This Is Anti-Masculinity

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Introduction

Blogs like this one [link]

Important posts:

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Transmascs do not hold privilege over transfems [link] 1 in every 6 [peri]cis men are SA victims. 50% of trans men are victims of SA. Intersex people [including intersex men] are 3x more likely to be victims of SA than other queer peers. [link] Testosterone does not cause aggression; it only boosts confidence levels and amplifies pre-existing social behavior [link] Marginalized men are in danger of walking alone at night, too [link] Male loneliness - facts vs incel garbage [link]

Who owns this blog?

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Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am intersex transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.

I run five other blogs, known as @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on oppression towards genderqueer and sexqueer people), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities & disfigurements), and @thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially paraphilic disorders.)

What is this blog? What is the tagging system?

[PT: What is this blog? What is the tagging system?]

This blog is centered around anti-masculinity, as well as toxic masculinity (from a "this is how toxic masculinity affects other masc people" perspective.)

Anti-masculinity is the fear-mongering or hatred of masculinity. Some examples of anti-masculinity include the following:

-The demonization of BIPOC masculinity, disabled masculinity, fat masculinity, and queer masculinity. -Treating androgenized characteristics (beards/hairiness, penises, deep voices, etc) as scary, ugly, or undesirable due to being "masculine." -Assuming that masculine individuals are dangerous, predatory, or abusive by default (ie; viewing a father on a playground with their kid as inherently suspicious, viewing a butch lesbian as unsafe to be around women, etc.) -Assuming that because masculinity is so "undesirable" and "scary", masculine people can never be victims of abuse.

Toxic masculinity is the pressure to conform with a specific form of masculinity. Some examples of toxic masculinity include the following:

-Telling mascs that they should be "protectors" and enforcing an idea of physical strength (possibly even violence/aggression) on them, and degrading their masculinity if they don't fit this archetype. -Telling mascs that they should be hypersexual and degrading their masculinity if they don't fit this archetype. -Telling mascs that they should suppress all emotions except for anger. -Telling mascs that they should not seek help for anything and should "tough it out" or "learn how to deal with it", and should be hyper-independent.

The tagging system will go as follows:

-Anti-Masculinity: General anti-masculine sentiments. - Toxic Masculinity: General toxic masculinity. - Homoandrophobia/Gayphobia: Oppression towards achillean mascs. - Andro-Monosexism: Oppression towards m-spec mascs. - Andro-Amatonormativity: Oppression towards a-spec, non-partnering, or non-monogamous mascs. - Transandrophobia: Oppression towards transmascs or people perceived as transmasc. - Androqueerphobia: Oppression towards queer masculinity/masculine-perceived queers; intersex mascs, transmascs, butches, etc. Aka, oppression of genderqueer or sexqueer mascs. - Androracism: Oppression towards BIPOC mascs. Andronoirism is a subset of this directed towards black or brown mascs. - Androableism: Oppression towards disabled mascs. - Androsizeism: Oppression towards mascs of specific body types (typically mascs who are fat, but could apply to skinniness or height.) - Androclassism: Oppression towards mascs who are not economically privileged.

Isn't "misandry" anti-feminist?

[PT: Isn't misandry anti-feminist?]

Yes, the term "misandry" was twisted to be anti-feminist, because it was bastardized by incels and anti-feminists to imply that the patriarchy doesn't exist.

However, anti-masculinity (and toxic masculinity) does exist. BIPOC mascs, disabled mascs, fat mascs, queer mascs, and economically vulnerable mascs face this.

Some people still use the term "misandry" when describing anti-masculinity, but I personally think this muddies the water of what is and isn't true anti-masculinity.

"Aren't BIPOC mascs just oppressed for their race?" "Aren't disabled mascs just oppressed for their disability?" "Aren't fat mascs just oppressed for their weight?" "Aren't queer mascs just oppressed for their queerness?" "Aren't poor mascs just oppressed for their status?"

