I See Colours When I Hear Your Voice.

Sam. 28. England. Bisexual, he/him/his. Writer, musician, gamer, feminist, very much in love. Talk to me?

[sarahocha]

This needed space

[adaorardour]

may’s resigned only to have another hardliner brexiteer like boris johnson replace her

[mydogbarksatdragons]

She was an incompetent, amoral ass bag. But I can’t help but wonder if in a year’s time we’ll look back on her with something approaching fondness, because at least she wasn’t BoJo or Rees Mogg.

[theconcealedweapon]

[bimbocracy]

This is a manipulation tactic that men use to make it such a pain in the ass to set a boundary with them that you don’t attempt it again

[indigenousandangry]

^What they said. Don’t give them an inch. They have absolutely no idea what to do once this tactic doesn’t work. 

“Ok fine I’ll just never speak again.”

“Good deal. You should never speak ever.”

[mydogbarksatdragons]

I hate to be *that* guy here, but this ain’t just something men do. It’s something emotionally abusive, manipulative assholes do, and the status of emotionally abusive, manipulative asshole knows no gender boundaries. 

My mum’s mum is one of the most emotionally abusive assholes I’ve ever had the displeasure of knowing. We’ve not talked to her in three years, and my mum still hasn’t managed to sort her head out about the whole ordeal. Said ordeal being fifty years of emotional abuse at the hands of her mother. 

My best friend’s first girlfriend was a real shit in this regard, too. She had is self esteem in bits. She was the classic manipulative, abusive shit bag. Telling him he’s not good enough but she still loves him anyway. Isolating him from his friends. I am so grateful that he managed to avoid falling into the trap of veering from one abusive relationship to the next.

Yeah, men are good at this too, because we’re good at a lot of shitty things, as a whole we’re a pretty shitty gender. I’m cognizant of that, really truly I am. but let’s not try and forge a narrative that men have got the market cornered on manipulation. 

[feministism]

[mydogbarksatdragons]

Sapphire because it’s the September birthstone and we were both September babies, and because our anniversary is in September.

I’m still not over the fact that she said yes. I’m so outrageously lucky.

Also probably too old for tumblr since I’m gushing about my engagement.

Also I’m 29. I’m definitely too old for tumblr.

[mydogbarksatdragons]

Bryony Thorogood on Instagram: “I interrupt my usual “post where I say how much I can’t wait to be done with uni” with good news - I’m engag

21 Likes, 4 Comments - Bryony Thorogood (@thorogoodbryony) on Instagram: “I interrupt my usual “post where I say how much I can’t wait to be

Um, so Holly freaking Bourne congratulated us on our engagement.

I’m feeling unbearably smug right now.

[mydogbarksatdragons]

Yesterday I got engaged to my girlfriend of two and a half years-

and for the most part I’m happier than I could ever believe is possible. She’s a wonderful human being, and her agreeing to hang around with me for the rest of my life is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me.

But I’m also so incredibly angry.

My girlfriend’s mum was the kind of jet setting bohemian youth you imagine all those ‘not like other girls’ in bad YA fiction becoming in their late teens. She seems very irritated that B is not that kind of person. I think she’s latched onto me as a convenient excuse for this, as more than once she’s commented about how our relationship is so ‘middle aged’, completely ignoring the fact that her daughter was born just as middle aged as I was.

When B got off the phone with her mum, sharing the good news (because no, I didn’t ask her parents first, the idea of asking her parents if I’m allowed to ask B to exercise her own free will is ridiculous), B was in tears. Her mum’s first words when she was told weren’t, ‘Congratulations’ or anything like that. They were ‘So what does that mean?’.

Yes, my fiancée (fucking hell. How lucky am I!!!!) is a sensitive woman, she feels the things people say to her, and her mum knows this.

That’s bad enough.

But when we shared the news on Facebook, after the mother had had some time to digest it, she commented with (paraphrasing here as going to find the actual thing will just make me even more irate):

It was a surprise to me (with a couple of stupid emojis),

get your running shoes Sam (because she just loves a good joke at my expense, which usually I’m chill with, because that’s just who she is, but not here and not now, given the way she’s acted)

you both look so happy. (Because we’d posted a photo)

I count two lines of passive aggressive snark, to one line of niceness. And even in that she couldn’t find it in herself to say ‘congratulations.’

