A compilation of my most important posts on @thisisparamisia
[PT: A compilation of my most important posts on @thisisparamisia /end PT]
Making this because Tumblr refuses to take off the mature account filter on the account, and so tons of minors are incapable of accessing paraphilia education. (Despite the fact that minors themselves can be paraphiles, and it's not uncommon for paraphilias to form during childhood [link.])
Post: "Educate yourself about paraphilic disorders this disability pride month!"
[PT: Post: "Educate yourself about paraphilic disorders this disability pride month!" /End PT]
Post: "Blog relevant terminology"
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Post: "OCD vs Paraphilia"
[PT: Post: "OCD vs Paraphilia" /End PT]
Post: "Paraphilias can be nonsexual"
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Post: "Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest"
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[ID of the last segment (since it won't let me add it in the alt text):
Incest is not technically "immoral" if all parties are fully consenting (that includes no grooming/coercion), but it is more often than not dangerous and unhealthy, and it is unlikely to even be considered by a mentally healthy individual.
Choosing an intimate partnership with a relative rather than an outside party is like metaphorically walking through a minefield when there is a world of non-risky land just behind you to explore instead.
I do not believe in arresting those who participate in consensual incest, but I also do not believe it should be encouraged, and I think they deserve psychological help, and that society should be questioning the reasons behind why such a dynamic may have formed rather than judging them.
There is a severe lack of studies on the long-term affects of consensual sibling-sibling incest, and I think that is something that needs some serious looking into.
Post: "Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference?"
[PT: Post: "Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference?" /end PT]
Post: "MAP is not a term for 'child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community.' That is a myth."
[PT: Post: "MAP is not a term for 'child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community.' That is a myth." /end PT]
Post: "Most child rapists are not pedophiles, the same way most men who rape men are not queer."
[PT: Post: "Most child rapists are not pedophiles, the same way most men who rape men are not queer" /End PT]
Post: "Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos"
Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"
Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"
Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?"
[PT: Post: "Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos"
Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"
Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"
Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?" /End PT]
Post: "Proship vs antiship - an argument that is not actually helping anyone."
[PT: Post: "Proship vs antiship - an argument that is not actually helping anyone." /End PT]
Post: "What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer?"
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Post: "Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩"
[PT: Post: "Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩" /End PT]
As a bonus, here are posts not made by me (Kris) but instead made by my headmates. These posts are not marked mature (as of right now): or @pararecovery.
Why "paraphiles who don't act on it are fine" is still a paramisic statement [link]
Stop pretending to be a mental health advocate if you think people with "dangerous" paraphilic disorders are inherently predators, deserve to feel ashamed of themselves, or deserve conversion therapy [link]
Children can be paraphiles [link]
Parental controls and age verification are ineffective; so what is the solution? [link]
Here are some posts by @pararecovery (which is unfortunately marked as mature) that deserve attention:
Tips for coping with paraphilic disorders [link]
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with sexual fantasies [link]
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with fiction [link]
I would share screenshots, but tumblr only allows 30 images per post.
And here are some resources I recommend checking out, if you're struggling with your mental health:
Get Self Help [link]Therapy Worksheets [link]
Project Lets [link]
Fireweed Collective [link]
The Wildflower Alliance [link]
Stronger U/Stronger Together [link]
^These four are non-carceral support for suicidal folks. (Non-carceral means they won't call the cops to forcefully institutionalize you.)
Self-harm resources [link] (Check out the "first aid" and "anatomy" information on the top of the screen for further advice about harm reduction.)
Also recommend checking out @thisis-suicidism, @support-for-the-suicidal, and @self-harm-harm-reduction for further resources and support.
MAPs (though non-MAPs may find it helpful too, by just exchanging words like "minor" for whatever other thing):
Self-help modules [link]
Advice, safety planning, and FAQs [link]
Stop It Now UK [link] / Stop It Now USA [link]
B4U-Act [link]
ASAP International [link]
VirPed [link]
Global Prevention Project [link]
OCD & intrusive thoughts:
OCD worksheets [link]
Grounding techniques for intrusive thoughts [link]
Survivor's Toolkit [link] (Mainly recommending the worksheets there)
Care Package for Survivors of Sexual Trauma [link] (mainly reccomending the "managing common reactions to trauma" segment.)
Online Communities for Survivors (of sexual trauma) [link]
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