No. Their oppression directly intersects with the demonization and/or strict ideals of masculinity.

For example, black men are treated as aggressively masculine criminals who cannot be trusted, and will use their MASCULINE aggression to harm white people.

Another example would be masculine disabled people who have "scary" disabilities - masculinity causes them to be treated as far more dangerous than their non-masculine counterparts.

And for disabled men with high support needs, they are treated as "failures of men" or told they are "weaponizing their incompetence" or are otherwise misogynistic.

Fat and poor men are also often treated as dangerous, disgusting predators due to their fatness + masculinity or poorness + masculinity.

As for queer masculinity, I am just going to redirect you to this post [link] I made about transmascs.

Also, anti-masculinity impacts women too! Butch women, androgenized trans women, androgenized intersex women, etc. If a woman is perceived as "masculine", they are treated as dangerous rapists.

This also intersects with racism. Black and brown women (even pericis ones) are stereotyped to be "less feminine" (and thus "more aggressive") than white women.

"But you acknowledged toxic masculinity exists."

Yes, it does, and toxic masculinity harms mascs just as much as it harms non-mascs. How many young boys are told to emotionally suppress themselves because "boys don't cry?"

That doesn't mean ALL masculinity is toxic. Not to mention, toxic femininity exists as well - that doesn't mean misogyny isn't real.

"Systemic oppression for masculinity isn't real. Thats basic feminism."

1- Yes, it is true that systemic oppression against femininity is more generalized against ALL forms of femininity, which isn't the case for masculinity. But systemic oppression does exist for masculinity that is not considered "typical/conventional" or eurocentric; just not for generalized masculinity.

2- Basic feminism wasn't written with every marginalized group in mind, and thus, has shortcomings. It's not a bad thing to broaden your definition of feminism. Feminism =/= being feminine-centric; feminism is meant to be gender equality, and that includes equality for oppressed mascs.

Am I safe here?

[PT: Am I safe here?]

This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.

This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)

This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.

This blog is safe for alterhumans.

This blog is safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.

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(ID: a tiktok video where a person says "When women wonder where men get the audacity but y'all literally glorify dad bods, bald heads, and date the most ugly men imaginable".

The caption says "I'll never forgive yall for making beer bellies attractive". The video has 173,9K likes, 235 comments and 7539 saves)

(I tried my best I'm not that good with IDs)

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Yess!!! Let's fight misogyny with... fatphobia and body shaming? I really don't get these "progressive feminists" that are literally just fatphobic. What's wrong with blad and fat men? And what's wrong with women liking these type of men?

Does this person realize that women can be bald and fat too, and these comments also affect them???

This is androsizeism and androlookism. @this-is-lookism @this-is-fatphobia

It can also be androableism, because:

1- Fatness can cause disability or be a symptom of disability.

2- Beer bellies are often indicative of alcoholism, which is an addictive disorder (thus, a disability.)

3- Baldness is often a result of disorders like autoimmune alopecia/alopecia areata (which is a disability.)

It can also be intersexist towards people with hypergonadism or hypogonadism, both of which can cause balding.

How about we stop making fun of the bodies of misogynistic men, because their body isn't what makes them a misogynist?

And as you said, this impacts other genders who are fat or balding too. Like, what about fat women? Fat enben? Balding women? Balding enben?

To all fat and/or balding men, enben, and women- you're stunning.

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Is there any sort of archive/someone reblogging all of this-is-paramisia’s posts? I’m a minor that wants to be inclusive

Hi, so I am actually the mod of @thisisparamisia! You can see some of my posts screenshotted on the pinned post of my headmate's account @inclusive-youth-liberation. I am not sure if reblogging the posts makes them viewable, since my entire account got flagged as mature? (Still hate that tumblr refuses to take off that label, paraphilia education is for all ages. Minors can be paraphiles or know paraphiles.)