I don’t know if I’m overreacting here, but I’m so intensely angry at her over this. I’m having to vent here because usually I’d vent at B, but B is swallowing this with far more grace than me, and I will not try and get her angry at her own mother.

But Jesus it’s taking a lot of my already shaky self control not to message the mother about this, just to let her know I’m not tying her daughter to a stake in the ground and prematurely aging her to stop her going out clubbing and travelling the world.

I should be deliriously happy, and I am, but I’m also quietly seething.

[theoppositeofadults]

“our work should equip the next generation of women to outdo us in every field this is the legacy we’ll leave.”

[chromolume]

reblog before december 17th

[go-go-gadget-nipples]

But they’re not female presenting

[badabingbadabong-deactivated202]

It’s a lady showing you some nipples. How much more female presenting can it get?

[ratliker1917]

lol

[mydogbarksatdragons]

You know what, Tumblr? This useless woman is really growing on me... 

Because the alternatives are BoJo or Rees Mogg.  I’d take this pillok over either of them any day of the week. 

She’s still willingly driving the country off a cliff though, even though she could hit the brakes at any time. 

[traptacular-deactivated20180125]

[90svigilante-deactivated2018022]

This is so cute

[revengeofthecis]

@symphonyofchains

[saucefactory-deactivated2019103]

I LOVE THE WEDDING OFFICIANT IN THE BACKGROUND TOO HE’S SO HAPPY FOR THEM 😍😍😍😍

[kaidagreenscale]

Look at how happy they are! It’s so sweet!

[luidilovins]

He did a little twirl like an excited puppy

[mydogbarksatdragons]

I’m pretty sure this will be me in a couple years time.

[davvic]

My cat Bishop sits outside my door every morning once she hears the alarm clock go off.

[pandaflavouredcookies]

The morning murps

[breaktotheotherside]

Someone has waited HOURS to tell you all the gossip.

[thegravelbro]

this is like the cat version of the professor clip of him going “hello!” every morning the same way

[mydogbarksatdragons]

B, I want this cat. Very much. 

Or, you know, one just like it. 

[profeminist]

[bob-belcher]

[mercedesbenzodiazepine]

I’m sending him a friend request LMAO

[a-hagar]

How do you know when you fully love someone ?

It’s when the butterflies leave, and you put down the rose coloured glasses and finally see the person in front of you, with all their flaws, scars and irrational insecurities. Instead of pushing you away, all it does is draw you closer to them because your heart isn’t one any more. It beats for two, your heart bleeds when anyone or anything hurts them and leaps with joy when they feel excited. I think the purest form of love isn’t heart wrenching or painful. I think it’s feeling completely excepted by someone, it’s when they take notice of little things like your coffee order or pick up your favourite food when you’ve had a hard day. I think we all experience different forms of love, some more passionate than others but I think the purest form is simple at it’s best because it doesn’t feel heavy or take a toll on your heart. It feels warm, soft and fills you with all the comforts you crave or didn’t know you needed until that person came into your life. 

[mydogbarksatdragons]

When your batteries are drained, completely wiped, and you can’t go on, when you’re burned right the fuck out, and then you go spend time with them and you can face the world again... Note how that can be completely platonic love, also, not just romantic love.

[getshrektboi]

waterloo is stuck in my head again and honestly I couldn’t escape if I wanted to

[mydogbarksatdragons]

In other, less political news, five days ago B and I had our two year anniversary. 

Guys, she makes me so ridiculously happy, and we’re so sickeningly in love. I am so incredibly lucky that she picked me. I have the kind of relationship I thought I’d only ever have in day dreams, and I’m sharing my life with the kind of woman I wouldn’t even have had the gall to pair myself up with in said day dreams.  She’s kind, caring, funny, intelligent, supportive, and absurdly beautiful. Can’t cook though. It’s okay, I can. 

I’m incredibly lucky, and I love her very very much. 

[mydogbarksatdragons]

Just putting this here for posterity, really. Replying to arseheads on Facebook is where I do my best writing these days, it seems.