Zhaozhou's dog @mysatori - Tumblr Blog

In his book We Have Met the Enemy: Self-Control in an Age of Excess, Daniel Akst writes, “… what matters, when it comes to self-control, is not so much willpower as vision—the ability to see the future, so that the long-run consequences of our short-run choices are vividly clear. In that sense, our shortcomings in this arena are really failures of imagination.” Drenching ourselves with total awareness of the consequences is a powerful remedy for impulsiveness.

Dr. David J. Lieberman - Never Get Angry Again

#david lieberman #never get angry again

Because all the do-gooders in the world whether they’re doing good for others or doing it for themselves are troublemakers: on the basis of “kindly let me help you or you will drown,” said the monkey putting the fish safely up a tree. Sometimes doing good to others and even doing good to oneself is amazingly destructive because it’s full of conceit. How do you know what’s good for other people? How do you know what’s good for you?

- Alan Watts

#alan watts

We interpret our own mental states in much the same way as we interpret the minds of others, except that we can use as data in our own case our own visual imagery and inner speech. [...]

You seem to just hear the meaning of what I say. What rises to the surface of your mind are the results of these mental processes. That is what I mean: The inferences themselves, the actual workings of our mind, remain unconscious. All that we are aware of are their products. And my access to your mind, when I listen to you speak, is not different in any fundamental way from my access to my own mind when I am aware of my own inner speech. [...]

Moreover, if introspection were fundamentally different from reading the minds of others, one would expect there to be disorders in which only one capacity was damaged but not the other. But that’s not what we find. Autism spectrum disorders, for example, are not only associated with limited access to the thoughts of others but also with a restricted understanding of oneself. In patients with schizophrenia, the insight both into one’s own mind and that of others is distorted. There seems to be only a single mind-reading mechanism on which we depend both internally and in our social relations.

Peter Carruthers

Source: Scientific American - There Is No Such Thing as Conscious Thought

#peter carruthers

Of course one cannot make conscious what is unconscious. Nor do we need to. What we do need to pay attention to, however, is the ever-unfolding moment, because each instant of life evokes our conscious or unconscious relationship with it. All of the moments of living our lives are evoking the next insights that we either need to see, or are ready to see. We need never try to look beyond the unfolding now, only more deeply into it.

Adyashanti - "The Way of Liberating Insight" Online Course

#Adyashanti

I have found over the years of working with people, even people who have had very deep and profound awakenings, that most people have a fear of being truthful, of really being honest -- not only with others, but with themselves as well. Of course, the core of this fear is that most people know intuitively that if they were actually totally truthful and totally sincere and honest, they would no longer be able to control anybody.

Adyashanti - The End of Your World

#Adyashanti #The End of Your World

thecalminside

“When you get out of the driver’s seat, you find that life can drive itself, that actually life has always been driving itself. When you get out of the driver’s seat, it can drive itself so much easier—it can flow in ways you never imagined. Life becomes almost magical.”

Adyashanti

Ha a kapcsolat mellett is elköteleződöm, akkor, ahogy mondani szokták, lehetséges, hogy nekem van igazam, mégis igazodhatok a társamhoz. Egy kapcsolatban azt is mondhatom: “Ő nehezebb helyzetben van, mert tévedett.” [...] John Gottman nemes egyszerűséggel azt mondja: “A családban senkinek sincs igaza!”