But maybe sometime soon I could make a post compiling screenshots on @dhddmods of my most important posts?

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Someone in a comments section explained that bi men are often fetishized. Just that. Literally just, “bi men are often fetishized.” And someone replied complaining about how men always claim they have it worse than women.

This is andro-monosexism.

How does saying "bi men experience fetishization" at all translate into "bi men have it worse than bi women?" Literally just putting words and implications into peoples mouths.

[androqueer-struggles]

Lost a moot for the first time ever because they reblogged a post saying “It’s crazy that people actually think there is an actual issue with transmasc erasure when most trans representation in media is transmasc or tme nonbinary” :/

Ik it’s not my place to speak on trans issues (I’m questioning but still leaning towards femininity) but idk. That gives me red flags and I just can’t be mutuals with someone who thinks like that (and forces nonbinary people into a binary with that "tme nonbinary"!!). Sigh. Why can’t people just be normal about transmascs and men?

Thankfully that mutual never interacted with me much so I haven’t gotten attached to them.

This is transandrophobia, exorsexism, and varsexism.

TMA/TME is such a shitty binary. It's nobody's right to sort people into these categories, because there's no way you can know who is or isn't impacted by transmisogyny. And also, it's weird to treat transmisogyny as the primary form of oppression that you must announce - should you also put "ableism affected" in your bio?? Why are we treating oppression like an identity to put in your bio?

I've broken it down more here [link] and here [link.]

Also, trans women have more representation than trans men and enben. That doesn't make trans women privileged, but it's literally just inaccurate to say most representation is trans men & enben.

This article [link] shows that 73% of trans characters are trans women, 21% are trans men, and 6% are enben.

This article [link] shows that, when looking at statistics of binary trans characters in media - trans women make up 85% of binary trans characters, and trans men make up 15% of binary trans characters.

Enben representation is lacking wildly. It's almost always aliens, robots, shapeshifters, and other nonhuman creatures who are nonbinary purely because people cannot conceptualize human beings as nonbinary. And it's basically all masc, fem, and (nonhuman) genderless enben. MAYBE androgynous, neutral, null, and genderfluid enben - but again, they're usually nonhuman. Where are the human ones?

And wheres the xenine enben? The outherine enben? The aporine enben? The multigender enben? The multidirectional enben?

And there's basically no intersex TGD (trans & gender diverse) representation either. Don't get me started on how intersex people basically NEVER have proper representation, whether they're cis, trans, cistrans, isogender, ultergender, or some other modality.

What little "representation" there is, its once again almost never actual intersexuality, but rather duosexuality or cosexuality [link], and not the real broad spectrum that intersexuality is [link.]

[androqueer-struggles]

People saying that transandrophobia is only something that happens online. Actual thing that i saw someone say 😊😊😊😄😄😄haha i love being transmasc its so fun having my specific struggles related to being both transgender and masculine erased and essentially called petty internet bullshit

"Transandrophobia only happens online"

Ah yes, purely online. Hm. I guess all of this:

-Androgens being a controlled substance.

-The transmascs being refused the ability to medically transition because it's "mutilating a perfect female body"

-The transmascs with mullerian ducts and breasts being denied "women's" healthcare (because clearly their body parts magically change upon coming out /sarcasm.)

-50% of transmascs being raped [link].

-The violent detransitioning of many transmascs through forced marriage and/or forced pregnancies.

-The conversion therapy many transmascs suffer.

-The hate crimes against transmascs (Hi, I can attest! I was permanently physically and psychologically disabled from being VERY violently hatecrimed for being transmasc! At the age of 9!)

-The murdering of transmascs that gets labelled as a "femicide."

-The erasure of transmascs in history and in the present.

-The way transmascs are pushed out of many queer spaces for being "scary", because masculinity is "worthy of hate."

-All of the TERF propaganda about transmascs that was sold in mass (have y'all forgotten about "Irreversible Damage"?)

