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i became best friends with my tc (already graduated) 30 year age gap / I’m D and she’s N

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has your tc been living in your mind rent free for more than a year or are you normal?

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@ N

i know you’re a terrible texter and literally always leave me on read but pleaseeeeee don’t do it when I’m asking you something lowkey important you’re ALWAYS online it literally takes 3s to reply it’s been 4 days already like it’s hurtful literally spent my day crying about it makes me feel like you hate me or that I annoy you

— im a cancer pls everyone im 🥺

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covid times....

so since this pandemic started, ive only been able to see N once...and that’s it. I used to see her like once a week before, but now it’s once in 3 months. And idk about you guys, but it’s been really hard for me. I have become SO attached to her that not being able to feel her next to me, to touch her, hug her and all, kills me. I’ve never missed someone so much. We do text each other, not every single day sadly, but twice a week. I just feel like it’s not enough and I know you’re probably gonna tell me that everyone feels that way and I get it. But yeah, my whole life I’ve been alone and N has been the closest to family to me and I guess I just wish I had that someone who takes care of me, asks me how I’m doing, hugs me, watches a movie with me, brings me snacks, reassures me, tells me how much she loves me and that everything will be okay..yeah I guess I want that motherly love and N kinda gives me that but now with this virus I feel so alone. Sometimes I just wish I lived with her so I could see her every day 😭

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I didn't fully move on from my TC but I am graduating this month, so it's the last time I'll be at the school. Her and I text all the time though and we see each other for coffee and lunches. I don't fully have feelings for her anymore but if she were to make a move I think they'd respark. I am just happy to have her friendship though :) -mothman

Congratulations on graduating, im so happy & proud of u!! And I’m so glad you guys remained friends and see each other often! That’s the most important thing ❤️

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How do you stay close with a tc once you've graduated?

I think it depends on the relationship you have with ur tc. me and N were already really close before I graduated, and once I did, we automatically started calling each other friends and all. I personally just kept doing the same things like inviting her to do activities together, being affectionate to her and all. But if you and your tc aren’t that closed yet maybe I would like show interest in their work or something related . Like lets say they teach history, maybe u can talk to them about a new research or something related... or if they like art and an exhibition shows up maybe politely invite them? After u graduate, you could write them an email telling them how much u loved the class blah blah and then at the end ask them if you can stay in touch? Maybe exchange numbers if you feel like it would be appropriate! And from then just go with the flow! Idk I hope this helps!

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i’m so happy to hear from you. i’ve been waiting for your return -mothman

Hiiii! So sorry for taking so long! How are you?! How are things with ur tc? Big hug :)

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Hi!

So you might remember me from my tc posts...yeah it’s been a while! Life gets in the way sometimes...

Well here’s an update if some of you still care...

First of all, for those who don’t know, I met N two and a half years ago. But we became super close since January 2019! We started going on dates (friendly ones ofc: coffee/dinner/movies, etc) and texting while she was still my professor! We got to know each other a lot! And then I graduated and we became v good friends! However pls keep in my mind that nothing romantic will ever happen. She sees me like a niece or daughter she could have had. I might still have some feelings for her, but it’s better to not have her in my life. Me, her and her bf, we are like a little family..and honestly I love it! I grew up in a toxic family and always dreamt of being adopted! And being around N & her bf feels that way!

So yeah, since last year we’ve hanged out constantly, the three of us celebrated xmas, news years, bdays together and many other things! She’s one of the most important people in my life and I guess so am I to her. We have that deep relationship that I wish ive had for years: we just get each other, we are like the same person...everything happens for a reason and finding her changed my life!

I guess that’s it!! If you wanna know more feel free to ask me :)

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cute text interaction

me: good morning to my favourite clairvoyant

N: good morning favourite rocketwoman

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more details about the graduation

- N, another student and me took a pic after the ceremony and then the student sent it to us. when we were waiting for our food at the restaurant, she decided to look at it and i told her “omg don’t i look ugly” and she was like “stop it” and then looked at it and was like “awww” and i whispered “ewww” and she asked me what was wrong and i told her i hated my double chin (the pic was taken from the lowest angle ever lol) so she said that i could edit it and send it back to her cos she really liked the pic and i was like “no its okay”. then the bartender came to give us our plates and she was about to leave when N stopped her and showed her the pic and said “doesn’t she look beautiful on here”, the girl was so confused and i could see she felt really awkward and said “yes ofc” and then N once again said “no but really isnt she so beautiful” and the girl again said “yes she is” and then left....i stg during those 2 mins i was DYING in my seat. i just wanted leave...like its cute that N did that but i felt so embarrassed like omg

