no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there itâs work. itâs not work like itâs a chore itâs jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.
And itâs also terrifying! Like itâs the kind of vulnerability you canât do while being all cool and in control of things, you have to like open up the really awkward, ugly inner part of yourself and hope that the other person is still into you.Â
Like you have to actually say - with words coming out of your mouth or hands or whatever way you use to directly communicate in person - what you would like from the other person! You have to say stuff like âhey the thing you did made me feel some ways and we have to address this like adultsâ and hope that the other person says âI see, yes I also think we should address this like adultsâ (instead of âno I didnâtâ or âyouâre overreactingâ or other shut-down-ing shit that ruins lives).Â
Worth the read my oh my
