I see where you're coming from, I think. To be honest, I don't think I have anything against actual otherkin.
So far the otherkin I've met are reasonable. They've said that they do understand that they're not physically some non-human creature, but instead they used to be one in a past life or something similar to that and now feel comfortable with including their past life in their current identity. If people can believe in God or multiple ones, why can't people believe in having been something else in a past life for example? I have no issue with people believing in souls and I have no issue with people believing that said souls are e.g. draconic.
However, I do see some problems in the community.
Phantom limbs are not so rare. Approximately 70% (correct me if I'm wrong) of people with an amputation experience experience this. If I'm not wrong, to have a phantom limb it's required that you no longer have a limb that you used to physically have. It in most cases includes pain. Again, I have no problem with people believing in a soul and how said soul is defined. But I don't think you can claim to have a phatom limb while having all your limbs. And if you are experiencing e.g. extreme backpain due to "wings that you used to have", maybe see a doctor for that. That pain can't be good for your currently human body.
I agree that dysphoria doesn't equal gender dysphoria. However, if you are experiencing dysphoria of any kind, seek help. I don't care is it gender dysphoria or species dysphoria. Seek help. Through that we can also gain more knowledge about the otherkin. You don't have anything to back you up medically, but if you do seek help to your issues and don't just slather the "otherkin" lable on e.g. physical pain from phantom limbs, you might have some medical backup someday.
I also disagree with the some of the otherkin community members that claim that otherkin people are oppressed. Ok, to some extent the community is going through a lot of hate, but that's from people who haven't really researched otherkin that much. However, your family and friends referring to you as human isn't oppression. They're making a factual observation about your physical body. Again, this is only to some of the community members.
Also, when it comes to factkin (as I've understood, people who claim to be reincarnations of famous/influential people) and fictionkin (people who claim to be a fictional character) I think that can become kinda problematic. Because these people and characters could be of a different gender or race and that starts to walk along the lines of something I don't believe I can respect. Also the actual people some claim to be reincarnations of might have family. Imagine going up to someone and saying "yeah, I'm actually the great grandfather that you once lost". And fictionkin is generally not very respectful to the creators of said fiction. For example, let's say you realized that you're kin to Loki from Marvel (I've seen a lot of this) after watching a Thor movie. That's just way too oddly convenient, isn't it. Just a reminder: you can relate to fictional characters, but that doesn't mean you are one. This too is directed to only some of the community members.
Not including some of the very loud community members (y'know, the ones who nearly demand others to use kin pronouns) and the others I mentioned above, I do have a fair share of respect towards you. As long as you're not appropriating anyone's culture, offending people with mental/physical illnesses or disabilities, you're cool. Keep doing you.
I also must add, that I believe Dilawar's use of the word "retarded" is ok. That kid isn't very neurotypical as far as I know. (Though I do have a lot of opinions on using "retarded" in the modern age, but I'll save that for another time.)
And thanks, by the way, for the explanation! It's nice to have informative responses once in a while. Have a nice day, draconic friend.
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