buzzcut on a white body. Black women in hip-hop and R&B helped to shape Black masculinity and femininity in pop culture. Aaliyah, Queen Latifah, Left Eye, Da Brat etc. helped shape the Black tomboy aesthetics we see today. A large chuck of queer masculinity borrows off of Black, especially Black American, masculine aesthetics. The durags, the chains, the caps, the trainers, the AAVE etc. it all goes back to hip-hop culture.

Black women aren't allowed to be masculine. We're masculinised but we can't be autonomously masculine (people don't get this distinction when this topic comes up but that's another post babes x). Despite Black women, especially darkskin Black women being called mannish and strong we don't actually get to reap the benefits of being masc. We don't get to be the positive masc traits like being smart, brave etc it's only the negatives. And this is 2x harder if you're trans. It gets really confusing as a dark-skinned Black girl excluded from femininity growing up whilst also being so feminine and girly apparently you're on the end of misogynoir. Stem(me) basically summed up my relation to gender pretty well. There was never a word for this experience growing up.

So when I go to look up stemme and it's predominantly white lesbians in snapbacks I don't get a good feeling. And when I see shit about how stem 'had nothing to do with race' I'm fuming. Even more so when people say STUD had nothing to do with Black lesbians. Huh?? Black women's representation is already lacking in most areas even for cishet Black women. But Black GNC identity is SO rare. We can't even have a niche of a niche. That's how little Black culture matters in society's eyes. 'What do we use then?' Chapstick. Tomboy. Tomboy femme. Butch. Masc. The dozens of representations that have always represented your experiences. You're gonna be fine I promise you.

The main thing that set off this vent was seeing some tiktok user make a video crediting herself for defining stem as being masc and fem and ignoring all the Black lesbians that called her out and the audacity for her to say it 'used to mean that' and that 'terms evolve' .

Taking Black lesbian terms and changing their meaning is not evolution. It is theft. Erasing Black tomboys and erasing the literal stud from stud-femme, stemme, is just continuing the erasure of Black LGBTQIA identities in a society that already doesn't want us around. Stemme has always been stud-femme and I'm gonna always honour that, even if I stop using the label for myself, even if no one else will.

[knucklexvelvet]

I love being a loser girl like yesss!!! omg go stay in your bedroom all day and listen to music, watch movies, read fan fiction, ughh this is the life!!

[night5hifts]

Tracy Ifeachor as DR. HEATHER COLLINS

↳THE PITT 1.11 | 5:00 P.M.

[malevolentcafe]

Now make your feminine lesbians dark skinned.

[mrhealyourgirl]

happy pride to losers who get no bitches and stack no paper

[our-queer-experience]

[blackfemmecharacterdependency]

Children. If you don't listen to nothing else I say, listen to this: Hit them. Hit them right in the mouth. You might still cry, but you'll feel good that you didn't *just* cry. It's always okay to hit a racist. Every time.

[blackdykegirlblogger]

what i should've done on several occasions 😭😭but i was a fucking teacher's pet and scared of confrontation DONT REPEAT MY MISTAKES

[whatkahel]

@qquipart fork it over 🫴

[freakyjorker]

lord it’s everywhere