· Insomniac Nights
─ Wanda Maximoff being unable to sleep because of her nightmares, decides to choose you out of everyone for a cuddle. You think she's joking, why would she choose you? She thinks you're cute for being so naive on her growing feelings for you.
· Breakfast In Bed (For My Queen)
─ Wanda Maximoff might have forgotten her birthday, but you surely didn't! And you were prepared to make it the best ever, because she deserved breakfast in bed (like a queen), all the love in the world, and a couple kisses, of course.
Natasha Romanoff
· Flowers Help A Girl Out
─ Natasha Romanoff, the scariest assassin, is not so scary when she's next to you, watching a movie wrapped around you. Even less scary when she's conflicted over what to gift you for your first date.
· Silly Little Headcanons
─ Wanda and Natasha's Halloween costume choices.
“Emotional abuse works like this: You are screamed at, and then, not knowing any better, you stand up for yourself. You think this is a way of being strong. You think this is a defense tactic.But this only provokes more screaming. Going silent provokes more screaming too, but usually it keeps the threats to the minimum. It keeps it just at screaming and not: a shove down the stairs, or order to pack your stuff and get out. So you learn how to go silent. How to play dead. How to cry without making a noise. How to swallow noise. How to wipe your cheeks, get out of the car, and go about your day. You learn. And when the screaming has stopped, when the two of you are in the car or out to dinner and they’re all smiles, all asking for favors, all questions, you are still hurt and annoyed and want to ask them, how? How can you speak to me like that? How can you pretend you did not say those things? How can you have forgotten? But you’ve learned. So you listen to, “Can I borrow your key”s and “how was your day”s and you play dead. You swallow the noise. And sometimes it doesn’t matter who is speaking to you, it doesn’t matter if they’re a friend, it doesn’t matter if their criticism is constructive, it doesn’t matter. You’ve learned. Any sort of speaking, any raising of the voice, any insult and you play dead.”
Headspaces: Exploring Altered States of Consciousness
BDSM headspaces refer to altered states of consciousness that can occur during BDSM play. In this guide we will explore Domspace, Subspace, Drop and Frenzy.
Domspace
Dom space is an altered state of consciousness that a Dominant person may feel during a BDSM scene. It's a state of heightened focus, control, and confidence, described as a feeling of extreme focus and determination. Some report experiencing tunnel vision and an out-of-body sensation.
Causes
Domspace can be triggered by a variety of factors. These triggers can be physical, psychological, or sensory, and they vary greatly from person to person. Here's a breakdown of common domspace triggers:
Physical Triggers:
- Appearance: The sight of a submissive kneeling, dressed in specific attire, or displaying submissive body language can be a powerful trigger.
- Props and environment: The physical environment, including lighting, props, and the overall atmosphere of the scene, can contribute to entering domspace.
Psychological Triggers:
- Rituals and phrases: Using specific phrases, rituals, or commands can trigger the mental shift into domspace.
- Submission: Observing the submissive's surrender, obedience, and reactions can reinforce the dominant's sense of control and trigger domspace.
- Mental focus and intention: Dominants can intentionally channel their energy and focus on the scene, leaving behind distractions to enter domspace.
Sensory Triggers:
- Touch, scent, and taste: Sensory stimulation, such as touch, scent, or taste, can heighten sensations and contribute to entering domspace.
- Energy: Some dominants report feeling their submissive's energy, heartbeat, or presence, which can trigger domspace.
Practising general mindfulness such as meditation can help access domspace.
Dom Drop
Dom drop is the emotional or physical exhaustion that a dominant may experience after a BDSM scene. It's a feeling of anxiety, guilt, or depression that can occur immediately after the scene or even days later.
Causes
Dom drop can be caused by various factors, including:
- Societal influence: The stigma surrounding BDSM can lead to internalized shame and guilt.
- Triggers: Past negative experiences or unresolved issues can trigger negative emotions after a scene.
- Exhaustion: The responsibility and intensity of the dominant role can lead to burnout and exhaustion.
- Chemical changes: The release of hormones during a scene can lead to a significant drop in mood afterward.
- Unmet expectations: Disappointment when the scene doesn't unfold as anticipated.
- Moral conflict: Engaging in activities at the submissive's request that conflict with personal values.
Ensuring your limits are respected and aftercare needs are met is crucial for preventing dom drop.
Dom Frenzy
Dom frenzy is a state of intense excitement and desire to dominate, often experienced by new dominants. It's characterized by a strong urge to explore new kinks and power dynamics, push boundaries, and dominate anyone who is willing. Often without proper consideration for safety or consequences.
Dom frenzy can lead to risky behavior, poor decision-making, and potentially harmful experiences for both the dominant and the submissive.