...is just online! Yep! Totally! Definitely doesn't impact the offline existence of thousands of people!

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seen someone make a joke about making a bomb that kills men cus they watched 'obsession' and like. maybe instead of making radfem-y eugenics jokes and letting a horror movie justify your fear, go to therapy or learn dbt skills or something and deal with n heal from your fear of half the population??

their tag also made a comment slighting at men who have moral ocd who do the things theyre afraid of doing (ie. manipulation), which just shows that theyre unsafe for neurodivergent men to be around. literally so many abusers are scared theyre doing what theyre doing cus that abuse isnt fucking intentional! this isnt just limited to pericishet men! you (@ them) just fell for radfem rhetoric!

im so tired of this shit.

I agree that the "bomb that kills all men" is eugenicist and gender essentialist, but I do have to say it is a bit ableist and classist of you to tell people with psychological androphobia to "go to therapy or learn some DBT skills."

Therapy is costly in many countries, and also unsafe for some people (if they have characteristics that could get them institutionalized, medically abused, or otherwise discriminated against), and not everyone benefits from DBT skills or has the mental capacity to teach themself.

Ofc, that doesn't excuse being sexist. Having a phobia is not the same as making jokes about how men deserve death.

I also question the abuse apologism aspect of framing abuse as a symptom of neurodivergence. I'm sure there are some men with moral OCD who harm people unintentionally, but idk about this "so many abusers" thing.

Being unintentionally abusive does happen, but I don't think that's usually related to OCD. Usually that's just related to being improperly taught social or emotional skills, or being taught bigotry.

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Tw for rape, forced pregnancy, detransition

I once saw a post that said that something along the lines of “tmascs holding the fact that they can get pregnant over tfems heads” as an example of trans men and mascs using their “AGAB”

The context? They got upset that trans men were talking about how they were at risk of corrective rape and pregnancy when told they didn’t face any “special form of transphobia.”

This is not all transfems and I didn’t mean to imply that it was all transfems. Just wanna clarify that. My intent was to point out one instance of transandrophobia from someone who happens to be transfem.

This is transandrophobia and literally disgusting. 50% of transmascs get raped in their lifetime [link], and many of them are detransitioned by being forced into marriages with pericis binary men, and forced to carry children for their husbands.

It's not "holding pregnancy above their heads" to talk about the horrific sexual torment that transmascs with functioning uteruses & ovaries suffer.

(Side note, it's also very intersexist, exorsexist, pluralphobic, and eurocentric to imply that transfems can't have [functional] uteruses. Transfemininity and transmasculinity says nothing about a person's internal anatomy [link].)

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I won’t drop any names, but I’ve been getting harassed by a moderator of a lesbian community on here. She’s insistent that my identity as a transmasc lesbian is invalid and thinks men in general are disgusting and so are the people who love them. You’d be shocked to find out she’s also incredibly biphobic and bimisogynistic.

This is transandrophobia, lesboyphobia, homoandrophobia, monosexism towards m-specs who like men, and diamoricism towards enben who like men (since she thinks anyone who likes men is disgusting.)

(For anyone who doesn't understand transmasc lesbians, see this post [link]. Transmasc lesbians have always existed.)

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

I don’t know if this belongs here, but I will send it in regardless.

I’m a trans guy and so is my boyfriend. neither of us are particularly feminine, although i occasionally wear makeup & he might wear a skirt from time to time. But people always treat us better when one (or both) of us are dressing more femininely. Like even when I’m by myself I’m treated better when I’m presenting feminine. But it’s more noticeable when I’m with him. It’s like people think that I’m less threatening when I have a little bit of glitter on my face. Idk

This is anti-masculinity. It's very gender essentialist of them to treat someone who is more "feminine" as safer. Masculinity does not make someone unsafe.

