Lady Hearth Keeper

On semi hiatus // European Muslim homemaker. *Happily married*. An Accomplished lady, in a time when it doesn't hold any meaning for the world. This blog is to share my longing for a more traditional way of life. A home where women have a mystical and spiritual duty as the keeper of the hearth. Creating a safe haven for my family, loved ones, birds and cats. This is a safe place for those of us who are tired of a world that regards traditional values as something that needs to be eradicated. I'm a living proof you can be a product of multiculturalism and be traditional. **This is a sideblog, I probably already follow you from my main blog thestateofardadreaming.** Not a kink blog. I'd rather not talk to random men but I'm happy to chat with fellow ladies. .

[ladyhearthkeeper]

Ladyhearthkeeper’s thoughts and advice :

I thought I’d just make a masterpost with most of my posts. If you want to ask for more advice : don’t hesitate.I don’t know everything but what I know I like to share. I generally publish the asks unless they are of a private nature or if you ask me not to publish my answer.

On femininity :

Protecting your softness as a single lady

How to use a better vocabulary when talking about strong women

On feminine mystery

On being raised like a Victorian lady

Tips to be more feminine

When dealing with rude people and crude words

Femininity as a natural and organic art of being

On composure

Gentle and confident

Your own feminine essence

How being feminine changed how others treat me

My return to my femininity

Other women resenting feminine women

On how to be patient when faced with a delay in your desire to be a mother

Femininity has no age

Tapping into your own femininity

Femininity is not a performance

The contrast between who I was and how I am as a feminine woman.

Femininity isn’t weakness

Femininity isn’t about appearances

Natural beauty

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On softness :

How to be more soft

How to protect the gentleness of our soul

Staying soft while still knowing about current affairs

Like a violet in this loud world

(Soft) Things I wish I knew when I was in my twenties

You have the right to be angry

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On traditional living :

How to prepare yourself to be a housewife

Let’s bring back good manners

Our family is our main priority

Musings on Swiss national day (as a grandchild of immigration)

Traditional women are not doormats

Taking care of our elders

Living as a joint family is better for ecology than a single household

The importance of community

Your enemy is not a foreign culture but monoculture/modernism

Traditional from many traditions

As a single childless woman

How to embrace singlehood when you’re a traditional woman

Housework and working with your hands give opportunities for your mind to think

Good manners in public places

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On love :

The dangers of social media and romance

Find love and romance in subtlety

Taking the first step as a lady

Nothing wrong with romantic comedies

Courtship as an initiation rite

Be clear about wanting a husband who will provide for his family

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On nurturing :

The definition of nurturing

On nurturing

Be your friends’ and family’s safe place

On being a Hearth Keeper

Nurturing is an act of love as essential as providing for your family

Nurturing & Loving

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On modesty :

Choosing what to reveal and to whom

Think before posting your pics online

Modesty is dignity

Two faces

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On life :

Be true

Cultivate your mind

Privacy on social media

Healing yourself requires commitment, honesty, and hard (inner) work

Keeping your own inner fire burning bright

Do one thing

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Homemaking :

My mother as a resource on homemaking and using your five senses to make a home

Dealing with tedious chores

A homemaker isn’t a kept woman

Sacred meal time

Keeping a home is equally important as providing for it : on the dignity of a homemaker

A hearthkeeper keeps her home warm and glowing

Space Clearing

Entertaining guests in your home

Decorating your home

Nice smelling home

Cleaning your home : a few pointers

Being a homemaker while ill or facing mental health issues

Cleaning mirrors & windows and cleansing the soul

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Cooking 

Homemade food (from scratch)

My dream kitchen

Nothing wrong with the kitchen

On my grandmother’s cooking

Living kitchen

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Spiritual matters

Fasting as a spiritual practice

The middle way

Lover of the world

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 Herbal medicine sources

Le Petit Docteur by Dr H.C. A. Vogel

The New Healing Herbs - The classic guide to Nature’s best medicines by Michael Castleman

The traditional healer’s handbook - A classic guide to the Medicine of Avicenna by Hakim G.M. Chishti N.D.

[ladyhearthkeeper]

Taking care of my parents, my neighbours, fellow human beings…

Taking care of my little girl, my husband and our elderly cat.

It’s not picture perfect. Sometimes I use made ready made meals. I’m not very good at keeping things organized and clean.

But our little girl is thriving and it’s a happy and warm home.

[cheshmenoor]

[depsidase]

[majestativa]

And she looked […] pure & otherworldly.

ANNE RICE — The Queen of the Damned, (The Vampire Chronicles #3), (1988)

[pjackk]

Does anyone remeber when the earth use to be our medicine

[larkandkatydid]

One thing I’ve become a real extremist about is little girl’s clothing and hair styles because if your kid can’t get her hair wet, hang upside down, climb over a fence or run full out in the outfit/hair she is currently wearing then why not? And the answer better be both extremely fucking good and describe something temporary.

[poodletrain]

Hope you don't mind a story that also made me extremist about this issue.

