Be purposeful and present in everything you do.
Nothing is more unfeminine or un-graceful than fast, rushed, or unthoughtful movements & actions. When I think of feminine women, I see women who maintain grace and gentleness even while doing mundane or un-graceful tasks. They can even be silly or relaxed and still have a feminine air about them.
I think the key to this natural feminine air is cultivating purpose behind ones movements and being present in every activity.
Making your bed: Don’t just do it as fast as you can to get it over with, or be thinking about a million other things you’d rather be doing. Stay in the moment and focus on that task. Make every fold and tuck a purposeful, thoughtful movement.
Getting up: For some reason, this scenario always comes to mind. When I was in college, I would always try to rush from class — shoving things in my bag, barely putting on my coat, and haphazardly pushing in my chair. Most of the time, it would take me longer to get out because I was fumbling around! Slow down, be present, and calmly pack yourself up; push your chair in properly, zipper your coat, and leave the room.
There are many other scenarios this idea works for (doing the dishes, gardening, getting the mail, tidying a room, changing a diaper, grocery shopping, etc.). Femininity is in everything you do! Think of all the little things you do on a daily basis and imagine really doing them — you’re not rushing or zoning out, but you’re staying in the moment and calmly getting it done.
The main idea is to stay in the present and put purpose behind your actions. Not every action/activity you do throughout the day is glamorous or cute, but everything you do can be feminine and lovely.
It may not make the task any easier or your inner thoughts any less bitter immediately, but overtime I think giving each moment in life it’s proper time allows us to look at things more clearly. We can start to enjoy life a bit more and no longer be held captive by our emotions.
Hope that helps or inspires someone! Feel free to share anything related to this idea, I would love to hear from my fellow feminine ladies!
(P.S. - this goes for men as well!! Being present and purposeful in every task you undertake helps you cultivate that secure, confident, and capable masculine air. Rushing around or losing your composure over small, menial things is not masculine and doesn’t attract feminine women.)
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