[androqueer-struggles]

Once I found out I'm intersex and have XY chromosomes, despite being born afab, I've had several people tell me that im not really trans anymore because im biologically male. I still have a vagina. I still have a uterus. I have breasts. My body over produces estrogen and progesterone to the point I developed an allergy. Going on t helped that. I still need surgeries to have my body look more male. I am not cis, and have been told that I'm now cis because of my chromosomes. I am a trans man no matter what chromosomes I have because those did not affect my physical development.

-🍵

This is androqueerphobia.

Intersex people can have complex experiences with gender. Chromosomes do not dictate your gender identity, and it's not really perisex people's place to gatekeep the trans label from you based on 1 single aspect of your biology.

Intersex people can have biology that "contradicts" their socially imposed gender. Or they could have been reassigned throughout their life.

Not to mention, even perisex trans men don't necessarily have to have been SPETE (someone perisex expected to estrogenize.) They could be SPETA (someone perisex expected to androgenize.)

For example, someone who thought they were transfem or , transitioned, realized they're actually a man, and has to transition back to manhood. They may consider themself a trans man.

Or a person who is multigender with one of those genders being a man, or a demiboy, or otherwise a nonbinary man. They may consider themself a trans man (because they transitioned from binary manhood to nonbinary manhood.)

Or a person who is plural, and whose innerworld experience with manhood doesn't align with their outerworld experience with manhood. They may be a trans man.

Or a person who is transitioning from a cultural gender to a man. Or a person who is transitioning from Westernized manhood to a culturally gendered manhood.

Being a trans man says literally nothing about what body parts a person was born with.

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I saw a video of a guy talking about something medieval (can't remember exactly what it was, but something he was wearing broke).

All of the comments were talking about his penis, since he was wearing a codpiece. Like I found one comment that was actually talking about the contents of the video.

The rest were things like "it looked at me," "he knew what he was doing" and general sexual comments. He wasn't doing anything sexual in the video.

I really don't like to say stuff like this (idk if I sound like an incel) but to me this is just double standards. Because yeah, this happens to woman super often, but it gets called out.

One person called out the behaviour of this guy's comment section. One.

This is androsexism and sexual harassment.

Can people please not point out others genitalia when it was not invited? Gender doesn't exempt sexual harassment.

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Can I find ONE piece of Jayvik smut that doesn’t make Jayce the top, and Viktor trans while Jayce is cis.

I feel like people feminize and make Viktor the bottom specifically because he’s disabled. And then they go and make Jayce a top and portray him as aggressive and hypermasculine.

This is transandroableism.

I see this in a lot of fandoms. When a male character is physically disabled (or noticeably neurodevelopmentally or cognitively disabled), they are feminized in a MLM relationship.

Fandoms are already really bad about always assigning a "fem" role in MLM relationships, but if a character is physically, neurodevelopmentally, or cognitively disabled, that role is immediately dropped onto them.

Its okay to headcanon a character as transmasc, but there's a concerning pattern of always making a character transmasc specifically when they want to feminize them. Feminine transmascs exist, but where is the representation of transmascs who don't want to be feminine?

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Accounts like this one:

Gender, sex, attraction/relationships:

[PT: Gender, sex, attraction/relationships:]

@androqueer-struggles (focused on the oppression and struggles of peritransmascs, intersex mascs, butches, etc.)

@this-is-misogyny and @thisis-misogyny (focused on the oppression towards fems and women.)

@this-is-antitransfemininity (focused on the oppression of transfems and people who are transfeminized.)

@thisisexorsexism (focused on the oppression of enben, aka people on the non-binary spectrum.)

@this-is-antixeninity (focused on the oppression of xenogender people.)

@this-is-multigenderphobia (focused on the oppression of multigender people.)

@this-is-internoirism (focused on the intersection of intersexism and anti-black racism.)

@this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on the oppression of sexqueer and genderqueer people.)

@thisistransphobia (focused on the oppression of trans people.)

@this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on how amatonormativity and heteronormativity negatively impact people.)