Took my friends daughter (2.5yrs) to the park. Dressed her in practical clothing that's ok to get stained, brought an extra change of clothing. She sat in the mud at the water bank and played with rocks and mud. A little girl came over, couldn't be more than 3yrs. She was looking longingly at my friend's daughter. She has her hair in a perfect style and she's wearing a pretty dress with white socks and dressy shoes. The parents say "Sweetie don't go into the mud, you'll get your dress dirty" and pull her away, while giving me a judgmental look as they see the kid in my charge covered in mud and throwing rocks into the water. It felt really weird, like we saw eachother as aliens with completely different ideas on how to raise children. When my friends daughter was done playing, changed her into clean clothing and went back home. She had a lot of fun at the park and a day full of nature and play. The other little girl kept her dress clean.

[maybeasunflower]

There's a Tumblr post about someone finding out that "girls" toddler clothes are more restrictive than "boys" toddler clothes to the point that it made it harder for them to crawl, at a stage where they were learning to crawl.

[impulsivelycontentious]

I made one about how my toddler child couldn't climb in girl's TODDLER PANTS.

We are not a house who cares much about gendering a baby's clothes. It's a BABY. It doesn't care. So we'd take the kid to yard sales and let them pick out whatever baby clothes caught their fancy and would fit. Some were 'boy' and some were 'girl'. Kiddo loved floral prints because they're a baby (yeah my kid has always picked their own clothes).

Anyway, my kid LOVED TO CLIMB. Sometimes.

It was weird. Sometimes they were all over the sofa and the playground equipment and MY LEGS and sometimes they just. Weren't. Couldn't figure out what was going on.

Until I caught them trying to climb on rhe sofa in one of their pretty flowered pants.

They COULDN'T LIFT THEIR LEGS PROPERLY. And gave up, and did something else.

So I tested this out and... Yeah. The kid COULDN'T climb in ANY of their girl pants. Any. Put them in boy clothes and suddenly the kid is on everything again.

We stopped buying girl pants completely until they were old enough to test them and my kid is a TEENAGER now and i still make them lift their legs individually and jump if it's a girl fit.

YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO MEAN TO DO IT.

Whoever designed these clothes literally did not care if the baby could MOVE. But only if girl.

[ladyhearthkeeper]

I don’t know where you buy your toddler clothes but where I am the girlie clothes and in particular pants (in girl section) I buy are more than fine for crawling, runnning, climbing etc. (H&M have great clothes)

My little girl is unstoppable.

(I just don’t understand the purpose of white clothes for toddlers)

Also I like to dress my girl in pretty clothes and nice hairdo but let her do whatever she wants in the park/garden/nature. Everything can be washed and she grows so fast nothing lasts long enough.

It doesn’t have go be black or white. Cute clothes and wild fun…

i wear sensible simple shoes and hate shopping. But I took her to the shops to get comfortable sandles for her… and oh my she likes shoes! And she was delighted to try them. And she’s not even 2 yet.

i’m going to let her enjoy this even if it’s not my thing.

[radical-revolution]

[stroopwaifey]

I made this fluffy omelet from my mom’s ancient Better Homes and Gardens cookbook! It was so delicious and surprisingly easy! Here’s the recipe

Here’s the Cheese sauce

The slit thing is basically making a shallow cut where you want it to fold. Oh and I don't recommend making this unless you have a tool to whisk the eggs unless you are psycho and will do it by hand

[ladyhearthkeeper]

i have the same book!! I love using it for baking.

i’ll try this one.

[ladyhearthkeeper]

I keep on mixing up my blogs. Little miss is full of energy and it’s hard to keep up.

[danskjavlarna]

Source details and larger version.

I’ve collected some weird vintage bird imagery, from bird hats to bird people, ghost birds to giant birds.

[darkvoidtrash]

[unicyclehippo]

AJSJJDKSJD THE QUILTING SHOW MY GMA WANTS TO GO TO HAS A “FREE TICKET FOR UNDER 30s” IM!!!!! that’s SO funny ?? They wanna encourage young ppl SO much to get into quilting

[unicyclehippo]

what i imagine the quilting convention back room looks like

[unicyclehippo]

this is happening tmrw im soooo excited!!! my gma is bringing her walking stick for age related reasons but also so she can quote “knock those old ladies OUT of my way”

[unicyclehippo]

y’all it was so much fun, there were so many Incredible quilts there, i had an awesome time. here are some photos i took of the quilts, forgive me for how crooked most of them are, i took them v quickly bc my gma was getting tired

i wanna shout out this last one—ITS ALL THREAD PAINTING. THE WHOLE THING. it’s. i should have got a close up of it but it’s all thread painted it’s so so cool

[unicyclehippo]

& yet MORE quilts…

i wanna shout out the top picture — the skull quilt was so cool first of all & it’s ALSO the artists FIRST QUILT??? it was so incredibly cool & detailed I rly loved it. i also wanna point out the last quilt here, all of these flowers are applique & i had so much trouble keeping from TOUCHING it (which ur not allowed to do ofc). it was so gorgeous. the close up square above it is from the same quilt. just wow!

[gallusrostromegalus]

Reminder to everyone to go join your local quilt guild.

[molabuddy]

when u plug a phone into a computer the comupter always charges the phone even if she has less charge than the phone bc the computer thinks that due to her size she always needs to provide for those smaller than her even when it hurts her more than it helps others. btw

[emotionalwords]

[k-wame]

C H I L L S

[radical-revolution]