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@musiced
me @ any and every cat in existence:
Disney peaked with the Emperor’s New Groove
Eartha Kitt’s performance as Yzma…the music…the comedy…the Kronk. It is a perfect film
Additional reasons:
Every single character is a PoC
First Disney animated film to show a pregnant woman onscreen
Real relationship goals: Pacha and ChiCha
Really diverse body types on everybody!
Classic tropes and classic tropes subverted (enemies to friends, anyone?)
Kronk
Diverse body type: Llama
no offence lady but you do look like youd peg someone
One thing I enjoy most about teaching is how children react to me after they’ve been angry.
I’ve been pinched, punched, kicked, choked, scratched, screamed at, been the target of flying projectiles, anything you can imagine, I’ve probably had it happen to me.
Yet when it’s all over, 90% of kids who flipped out will hug me or apologize.
Usually, I address the angry child calmly, even if my inner fight or flight is kicking in. I can’t show the child’s behavior is okay. Yelling and screaming are not how they’re going to get what they want, so it’s not how I’m going to get what I want.
I wait until they’re done expressing their anger, whether it be directed at me or an inanimate object. I keep repeating the phrases “Are you done yet?” and “Feel better yet?” and wait until they’re calm enough to respond.
That’s when it’s time for discipline.
Usually, discipline for me just means I sit down and talk them through what happened. It’s telling them “yes, you’re allowed to be angry, but hurting people is never a good reason unless you or someone else is being hurt.” Then I explain that if this happens again, the same thing is going to happen. They’re not going to get what they want. They’re going to get a chill out until their anger subsides.
Then I ask “What can we do differently next time?” If the child doesn’t have an answer, I’ll give them suggestions like “kick a ball” or “run as fast as you can” or “scribble on paper until they feel better” or “sit by yourself until the anger goes away” and usually it’s met with the child suggesting their own ideas.
I’ve actually had kids put themselves on chill out chairs because they’re about to flip out. There’s a personal pride that comes from that. Seeing a 4 or 5-year-old recognize destructive behavior and take steps to fix it themselves is an intelligence level most adults fail to have.
At no time do I tell them their anger is wrong. I tell them their behavior is wrong. Being angry is a part of our humanity, but hurting others because we’re angry is dangerous territory.
I never make them say sorry, either. I don’t want them to if they don’t mean it. Some kids are taught saying sorry makes the problem go away, and I don’t agree with that. I’d rather they show me they’re sorry, such as doing better next time or stopping the behavior altogether.
Some people might argue I’m being too soft, but when you have a child tell you they don’t see you as an adult because you don’t yell at them, it’s a comforting but sad notion that you’re doing the right thing.
-Cat
Literally just got out of my annual conflict training for work (I work with developmentally disabled adults at a day program) and this is almost a perfect illustration of what they teach. One of the main things they teach you is that you can’t try to start addressing what someone is “doing wrong” until you have passed the “crisis” stage and have de-escalated. It won’t work.
Fuck I’ve got the study sheet in my bag I can just lay the whole thing out. Hold on…ok. Long post ahead.
They visualize conflict like a mountain.
At the bottom is the Baseline. When someone is acting at their version of normal it’s the baseline. When the person you’re working with is at baseline you should Engage them by supporting them in what they are doing and take note of it. Knowing what someone is like and what they do when they are calm and happy is your first tool in conflict management.
Next is the Stimulus Trigger. The person is behaving outside of their baseline. You should Listen to them and see if you can remove the stimulus. (eg they are blocking their ears and making distressed noises, see if you can quiet the area or suggest they move to a quieter room)
If that doesn’t work there is Escalation. The person is reacting more to the stimulus…you should Engage them by offering options from the baseline. They usually suggest you offer three things they like to do when they are calm. OP gave a great example of this with “kicking a ball” etc
If options do not work to de-escalate Escalation may reach a higher phase where the person may engage in small self-harming behaviors (the example in our packet has the man picking at his skin and yelling). Here you continue to Engage while setting expectations to cue a replacement behavior. This doesn’t mean “in the future you should do this” instead it means something like putting goals on the options you offered. Eg you suggested several things and they chose “running” but continue to escalate. Here you’d say something like “ok I have my watch ready (show watch) run three laps, I’m going to time you!” This distracts them and gives them a goal AND encourages them to engage in the baseline behavior.