@thisishomophobia (focused on how homophobia negatively impacts people.)

@thisis-biphobia (focused on the oppression of bi and other m-spec people.)

@this-is-anti-objectum (focused on the oppression of objectum people.)

@this-is-automisia (focused on the oppression of autospecs.)

@thisis-aphobia (focused on the oppression of aspec people.)

@this-is-abrophobia (focused on the oppression of abro people.)

Race, ethnicity, religion, and culture:

[PT: Race, ethnicity, religion, and culture:]

@thisisracism (focused on the oppression of BIPOC.)

@this-is-antiblackness (focused on the oppression of Black people) and @this-is-misogynoir (focused on the intersection of anti-Black racism and misogyny.) @this-is-indigemisia (focused on the oppression of Indigenous people.) @this-is-asiaphobia, @this-is-orientalism, and @this-is-sinophobia-orientalism (focused on the oppression of Asian people.) @this-is-sinomisogyny (focused on the intersection of misogyny and sinophobia, which is the oppression of East & Southeast Asians) and @this-is-sinosexism (focused on the intersection of sexism and sinophobia.) @this-is-japanophobia (focused on the oppression of Japanese people.) @this-is-philippinophobia (focused on the oppression of Filipino people.) @this-is-maori-targeted-racism (focused on the oppression of Māori people.) @thisisantisemitism (focused on the oppression of Jews.) @thisis-islamophobia (focused on the oppression of Muslims.) @this-is-xenophobia (focused on how xenophobia negatively impacts people.) @this-is-antiarab (focused on the oppression of Arabs.) @this-is-anti-romani (focused on the oppression of Roma.) @this-is-anti-paganism-animism (focused on the oppression of pagans and animists.) @this-is-anti-religion (focused on the bigotry against religions.)

Disability, alterhumanity, & public/social perception/status:

@thisis--ableism (focused on the oppression people with disabilities.)

@this-is-neuropsych-ableism (focused on the oppression of neurological & psychological disabilities.)

@this-is-physi-sensory-ableism (focused on the oppression of physical disabilities, sensory disabilities, and neuropsych disabilities that cause physical symptoms.)

@this-is-sensory-ableism (focused on the oppression of sensory disabilities.)

[PT: Disability, alterhumanity, & public/social perception/status:]

@this-is-audism (focused on the oppression of deaf and hard of hearing people, including those with auditory processing issues.) @this-is-agorableism (focused on the oppression of disabled people existing in public spaces.) @this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities and/or disfigurements.) @this-is-seizurism (focused on the oppression of people who experience seizures.) @this-is-anti-brain-injury (focused on the oppression of people with brain injuries.) @this-is-anti-idd (focused on the oppression of intellectual disabilities.) @this-is-infantilization (focused on the infantilization of people, particularly disabled people.) @this-is-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with psychological disabilities.) @this-is-phobia-discrimination (focused on the oppression of people with phobias.) @this-is-depressiomisia (focused on the oppression of people with depression.) @thisis-suicidism and @support-for-the-suicidal (focused on the oppression of suicidal people, and how to support them.) @this-is-cluster-b-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with cluster B personality disorders.) @this-is-anti-bpd (focused on the oppression of people with BPD.) @this-is-a-trauma-response (a place for people to submit their trauma responses and/or coping mechanisms.) @this-is-pluralphobia (focused on the oppression of plural people/plural systems.)

@thisisfictomisia (focused on the oppression of fictionfolk.)

@this-is-factomisia (focused on the oppression of factofolk)

@this-is-anti-little (focused on the oppression of age regressors and syskids.)

@this-is-kinmisia and @this-is-alterhumisia (focused on the oppression of alterhumans.)

@this-is-anthromisia (focused on bigotry against the anthro community, such as furries, scalies, beakies, etc.)

@this-is-fatphobia (focused on the oppression of fat people.)