Signs
- Intense Desire: An overwhelming urge to engage in dominant activities, often without proper consideration for safety or consequences.
- Impulsivity: Acting on desires without careful planning or thought, potentially leading to risky situations.
- Lack of Boundaries: Neglecting personal limits and boundaries, potentially resulting in harm or discomfort for the submissive.
- Idealization: Viewing potential submissive partners through rose-tinted glasses, overlooking red flags or potential dangers.
- Neglect of Other Responsibilities: Prioritizing BDSM exploration over work, studies, or other important aspects of life.
- Emotional Vulnerability: Feeling easily swayed by promises or offers, potentially leading to exploitation of the submissive.
Preventing Dom Frenzy
- Learn about BDSM: Familiarize yourself with different aspects of BDSM, including various practices, safety protocols, and ethical considerations.
- Explore Resources: Utilize online forums, books, articles, and podcasts dedicated to BDSM to gain knowledge and insights.
- Understand Your Kinks: Identify your specific desires and preferences within BDSM to guide your exploration and ensure you're pursuing activities that genuinely align with your interests.
- Take Your Time: Avoid rushing into BDSM experiences. Allow yourself to learn, explore, and build a foundation of knowledge before engaging in any physical play.
- Start with Familiar Partners: If possible, begin your exploration with trusted friends or partners who understand BDSM and can provide guidance and support.
- Focus on Communication: Open and honest communication with your submissive partner is essential. Ensure you both understand each other's boundaries and desires.
- Prioritize Safety: Make sure that both you and your submissive partner are comfortable with the activities and that all safety protocols are in place.
Subspace
Sub space is an altered state of consciousness that a Submissive person may feel during a BDSM scene. It's a state of heightened focus, surrender, and trust, described as feeling light, or floaty. Some report experiencing a euphoric or a trance-like state.
Subspace can drastically affect the submissives ability to communicate and can resemble the effects of alcohol or drugs.
Causes
Entering subspace can be triggered by various factors, including the physical environment, specific clothing, phrases, rituals, and the dominant's presence and actions. Here's a breakdown of common subspace triggers:
Physical Triggers:
- Clothing: Wearing specific clothing associated with submission, such as lingerie, corsets, or uniforms, can trigger the mental shift into subspace.
- Environment: The physical environment, including lighting, props, and the overall atmosphere of the scene, can contribute to entering subspace.
- Touch: Specific types of touch, such as gentle stroking, caressing, or restraint, can trigger a sense of vulnerability and surrender.
Psychological Triggers:
- Rituals and phrases: Using specific phrases, rituals, or commands designed to evoke submission can trigger the mental shift into subspace.
- Presence: The presence of the dominant, their demeanor, and their actions can significantly influence a submissive's mental state and trigger subspace.
- Mental focus and intention: Submissives can intentionally focus on the scene, their role, and their trust in the dominant to enter subspace.
Sensory Triggers:
- Scent and taste: Specific scents or tastes associated with submission can trigger a sense of arousal and surrender.
- Music: Certain types of music can evoke specific emotions and trigger a shift into subspace.
Sub Drop
Sub drop is the emotional or physical exhaustion that a submissive may experience after a BDSM scene. It's a feeling of sadness, guilt, or depression that can occur immediately after the scene or even days later. And can last up to weeks at a time if not properly taken care of.
Causes
Sub drop can be caused by various factors, including:
- Societal influence: The stigma surrounding BDSM can lead to internalized shame and guilt, which can contribute to sub drop.
- Triggers: Past negative experiences or unresolved issues can trigger negative emotions after a scene.
- Exhaustion: Intense scenes can leave submissives physically drained, which can contribute to emotional fatigue.
- Emotional intensity: The vulnerability and surrender involved in submission can be emotionally taxing, leading to a feeling of emptiness or sadness after the scene.
- Chemical changes: The release of hormones during a scene can lead to a significant drop in mood afterward.
- Unmet expectations: Disappointment when the scene doesn't unfold as anticipated.
- Moral conflict: Engaging in activities at the dominant's request that conflict with personal values.
Ensuring your limits are respected and aftercare needs are met is crucial for preventing sub drop.
Sub Frenzy
Sub frenzy is a state of intense excitement and desire to submit, often stemming from a newfound awareness and intense curiosity about BDSM. It's characterized by a strong urge to explore new kinks and power dynamics, push boundaries, and submit to anyone who is willing. Often without proper consideration for safety or consequences.
Sub frenzy can lead to risky behavior, poor decision-making, and potentially harmful experiences for both the submissive and the dominant.
Signs
- Intense Desire: An overwhelming urge to experience BDSM, often without proper consideration for safety or consequences.