At the peak of the mountain is the Crisis. Here you focus on Protecting the person…and they advise you to use the least amount of interaction necessary to ensure safety. That means not touching unless you HAVE to to keep you or them safe and disengaging from touching as soon as possible. Usually all you need to do is be nearby and calm until they are out of crisis.
Now we’ve created the mountain and are working our way down. First is De-Escalation. The person is out of crisis and is starting to calm down. You should Engage them by structuring the cool off period. The example they give in my worksheet is pretty good: “I will stay here and listen to you: what do you want to talk about?” Basically let them know you’re there while they calm down. In a classroom setting this might be something like “if you’re feeling better why don’t you have a seat next to me until you feel calm? I’ll be right here if you need me.”
Next is Stabilization. HERE is where you talk about what happened, not before. The advise here is to actively Listen. Take part in a calm activity or something and ask them if something happened before the stimulus trigger. Listen to what they tell you and keep it in mind for the future. This is not a punishment moment, it’s a “ok so this started because of this, can we avoid that in the future?”
Finally you’re at the base of the mountain again in the Post-Crisis Drain. Here you Listen to the person so you can observe them and offer support. Make sure there are no further negative effects from the earlier crisis.
TL;DR OP basically uses the MANDT system which is based in, like, treating people like people and not problems. You’re not soft OP, you’re using tried and true methods backed up by psychologists to cause the least harm possible to your kids while preventing future instances. Good job.
“What Are You Doing New Year’s Eve?” (Ella Fitzgerald cover) - New Year’s Eve at 54 Below, 12/31/2018
Brooklyn Nine-Nine: adulthood, a saga.
The people in Avatar the Last Airbender were modeled after wonderful, beautiful cultures.
The Fire Nation, modeled after Japan.
The Earth Kingdom, modeled after China
The Air Nomads, modeled after Tibetian monks.
The Water Tribe, modeled after North American Natives.
And the Foggy Swamp Tribe, modeled after Floridians
After everything that happened in Ragnarok, imagine Thor hearing about Steve and Tony’s fight and being like “Really?! Thats why you all stopped working together?! Just get over it! I did! I’m still friends with Loki and he’s betrayed me three times since breakfast! This petty mortal shit is nothing!”
Loki: “Can confirm, poisoning his mead right now.”
Thor: “Ha! I’ve built up an immunity.”
Now I feel I was cheated on Civil War
Steve: “Well, we disagreed about this big political thing, and I mean big - almost every country in the world was involved.” Thor: *nodding* “Right.” Steve: “So we started to fight, I mean really fight. We each had about half a dozen friends backing us up.” Thor: *nodding* “Always best to bring your friends along” Steve: “And by the end, it was just me and Tony, and we… we really pounded each other…. no holding back.” Thor: *nodding* “The most honorable way to fight” Steve: “So now we’re not friends anymore.” Thor: “… you lost me.”
@faeriviera
The mashup you never thought would work
Congratu-fucking-lations.
I would pay so much to have this as a ringtone I’m not even joking.
Why?????
The face I made while listening to this was so visceral I had to draw it before reblogging it
How…dare…
I don’t remember when I found this .gif, or who made it (if you know, tell me so I can credit them), but it’s just the best thing.
Mostly in how the horn player is not only bracing his ear from the sound, but how the shock of the hammer makes his music bounce.
Not only the aforementioned, but the sheer look of displeasure on the bass clarinetist’s face.
I posit that this is absolutely the best moment in all of the known orchestral repertoire.
The person in red remains unfazed throughout the whole thing.
I am in love
Mozart in the Jungle, 2016.
This guy plays the tune of Jason Mraz - “I’m Yours” using two Nokia Phone
this is so fucking relaxing
IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR THIS FOR TWO FUCKING YEARS
When you’re too broke to afford a Launchpad
A Really Fucking Vulgar Guide to Not Losing Your Shit in College (Condensed Version)
Bitches love to put things into lists. Moreover, bitches love numbered shit. Here’s some numbered shit in list format to help you not suck in higher education. You’re welcome.