@this-is-lookism (focused on the oppression of people who have "unacceptable" appearances, often overlapping with deformimisia/disfiguremisia.)

@this-is-anti-homeless (focused on the oppression of homeless people.)

@this-is-classism (focused on the effects of classism.)

Other:

[PT: Other:]

@thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially those with paraphilic disorders.)

@this-is-antikink (focused on the effects of anti-kink purity culture.)

@this-is-whorephobia (focused on the oppression of sex workers.)

@this-is-parental-abuse (focused on the effects of parental abuse.)

@this-is-peer-abuse (focused on the effects of peer abuse.)

@thisis-speciesism (focused on the effects of treating humans as the superior species.)

@this-is-bioessentialism (focused on how bioessentialism negatively impacts people.)

@inclusive-youth-liberation and @this-is-adultism (focused on youth liberation for all types of children.)

Notes:

[PT: Notes]

This-is-transgynephobia, this-is-biphobia, and this-is-sapphicphobia is run by a racist mod [link] (more examples are under the cut*) who stalks people and makes tons of accounts, do not follow those accounts.

This-is-transandrophobia is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account.

This-is-transmisandry is paramisic (has reblogged content conflating pedophile/zoophile with predator, has them on their DNI on their personal account, has reblogged content promoting authoritarian censorship.) Please do not harass (this goes for the other accounts too, but I'm extra specifying that here cuz this is a minor.)

Thisis-paraphilicsocialostracization is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account. UPDATE: So the account removed the endophobic statement from that post, but it did exist. They also removed all comments relating to it, completely erasing accountability.

This-is-islamophobia doesn't support LGBTQIA+ people [link], disregards enben ("both genders"), and goes by the "respect but don't support" rule, which isolates LGBTQIA+ Muslims from the account and also perpetuates the idea that queerness is a sin or choice.

To the people telling me that not every @ works - the reason why is because Tumblr only allows 50 mentions per post. There's nothing I can do about it.

(*Examples of the mod's racism below.)

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Added @this-is-antiblackness and @this-is-misogynoir, please check them out!

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Not FTM myself but this is so fucking creepy. Like, genuinely.

I feel so bad for the trans men attracted to women who have to worry about the people “expressing interest in them” actually secretly being like this.

[ID: A screenshot of a post saying "My terf ass omw to fantasize about FTMs. #love y'all even if ur delusional 🥹 #wlw"

On the post, there is a picture of a cartoon plant with a face on it, winking while doing a kissy face, with a heart coming from the lips. /End ID]

This is transandrosaneism.

First of all, trans men are men. If you desire a trans man, you desire a man. There is nothing "WLW" about a trans man, unless that man is multigender with woman as one of their genders.

I sure as hell hope this person's fantasies remain fantasies, and that they stay the fuck away from trans men, because clearly, they do not respect them.

Second of all, being trans doesn't make someone delusional. Trans people can have delusional disorders like anyone else, but it's not being delusional that makes them trans. So many studies have been done now that prove that is not the case.

Third of all, I don't like this notion that being delusional is something that needs to be an exception. I know that's besides the point, because being a trans man isn't a delusion, but still, I can't stand the "I love you even if" statements about disabled people.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Absolutely falling IN LOVE with the movie Obsession and how (to me, at least) it’s such an amazing commentary on cishetero- and amatonormativity and how these two things lead to the entitled incel mentality that strips those who are perceived as fem/women of their autonomy, yet, almost every video/post I see talking about this movie ultimately just boils down to something along the lines of, “See!!!!! This shows that male attraction is (inherently) harmful to women!!! Ugh, those disgusting, entitled horndogs, I HATE MEN1!!1!1!1!1”

Like… it feels like it’s just parroted puritanical and bio essentialist (probably gender essentialist too) talking points being disguised as media analysis. Once again, these folks are conflating men as whole with the patriarchy. They don’t actually gaf about deconstructing any of these oppressive systems, they just want someone/people to “””punch up””” at. I feel like it’s also a result of a fundamental misunderstanding about why sexual assault/rape/general entitlement over others’ bodies/etc. happen— these acts of violence aren’t rooted in attraction, they’re rooted in a twisted desire for power. I can’t believe that it needs to be spelt out as though I’m talking to a high school health class, but, sexual/romantic attraction isn’t “dirty” or “dangerous” or anything like that, it’s a normal, healthy thing that many people experience, but, it’s unfortunately weaponized (but, once again, not the root of) to cause harm.