- Impulsivity: Acting on desires without careful planning or thought, potentially leading to risky situations.
- Lack of Boundaries: Neglecting personal limits and boundaries, potentially resulting in harm or discomfort.
- Idealization: Viewing potential partners through rose-tinted glasses, overlooking red flags or potential dangers.
- Neglect of Other Responsibilities: Prioritizing BDSM exploration over work, studies, or other important aspects of life.
- Emotional Vulnerability: Feeling easily swayed by promises or offers, potentially leading to exploitation.
Preventing Sub Frenzy
- Learn about BDSM: Familiarize yourself with different aspects of BDSM, including various practices, safety protocols, and ethical considerations.
- Explore Resources: Utilize online forums, books, articles, and podcasts dedicated to BDSM to gain knowledge and insights.
- Understand Your Kinks: Identify your specific desires and preferences within BDSM to guide your exploration and ensure you're pursuing activities that genuinely align with your interests.
- Take Your Time: Avoid rushing into BDSM experiences. Allow yourself to learn, explore, and build a foundation of knowledge before engaging in any physical play.
- Start with Familiar Partners: If possible, begin your exploration with trusted friends or partners who understand BDSM and can provide guidance and support.
when will i find someone that loves me like i love them?
never. no one will make their schedule around yours so they can spend every last second possible with you. no one will ever say they won’t leave you and mean it. no one will have nightmares about you leaving them. no one will ever pick you as their favorite.
Been said before but many people on social media are so bothered when actors or filmmakers do those letterboxd top 4 interviews and choose art house films and films over fifty years old and international films and act like they’re lying or something. like this may surprise you but I think a lot of people who go to work in the film industry actually love film as an art form so of course they’re going to choose movies that show this 😭 nothing wrong with ur favourite movie being spider-man 3 or whatever but to act like people r lying because their favourite is quote-unquote pretentious…ur just insecure babs
remember coming across this tiktok screenshot on twitter and getting so annoyed that i fully channelled miranda priestly in that blue versus cerulean scene from devil wears prada (2006) because:
forcing actors/filmmakers to say 90s and 2000s romcoms instead of 60s or even earlier films has to be one of the most annoying things in general because it forgets to acknowledge the fact that romcoms from before 90s and 2000s have left an impact in how romcoms are made.
for example: the film "It Happened One Night" released in 1934 became the blueprint for most of the romcom films and romcom tropes we know and love and look for in films/books/fanfictions. one such trope from the film aka the enemies-to-lovers trope was even used in 10 Things I Hate About You
there are also so many other tropes from it happened one night that are used in other romcoms and allow me to enumerate the ones i have from memory (these are just some of the tropes and there is this article that discusses more tropes and other films that used these tropes!)
fake dating/fake married (also used in The Proposal)
character is a main journalist looking for a scoop and ends up falling in love (also used in other romcoms like 13 Going On 30 and How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days)
rich x poor/working class (also used in Pretty Woman, and Crazy Rich Asians)
2. let's take it even further because It Happened One Night was not the first art form to use the enemies-to-lovers trope. it actually goes as far as Mesopotamian mythology. and William Shakespeare definitely wasn't the first, but he also basically uses this trope in his play Much Ado About Nothing released in the 1500s. and fun fact!!! 10 Things I Hate About You is a modern retelling of Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew!
my point is!!! actors and filmmakers mentioning films from the 60s or even earlier is neither pretentious nor annoying because it acknowledges how far storytelling has come. it literally tells the story of humankind and how art has always been a part of our lives and will continue to do so for many generations to come. the fact that tales and stories that hail from ancient times have survived either through writing or fragmented from word of mouth is astonishing on its own. it means that we actually do leave a mark in this world from just existing and telling stories. i hope we start to appreciate that for what it is instead of having takes like this i really do 🙏
As for the people who liked Emilia Pérez and is defending the film, please do it under any argument except 'you are racist if you don't like it'. Mexicans are hating on this movie, the cast is not even mexican, the main actress has responded to mexicans who are pointing the flaws poorly, the director unashamedly said that he didn't need to do research because he already knows enough and it hasn't even been released here in Mexico for a reason.
It won an award but that recognition is not actually for Mexico or Latin America because the movie is french.
Mexico and latam in general have great directors and actors who are doing an amazing job in Hollywood and I encourage you to go look for their films and shows if your intention is to support and learn about mexican representation.
Screeeches. You're having me choose just one????? I love all of them, but 2000s era is so me for sure. But I also love the very first episodes, black & white.
Hi! I'm good! About to watch the Emilia Perez movie that everyone keeps shitting on. Gonna see if it's really that bad 'cause I love judging movies lmao. How are you?