- yesterday i was looking back at the photos of us together and omg,,,,,there are so many pictures where im looking at the camera and she’s looking at me. she’s smiling and her eyes are literally sparkling. like she looks so smitten im not even kidding. i wish i could show u guys the pics it deadass looks like she’s in love with me. i also showed the pics to my friend who was there and she said “i’m pretty sure she knows you like her because you look at her like she’s your whole world...i mean she probably is blind as hell if she hasn’t noticed” and then my other friend added that the whole time N was next to me and looking at me and she felt like N was tryna be really nice so that my friends would like her! i mean if that aint how ur crush acts

- at the restaurant when her partner came, she stood up cos she had to go to the bathroom and her partner took her place. she was about to go when he grabbed her jumper from the wait and said “oh you’re wearing the gift” and she was like “what” and grabbed her freeaking boobs in front of us and then laughed and smiled at me.....and then her partner was like “i meant the jumper” sksksksks but like why would she grab her boobs in front of both of us i stg,,,, also later when we were all at the coffee shop, (n and him had plans for later) N asked him about what they were gonna do later and he replied that he had already made plans with the nephew since she was busy...and then he added while looking at N and me, “i guess you guys can spend the rest day together” like ksksks idek at this point (we didn’t spend the rest of the day together cos he had to do something at home and N was going back home and i also told her i had already made plans) lmaoo idek but wait until i tell u guys about what happened last week

[telleling]

“Technically, I’m single. but my heart is taken by someone I can’t call my own.”

— Kinuha kung saan

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graduation day 👭❤️

n ended up declining my invitation because uni sent her last minute an invitation to be one of the professors present during the ceremony.

we ended up spotting each other at the end: she gave me the biggest hug and said “my baby i’m so proud of you i’m so happy”

then i introduced her to my friends and we all talked, but she was literally all over me. she wouldn’t leave my side and had her arm on me all the time. after talking for a bit we went to take some pictures and they’re so cute :’)

at the end my friends left and we went for lunch!

before we started eating, she said she had something to give to me. it was given to her 20 years ago and she always carried it for good luck and it worked for her so she said “i wanted to give you something special, something that is mine, that i had for a long time but that should now belong to you” i literally almost started crying!!! its basically a gold pendant and it’s the cutest thing ever!

we continued talking and then her partner came and then his nephew and we all went for coffee and then i accompanied them to buy something and while we were all together in the store N kept saying how we are this big family and that i could be her daughter. she proceeded to ask how old my mother is and then when i told her she said “oh well im younger 53 but still works although we don’t really look alike” and then she said to me and her partner’s nephew that they could def adopt us! anyway so yeah i mean that was kinda awkward to me but yeah i get it she does probably see me a lot like the daughter she never had! but then again she is also really flirty so? im confusion!!

i sent her the pics we took and from all of them she told that her fav is the one where we are both laughing/smiling and looking into each other’s eyes, and i told her that one was my fav as well and she said “im so happy we both like it, i just feel like it’s so real”

also when we were taking pics, we were thinking of poses to do and at suddenly she said “look into my eyes” and i started laughing and was like what?! and she said “cmon look at me”

she asked if i photoshopped the pics or if we r this naturally good looking and i told her “no! you yes!! beautiful everywhere!!” and she replied “i don’t want to blarney, but the queen of all beauties is you, undoubtedly 😘” sjsksksksk

but anyway overall i had the best time ever and she might be a cold bitch sometimes but she truly cares about me and ugh i love her so fucking much. never had someone like her in my life and the same goes for her 😭

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I’M OVERWHELMED

okay so i finally said “fuck that” and texted her today. she told me that yes she came back two weeks ago but was busy cos her cousin visited her!! so now i get why she didn’t text me all this time! anywayyy so i decided to invite her to my graduation this friday and she said YES 🥰🥰

guysssssss im so scared and excited!!! i invited two of my best friends and her, she doesn’t know them but ive told her about them..anyway im just scared that maybe its gonna be awkward...and i also kinda hope that she will invite me for lunch afterwards?? idk cos like my friends are busy afterwards so im gonna be alone...but i guess if she doesn’t, on friday after the ceremony i’ll ask her if she’s down to go for lunch..who knows!!! anyway im FINALLY seeing her in 5 days after 2 months of not seeing her!! my heart is so happy right now😭😭

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Hey, i’m seeing my professor on saturday but I think i’m going to have a friend with me so it’s really not gonna be personal like it normally is, and then classes start on Monday so hopefully her and I will get around to spending more time together :) -mothman

oh i see but im sure even with ur friend there u’ll still have fun and maybe she tells u to go again!! good luck on your first day 🥰 sending u all the good vibes and yess when school starts its always the best time!! u’ll see her more often and perhaps she’ll be less cold, i hope so 🙏🏽

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To the last anon Dont encourage this dumbass nonsense

yeahh they just dont get it its okay 🤷🏽‍♀️

[365filmsbyauroranocte]

Desert Hearts (Donna Deitch, 1985)

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i'm rooting for you and your tc YOU GOT THIS

thank you <3

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Did you honestly think shes into You? Or that you actually had a chance? Haha

yes indeed very funny....