People need to learn that harmful behavior isn’t inherent to men, or anyone for that matter, and to say so isn’t truly holding anyone accountable (it’s just the “boys will be boys” bullshit all over again). These things are the result of people refusing to unlearn mindsets/ideas ingrained in all of us due to these oppressive systems.

The idea that men's sexuality is inherently predatory is gender essentialist and toxic masculinity.

It also plays into classic rape apologist mentalities, as you say. The idea that rape = attraction is such a fundamentally victim blaming mentality.

Statistically speaking, for example, most men who rape men are mono heterosexual and most child predators are not pedophiles. [link]

If you (general you) frame attraction as the cause of rape, you not only demonize entire groups of people (ie; men as a gender, people with demonized paraphilias, etc), but you also invalidate victims whose perpetrators were not attracted to them.

You're essentially telling them "your experience isn't real", or "it's because of how pretty/handsome you are, you're attractive, thats why you were raped", when thats not the case.

Attraction can be a *motivator* to someone who selfishly gives into power, but it is never the sole or primary reason as to why someone rapes.

For example, a serial rapist who targets brunettes may have a specific attraction for brunettes, sure, but the preference isn't the motivator to be a rapist. That makes no sense. Most people who are primarily attracted to brunettes aren't going to rape them. There is something beyond attraction that leads a person to rape. They'd have to have an underlying sense of entitlement to the other person's body to do such a thing.

And even so, maybe they don't have a preference for brunettes. Maybe they *hate* brunettes, and are trying to punish them. Rape can be done out of hate, too.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

I don't know if it belongs here, but anyway

I am a transfeminine person, who is exclusively attracted to men and nonbinary people, my labels are kinda fluid, but sometimes I am comfortable calling myself straight. And despite it all I am pretty masculine-looking and comfortable to present that way. Lately I've been seeing a lot of discourse on twitter around gnc trans people, a lot of transmeds there saying stuff like "no trans woman would want to look that way", "never met a trans woman, who's comfortable with having a facial hair" etc etc, and if it wasn't already disappointing, even on the other side of this discourse every drawing of a masculine trans woman has a lesbian badge on them. It's almost like people can't even think about a trans woman being attracted to men and also not wanting to conform to gender norms, as if only being non-straight can justify women not wanting to be feminine. And if you really think about it, there are little to none examples of even cis straight women in media who are allowed to be masculine or gnc without it being used as a joke or something like that. To be clear, I love my trans butch siblings and I think they deserve to be seen and heard, but I just find it weird that people can't comprehend non-butch transfem mascs and women being both straight and masculine generally

(sorry for grammatical mistakes, I'm not used to write in english)

This is gynequeerphobia (specifically directed towards androgenized women and fems.)

Androgenized traits do not make a woman or fem any less of a woman or fem.

Sex traits =/= gender.

Expression =/= gender.

Androgenized women & fems, you're wonderful and amazing, and do not deserve to be treated as a "transmisogynistic stereotype."

Peritrans and intersex women & fems who are masc-presenting, you're wonderful and amazing, and do not deserve to be treated as a "transmisogynistic stereotype."

Being androgenized does not make you a stereotype, it's just a body type. Being masc presenting does not make you a stereotype, it's just a presentation.

Stop pushing gender and sex conformity onto androgenized & androestrogenized women & fems!