1. Go to class. Like 210% serious. I don’t give a shit if you’re a get by on nothing, A+ slacker. You’re fucking paying for this crap so you might as well get the services owed to you. Take your ass to class even if you zone out 99% of the time. You know 1% more than you did when you walked up in there. Congrats, asshole.
2. All that free time you have during your first week of classes? Make it your bitch. Don’t just print the goddamn syllabus and be like all done. No motherfucker. Take a good fucking look at that assignment list. What’s due next week? Yeah, do that shit now bc I know you don’t have anything else to do. Then when you’re coughing up a lung six weeks into the semester and don’t feel like getting your ass up to do that calculus homework, you’ll remember this week. You’ll remember that you’ve been a week ahead this whole damn semester. Pat yourself on the back, ass wipe.
3. Prepare yo self. No seriously. You got notes to print for class? Sure you could be like all those other bitches and just shove them into your backpack, or you could actually /prepare/ for class. I’m talking looking that shit over, identifying key concepts, getting a decent grasp of the material before your ass is even in class. You a STEM major? Yeah, make this kinda shit your life because now class is like one bomb ass group review session. Again, you’re welcome.
4. Snack like a motherfucker, but save that junk food shit for the weekends. From now on, you are a fucking health guru during the week or if you’re a slacker like me, at least on the days you have class. Fruits? Hell yeah. Pack some of those. Mind wandering in class? Snack on some apple slices. Can’t stay awake? Keep eating some almonds or some shit, but don’t be that bitch with the potato chips. Just don’t.
5. Read. Yeah, you heard me. Read and I’m not just talking assigned reading. I bet my left butt cheek that your campus library has /something/ of interest to you. Commuting and don’t want to drive out there? Library databases bro. We’re in the digital age, motherfucker. I’d bet my other butt cheek that the shit you want is in a nice little PDF somewhere. But na man, you thinking maybe you want to go into computer science? Check out computer science books and eat them up bro. You don’t like reading them? Probably not the field for you. You a biology major in your second year? Yeah dumbass. Time to break out the bio books and not the ones your professor is shoving in your face. Amaze your friends and teachers with your out of class knowledge. Be a fucking star.
this is my favorite thing i’ve ever done omg listen w/ headphones
its like avi overload i m g o n n a p u n c h s o m e t h i n g
The metronome is the friend that tells you that your fly is down. They didn’t cause it to happen. They are just pointing it out. Don’t hate the metronome.
my trumpet teacher today (via suffering-musician)
Hey! I saw day one of the 30 day practice challenge and i was wondering what it was? Like what is each day because i kinda want to do it too and i cant really find it. Thank you!
Here you go! :D
A 30 Day Practice Challenge!
The # is #30 day practice challenge. I hope it helps you staying motivated to practice over the rest of summer!
Day 1: A photo of your instrument Day 2: A photo of your practice space.Day 3: Your favourite inspirational quote Day 4: A photo of a piece you’re currently playing.Day 5: A selfie/photo of you with your instrument.Day 6: A photo showing how you relax while playingDay 7: The best advice anyone has given youDay 8: A photo of your to-do listDay 9: A photo of your future goals.Day 10: Who is your favourite teacher/professor and why?Day 11: A photoset detailing your routine for the dayDay 12: Try mindmapping or thoroughly planning your practice session and photograph the result.Day 13: A photo of your sheet music.Day 14: Write an uplifting message for musicians in a slump. Day 15: A photo of your writing in scores.Day 16: A photo of what you do in practice breaks.Day 17: Take a photo of a different practice spot than usual.Day 18: A photo of a short piece you composed.Day 19: A photo of how you warm up.Day 20: Talk about your favourite composerDay 21: Talk about your favorite piece.Day 22: A photo of your dream school/universityDay 23: A photo of your favorite performer.Day 24: Write the sentence “I can do anything as long as I put my mind to it.” in all of the languages that you speak and take a photo. Day 25: A photo of the piece you’re most proud ofDay 26: A photo of your favourite practice snackDay 27: A photo of your favourite score that you own.Day 28: Try going for a walk in practice breaks today. Take a photo of it.Day 29: Describe your practice technique.Day 30: You made it! Take a photo and celebrate.